When does it stop hurting so much?

[moonshot]

I broke up with my girlfriend (we were together for two years) 6 days ago and it's a little more than I can bear. I feel lost...can't eat, can't sleep and can't stop crying. (Boy, did I have to swallow my male pride to admit the crying part.) I've broken up with her twice only to take her back but I have to stick to this somehow. I can't be in a relationship with someone who lies to me on a regular basis. I'm far from perfect but the one thing she could always count on from me was honesty.




PS: Don't tell me to go get drunk. I tried that this weekend and it SO made it worse.

 

[Veronica]

Ive been pretty hurt for the last 4 months........
bad feeling doesnt go away if you truely love that person.

 

[memento_mori]

yeah crying is a bit on the girly side. you must have a lot of anxiety over this. the sting is still new at 6days old, if it doesn't go away in a couple weeks i'd say you have a problem letting go. i got dumped 4 months ago and i think i'm starting to see the light. try to keep your head up, remember why you left her, remember you left her and not the way around, keep yourself occupied, don't get too worked up over it, and above all, listen to radiohead.

 

[dt3]

It took me almost a year......but I went the alcohol route, hope you find a better way

 

[Magic P]

Oh baby, take one day at a time and you will get through it. Crying is good for you, it makes you let go of the anger and relaxes you. I slept with losa ppl after my last breakup. It made me sick eventually so I don't recommend that to anyone. Go see a counsellor if you find it hard. Make sure you don't contact her cuz it will only make it hard to get over her.

 

[drb]

be strong kiddo, that which does not lill us makes us stronger, right?

 

[drb]

time helps and so do good friends, my only real bit of advice is to experience it. i ususally make the mistake of holding it all in so i can deal with it later when it doesn't hurt so bad but it never works that way. i end up more broken then before. it really does go away at some point, it does get better.

 

[Boomer]

Also, take your time before you get into a relationship. I think most people rush into something before they even begin to know the person they are making a commitment to. Once you mend your broken heart, find you a lady friend that you can hang out with. You would be surprised how much love can grow if you give it room to.

 

[raubin]

Also, take your time before you get into a relationship. I think most people rush into something before they even begin to know the person they are making a commitment to. Once you mend your broken heart, find you a lady friend that you can hang out with. You would be surprised how much love can grow if you give it room to.

Well said, I can't say that I have ever had the pain of splitting up from a long term relationship as I have been with my old woman for 6 years and it was my first REAL relationship. I did have one at school, but that's school.

You do need to be round your mates, the best ones are the ones without women as well.

Get out there and try to enjoy yourself.

 

[All Else Failed]

I broke up with my girlfriend (we were together for two years) 6 days ago and it's a little more than I can bear. I feel lost...can't eat, can't sleep and can't stop crying. (Boy, did I have to swallow my male pride to admit the crying part.) I've broken up with her twice only to take her back but I have to stick to this somehow. I can't be in a relationship with someone who lies to me on a regular basis. I'm far from perfect but the one thing she could always count on from me was honesty.




PS: Don't tell me to go get drunk. I tried that this weekend and it SO made it worse.

It should have been a hint to you about breaking up with her in the first place.

If she constantly lied to you, you did yourself a favor by getting rid of her ass.

 

[AUDRAA]

I really dont think there is anything wrong with a man crying about a relationship that didnt work, you were with her for 2 years and obviously had deep feelings for her and are hurt by the fact that all that youve hoped for and planned for in the future with this person has now come to an end. The advice to stay away is right though, it only makes it harder, there are going to be many times that you forget the reason why you left, and focus on only the good things about that relationship that were. That is normal, but remember those are just memories and the sad thing is its not reality. Good luck, breaking up sucks Im also going throug the same thing unfortunatly its on a larger scale than you. Im here if you ever want to shoot me a pm and talk.
Hang out here, these are a great bunch of people who willl support you when you need it, and give you something to occupy your time when you are feelng down.

 

[All Else Failed]

Yeah, theres nothing wrong with crying. The macho attitude against it is stupid.

 

[Boomer]

I cry while during movies dood. There you go, now we are pansies together.:tongue:

 

[GraceAbounds]

I don't know you, so I will not offer advice. I just wanted to say that I pray the pain you are feeling will get easier for you and that you will be able to keep your head about yourself as you go through this difficult time. This too shall pass. It will. Hold on and have faith.
Fondly,
Grace

 

[sundvlfn88]

Go and enjoy yourself. Time will heal the pain. That someone is out there for you, who will be honest and accept you for who you are and you will do the same. Time is the key word.

 

[CRZY72004]

Everything happens for a reason take this a learning experence as what to watch out for also when you do find that new someone special cause there is a soul mate for you out there don't take it out on her cause it will put tension on the new love. Keep your head up high remember karma

 

[SilentEyz]

*enters the Cynical*


Wounds dont always heal, But they can get easier to live with, Time does heal in the Sense that everyday does get a little easier to accept, For some people it can be weeks, for some it can be months, and for some, years, You cant force yourself to stop hurting and stop feeling.

But there does come a day when you will be able to think of her, and realize the pain of doing so, is not as bad as it was the day before, and that is the beginning.

Hopefully for you there will be other women in your life, but only you will be able to decide how far you want to take each relationship, and when your pain is buried deep enough, then you will move forward as though that part of you meant very little. ( even though its not true)

Honestly, Be patient and take everyday forward, Dont try to force your pain away, it never works and it only comes back harder, Just know that one day.. soon or far, It will be easier.

 

[Peter Parka]

Nothing wrong with crying, been there and it hurt likes fuck, even if she was a lying bitch! (story of my life!) Just try and be strong, don't wallow in self pity and get out there and do what you want to do. You will then attract women who love you for you. It takes time to get over but be a fighter! Go, dude!

 

[moonshot]

Ive been pretty hurt for the last 4 months........
bad feeling doesnt go away if you truely love that person.

*gives you a big hug because you probably need one*

 

[moonshot]

yeah crying is a bit on the girly side. you must have a lot of anxiety over this. the sting is still new at 6days old, if it doesn't go away in a couple weeks i'd say you have a problem letting go. i got dumped 4 months ago and i think i'm starting to see the light. try to keep your head up, remember why you left her, remember you left her and not the way around, keep yourself occupied, don't get too worked up over it, and above all, listen to radiohead.

I listened to Radiohead last night. I swear!