Why am I friends with this person?

[AUFred]

Ever asked yourself that question. I knew a couple in college who caused me to ask that question. I knew the girl from high school and met the guy at college.

She came to me after taking a bottle of tylenol to ask me if she was going to die. I had to take the distributor cap off her car to keep her from driving when she could not even walk because she was so drunk.

He came to my dorm room one night and attempted to kick my butt. He was blind and about destroyed the place swinging his cane at me. He accused me of having an affair with his girlfriend who I mentioned above. I can honestly say it never crossed my mind to be more than a friend to her.

I was friends with both but honestly questioned why.

 

[Panacea]

Yes, lately...I'm in school with a really mean girl, I seem to always draw mean girls. She constantly tries to crush people's spirits, be competitive, always being negative or "brutally honest" when it's none of her business. I want to like her but she's not nice. Not who I want to be, or how I want to be treated.

 

[Mercury]

Oh yeah! Know that one for sure!

Sometimes I wonder if people remain friends with such types because they feel "trapped" and unable to remove themselves from such friendships. Pretty sure that was how I felt.

 

[HK]

I had a male friend once who I no longer talk to. He was good friends with my ex, and him and his girlfriend split up not long after we did. My ex helped his ex move out of their house. I then got a call in the middle of the night from this friend, completely hammered, trying to convince me that they'd been having an affair.


And then he tried to reason with me that WE should have sex to get back at them

 

[satinbutterfly]

Whenever I start to question a friendship of mine I don't usually remain friends with them long after. I'm much happier when I don't have people in my life who detract more than they add to it.

 

[NoDak]

Whenever I start to question a friendship of mine I don't usually remain friends with them long after. I'm much happier when I don't have people in my life who detract more than they add to it.

+1 Good thought!

 

[dancingpotato]

I have "friends" who I no longer see. They literally only ever speak to me if I post anything on facebook. Given that I forget I have a facebook account gives you an indication on how often that is.

 

[KLD1019]

there's this one girl. when we met 6 years ago, we hit it off pretty good. hung out, had get togethers, had girls nights with a few drinks, had all kinds of fun! and then all of a sudden she's hard core 200% christian! every.single.fb post is like 2 paragraphs long about jesus and god and a scripture. i have no problem with anyone being a christian or whatever, but she's taken it to the extreme. her recent post was "time to clean out my friends list. people using cuss words just goes to show how much they're begging for Jesus to be in their life!" WTF!? thats just too much for me! if i wanted a sermon, id go to church! if i wanted to read scripture, id buy a bible.

 

[36gamer]

I am pretty picky choosey with my friends. I mean I am nice to everyone and have lots of acquaintances, but when it comes to people who I choose to spend my time with I am pretty picky. So no, this has never happened to me. Probably will sometime in my life though. If I don't like someone I just don't hang out with them. I will still treat them kindly and with respect, but that doesn't mean I am going to willingly be around them.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

I asked myself "Why am I friends with this person" a year ago. I was just friends with a girl who expected me to hear all her problems and deal with her psychiatric issues when she wouldn't do anything to help herself.

Hence, I ended the friendship. She's basically a nice girl, and I wish her the best luck.

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

It's one thing to ask why you're friends with someone if it's not a healthy friendship.

It's another thing to ask yourself why your friends with him/her and then actually end the friendship if it's no good for you.

 

[NoDak]

Sometimes ( I almost think it's a dynamic in my town), I ask why I'm friends with anybody. Seems that no matter how many times you go out of your way to help them out, they never seem to have time to reciprocate.
Maybe my definition of friendship is a little too demanding for people. I dunno. :cool

 

[acctnt shan]

Sometimes ( I almost think it's a dynamic in my town), I ask why I'm friends with anybody. Seems that no matter how many times you go out of your way to help them out, they never seem to have time to reciprocate.
Maybe my definition of friendship is a little too demanding for people. I dunno. :cool

I feel this same way, too. I feel like there have been several people in my life that I considered really good friends, and would (and often did) go out of my way to show that I cared about them or was willing to help them, and then felt like I was let down quite a bit by them. The only person I allow myself to be 100% open with is my BF. It gets lonely sometimes, but it sure beats getting hurt by someone you thought was a friend.

 

[Panacea]

I work with a girl who is really a good person. She loaned me her DSM, she's always supportive, she talks as much as she listens, she's considerate...I just really appreciate being around someone like that. She's not perfect, no, and we're not bffs but it's easy to lose faith in humanity lol.

I hope I get the guts to tell her some of those things before she leaves. Just...afraid to sound like a creeper, but good people should be praised!