Is going to a strip club cheating?

[GuesSAngel]

So, if you know your boyfriend loves you, why do you care if he watches porn or goes to a strip club?

umm I was just creating examples for dkwrtw as an argument. I'm married and my husband goes to strip clubs and watches porn. I go to strip clubs and watch porn...no big deal. I'm not the kind of girl to have insecurities like that

*confused* Erm... I thought you work in the sex industry and have talked openly about it on here? Have I misunderstood something here?:confused

LOL since dkwrtw doesn't know me, I was just putting that out there...didn't feel I had to actually admit it to him in this thread.

but yes peter i am in it and still going strong...until i'm old and ugly

 

[JoeCool10]

umm I was just creating examples for dkwrtw as an argument. I'm married and my husband goes to strip clubs and watches porn. I go to strip clubs and watch porn...no big deal. I'm not the kind of girl to have insecurities like that

Who said anything about insecurities?

 

[09Gold]

I have no problem with porn or strip clubs in moderation. The one club in the city near us has great pool tables, great drinks, the music's always fantastic and the women are talented dancers; I have no problem if my hubby goes without me, but I've been many times with him. Every couple has their own boundaries, as long you're respectful of each other's, it's no one's business but your own

 

[GuesSAngel]

Who said anything about insecurities?

the way you worded things, i assumed that's where you were going with it

 

[KimmyCharmeleon]

Well in the first place, I wouldn't date someone who goes to these places anyway. Most people who I go for aren't the types and don't do that sort of stuff.
Hypothetically I guess I'd want him to let me know beforehand. I'd be okay with it then. But I'd really prefer them not to do any of it.

 

[JoeCool10]

the way you worded things, i assumed that's where you were going with it

That's what happens when you assume

 

[Tangerine]

It would be different because you're not paying the random guy at the regular bar to take his clothes off, your only purpose at the strip club is to see naked bodies that you find more attractive than your partner IMO.

That part is a real stretch.

 

[GuesSAngel]

That's what happens when you assume

that's what happens when you're on a forum...you're words come across as one way

 

[Maulds]

Strip clubbin isnt cheatin...my 2 cents

 

[JanieDough]

Ok so the only reason this thread was revived was because members were posting their records, and so many of them got infractions for this thread.

just saying...

 

[Azazel]

 

[Carn]

Well I wouldn't consider going to strip clubs as cheating.
On the other hand I doubt I'd ever do that while in a relationship, something about that just doesn't feel right you know.

 

[Thornless]

Well in the first place, I wouldn't date someone who goes to these places anyway. Most people who I go for aren't the types and don't do that sort of stuff.
Hypothetically I guess I'd want him to let me know beforehand. I'd be okay with it then. But I'd really prefer them not to do any of it.

All guys look at some form of porn(videos, magazines, strip clubs, burlesque, lingere pages of Sears/Victoria's Secret, or looking at girls in public flashing a bit of boob in a low cut shirt,, just saying, it's their primal nature.

So do women,

It is not cheating unless they touch or act on it and their spose/SO doesn't know.

 

[KimmyCharmeleon]

Not all men are the same I'm afraid. That's all I'm saying.

 

[porterjack]

Not all men are the same I'm afraid. That's all I'm saying.

true that, some will cheat some wont, just going is not cheating

 

[Tuffdisc]

I realize this is a matter of opinion, but is visiting a strip club (without your significant other) considered cheating? Does it make a difference if they go without telling their partner what their plans are?

Depends if the partner allows this to happen or not, considering the fact that some blokes have two people they have sex with

 

[Thornless]

Not all men are the same I'm afraid. That's all I'm saying.

A) Everyone looks hun, some just just know how to glance and not make a big deal about it. Some don’t even realize they looked at all. It is a relex, like blinking.

B) Nothing wrong with appreciation of beauty. Just because you have a favorite flower, doesn't mean you don’t smell others.

C) I wasn't making this about you/yours, I am making a generalizated comment on men and women.

 

[KimmyCharmeleon]

I mean like, not all men are the same as in some just don't want to do it, some don't watch porn. If I were to be a practicing psychologist right now, with a client in front of me who was a male, do you think it would be right of me to stereotype him to the typical male stereotype and assume that he does all these things a 'typical man' would do? Stereotyping is just the mind's way of organising people, doesn't make it right. Just wanted to say. I think some guys would take offense to being stereotyped as this.

 

[KimmyCharmeleon]

A) Everyone looks hun, some just just know how to glance and not make a big deal about it. Some don’t even realize they looked at all. It is a relex, like blinking.

B) Nothing wrong with appreciation of beauty. Just because you have a favorite flower, doesn't mean you don’t smell others.

C) I wasn't making this about you/yours, I am making a generalizated comment on men and women.

Yeah I know what you're saying, and I don't know why people keep telling me...

I don't mind porn, I just would never date someone who goes to strip clubs, they've never fallen into my 'types' I go for if you know what I mean?

 

[porterjack]

I mean like, not all men are the same as in some just don't want to do it, some don't watch porn. If I were to be a practicing psychologist right now, with a client in front of me who was a male, do you think it would be right of me to stereotype him to the typical male stereotype and assume that he does all these things a 'typical man' would do? Stereotyping is just the mind's way of organising people, doesn't make it right. Just wanted to say. I think some guys would take offense to being stereotyped as this.

this is also true, but let us concentrate on real men not pinko pansies, that last bit was not serious (just in case)