Woman Finds Boyfriends Porn Stash - kills him

[COOL_BREEZE2]

I agree, and the key word here is STASH. If you're stashing something away from your spouse, then there' issues that need to be dealt with, and it's not the porn. A spouse could be stashing, tranny clothes, an addiction to meth, or in donnie's case a propensity to shove strange objects up one's anus.

It's the stashing that's the real issue, not the porn as such. If you have porn at the crib, as long as it's not illegal (underage, snuff), then be open about it and it shouldn't cause a ruckus. Get it out there...:cool

But the hiding is the issue.

I think I agree with everything you said there GP. The hiding is not such a good thing although I guess men would do it because they know the wife wouldn't take kindly to it.

Here's the thing. Let's be frank. Men (or most men) love porn. It's something we fantasize about from young and like to see long as we get the chance. Call it curiosity, hormones or whatever. I dare say there's hardly a man that can say they haven't indulged and/or have had their lil "stash" at some point or another. Hell we even boast and joke about it amongst our peers.

I think it's more a man thing than a woman thing. IMO most women don't care too much for it or want to have their boyfriend or husband having or looking at it in their presence or otherwise. They think it's "nasty" and may encourage the man to cheat or think less of them (or maybe jealousy comes into play) while the man would think nothing of it.

It might be all well and good for a single man to indulge and/or have his "stash" but once you are in a live-in situation things change and you have to consider the woman's feelings that if it makes her uncomfortable it's no longer ok as invariably it would cause problems in the relationship unless it's cool with both. I would hazard a guess that it hardly ever is ok with most women.

 

[GraceAbounds]

I agree, and the key word here is STASH. If you're stashing something away from your spouse, then there' issues that need to be dealt with, and it's not the porn. A spouse could be stashing, tranny clothes, an addiction to meth, or in donnie's case a propensity to shove strange objects up one's anus.

It's the stashing that's the real issue, not the porn as such. If you have porn at the crib, as long as it's not illegal (underage, snuff), then be open about it and it shouldn't cause a ruckus. Get it out there...:cool

But the hiding is the issue.

Great post GP. So true.

 

[GraceAbounds]

You mean you never, ever look at another man in that way other than your husband? You must have a hell of a lot more dicipline and self control than everyone I know. Personally I think look but don't touch applies. Besides if I was worried about my wife thinking about another man while we're having sex, I think that would be a sure sign that I have serious self confidence and jealousy issues!

It is not about self confidence or jealousy. It is about respect.

And no I can't say that I never look at another man in 'that' way. I'm human. But I do not purposely look at other men 'that' way. And if I catch my mind going in that direction, I put a stop to it.

There is nothing wrong with appreciating how handsome someone may look, but if I were to start undressing them with my eyes and imaging myself having sex with them, reducing them to a sexual object of my lusting desire - that IMO would be wrong and disrespectful to myself and to my spouse and to the commitment we made to each other before God. I promised myself to him - heart, mind, body, and soul - thought, word, and deed.

Those are our values and it works for us.

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

Mad respect for your values there Grace. Kudos.

 

[GraceAbounds]

Well, thanks Cool Breeze. It is nice that someone understands what I am saying here. I appreciate that more than you know.

So yeah, that is the 'value bar' we set for ourselves. Rest assured we don't attain it all the time.

But in life I'd rather aim high and miss, then aim low.

 

[groundpounder]

But in life I'd rather aim high and miss, then aim low.

Beautiful, gracie. Just beautiful :clap

 

[skyblue]

i haven't watched porn for years

 

[NightWarrior]

Hell, if I was married to that fugly chick, I'd have a stash of porn in a 9x12 storage unit!

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

Hell, if I was married to that fugly chick, I'd have a stash of porn in a 9x12 storage unit!

------->LOL.