Women, a question for you about pregnancy and birth

[AnitaBeer]

i'd have to say yes. As you really get to see what your body was created to do. There is nothing more amazing than having a life grow inside of you...and if you are lucky enough to be successful at breast feeding then you really get to appreciate why you have breasts and that special moment and bond that only you and your baby can have.

Aside from that its shit....stretch marks, fat, pain, constant worry for the rest of your life over your child and...yep, happy happy joy joy.

Nailed it!

 

[Tuffdisc]

Nailed it!

Anita, do you try tell other women how this makes them "feel their womenhood" or do you let them decide for themselves?

 

[AnitaBeer]

Anita, do you try tell other women how this makes them "feel their womenhood" or do you let them decide for themselves?

Have you ever seen me tell someone they must have a child to feel more like a woman?
Don't ask stupid questions.

It's not like we have kids simply to be able to feel more like a woman. It's just what happens when you do have children. There's a completely different feeling of being complete after having a child. That's not to say that women shouldn't feel complete, but it's also not something someone with out kids can totally understand.

 

[BornReady]

It's just what happens when you do have children.

Not if you're emotionally healthy before you have kids, IMO.

 

[AnitaBeer]

Not if you're emotionally healthy before you have kids, IMO.

That makes no sense at all.
How would you know how a woman feels when she goes through a pregnancy? Have you ever got to feel a child moving, kicking from the inside? Have you ever had to go through a delivery only to be able to forget about all the pain and work you just went through simply because of looking into your newborn childs eyes?

I'm sorry you can't personally experience what it feels like to be pregnant and feel all the changes a pregnant woman goes through, therefor you'd have no idea.

Telling someone they weren't emotionally healthy before giving birth is by far the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

Maybe my understanding of this question is different from some of you all. But to me the experience of birth added to my womanhood and no one can tell me I'm wrong just like I can't tell someone who doesn't have kids otherwise. It's a personal feeling. There's not one general answer which applies to all.

 

[redliner]

Not if you're emotionally healthy before you have kids, IMO.

What do you know anyways ? Your a man. This thread is for a womans perspective is it not ? I understand the question I think. My wife would answear that she feels more like a woman now that she has childeren. Not because she wasn't before she gave birth. In her opinion she feels differently about things now. Becoming a mother changes most woman.

 

[BornReady]

Telling someone they weren't emotionally healthy before giving birth is by far the dumbest thing I've ever heard.

Look at it this way. If a child completes you then you were incomplete before you had the child. That's what I was trying to say.

What do you know anyways ? Your a man. This thread is for a womans perspective is it not ? I understand the question I think.

lol The pot calling the kettle black.

 

[redliner]

Read the rest ya putz ! I gave my wifes perspective !

 

[BornReady]

Read the rest ya putz ! I gave my wifes perspective !

I know women who were complete before having children, my wife being one of them.

 

[redliner]

Congrats that is great she is complete. Did she get a certificate when she met you ? Everyone is different.

 

[BornReady]

Everyone is different.

Yep, that's my point. Some women don't need to have children to "feel their womanhood." To say otherwise, is demeaning to women. Not that children aren't great. My wife and I have four. But my wife didn't feel any more like a woman after than before. Some women may.

 

[Panacea]

As someone said before, motherhood doesn't make you more of a woman, it makes you a mother. It's a different type of woman, not more nor less that those who are not mothers. Simple.

 

[BornReady]

As someone said before, motherhood doesn't make you more of a woman, it makes you a mother. It's a different type of woman, not more nor less that those who are not mothers. Simple.

:thumbup

Asking someone if they find fulfillment in parenthood is a much better question than if giving birth makes you feel more like a woman. Glorifying pregnancy and birth as bringing on true womanhood is demeaning to women, IMO. Even rabbits can push out babies. In fact, they do it better than women. But parenting is another story. It's one of the things that separates humans from other animals. No other species invests as much time and energy into nurturing their young as humans. I am a nurturing father. That is something I take pride in.

To you men and women who have chosen not to be parents, that is perfectly fine. There are many ways to find fulfillment in life. Children are just one of them.