What makes it work?

[Sim]

Those of you in relationships, and those with past ones, what made them work? What made them fail, if they did? What is it that you hope to gain by continuing one, or by dismissing one?

I'm just curious as to what everyone's opinions are. I'll post mine when I'm through going around the forum. *smiles*

 

[TheOriginalJames]

*sighs*


*turns around and leaves thread*

 

[lemon]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

*sighs*


*turns around and leaves thread*

 

[Veronica]

Me and joe MAKE it work LOL. It takes communication and alot of hard work. Not to mention he has to deal w/ my bitchy side. LOL

We always said that noone can deal w. each others shit, so we might as well stay together. LOL

 

[Sim]

lol V! That's what my ex and I used to say...we were literally T-n-T (our uniform store is named such), and it is true that dynamite will eventually blow up, because we lasted nearly 11 years before I could no longer handle dealing with all the lies.

My current relationship has worked for close to 18 months because of our utmost trust and our honesty with one another. There are no secrets which we keep, and that makes everything so much smoother. I know couples who are always turning around saying, "Now don't tell so-and-so, but..." It makes me want to pull my hair out and scream.

I went through hell a lot of times in my life. My past track record with men almost kept me from being with anyone else...but I'm glad I decided that I wouldn't allow the past to irk me or to control my decisions, because I now have a very loving partner, and am quite lucky to have found him.

*swoons*

 

[Mrs Behavin]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

Me and joe MAKE it work LOL. It takes communication and alot of hard work. Not to mention he has to deal w/ my bitchy side. LOL

We always said that noone can deal w. each others shit, so we might as well stay together. LOL

:rofl :rofl That is so what we tell each other ALL the time! Honest to goodness!!
We have learned to deal with what the other likes to do (hobbies and things) and gives each other space.
We have been thru soooo much in the past together that we just know that if we made it thru all the other stuff, then by god, we know we can make it! Dont get me wrong, we argue and fight like nobodys business but we have both told each other numerous times that we dont know what we would do without each other.
We just have to be able to put each others need first sometimes as well.

 

[Tazzy]

Hum V well maybe that works for you and Joe just figureing you have to stay together cause no one else will have you :dunno :dunno .... I was told that by the ASS HOLE and it hurts especially when some tells you no one willl have you but them and no one can put up with your SHIT ..... It took me 3 years to get over what he did to me ..... And even now i have low self esteem due to that when i look in a mirror i see some one gross and some one no one will have :dunno :dunno ........... Mental abuse can have a bad effect and leave scars that never seem to go away .....



* But i figure your situation isnt that bad ... and Sim Hun you are lucky .. Like me being in a bad sitaution from the time i was 16 till 23 those are your fun years but i didnt get to have those ..... and now some times i feel like i got cheated .........I guess thats why for me realtionshships have never been good and im not sure ever will :dunno :dunno

 

[same ole shit]

I don't think there is any 1 formula.........but I think first the person has to be easy on the eyes til you REALLY get to know them..might sound a lil sallow but it has worked for me....because as we all know beauty does fade but if your long-long term then you really know the person.. also I think having some " me" time helps keep it fresh...coarse we all know it's alot of work and give and take

 

[Sim]

Tazzy...if you honestly think I had a "fun" time throughout my later teen years and into my early 20's, then you obviously never bothered to read the really long post I made about my past.

You have to get over it all. So what if the guy told you his personal opinion? That isn't the opinion of everyone. Get over it and move on with your life. Rather than sitting online, sign up with a local YMCA or something to take a class to better your social skills and find a few friends. Volunteer at nursing homes. Volunteer to work with those who are less fortunate than yourself. Do SOMETHING to get yourself back out of the room that you sit in online for hours at a time, posting to forums with people you'll very rarely see in person.

You need to get out and interact with people...not hide behind a machine. Do something for yourself for a change...live your life, don't sit there and die whining.

 

[Rusteh]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

*sighs*


*turns around and leaves thread*

 

[Veronica]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

lol V! That's what my ex and I used to say...we were literally T-n-T (our uniform store is named such), and it is true that dynamite will eventually blow up, because we lasted nearly 11 years before I could no longer handle dealing with all the lies.

My current relationship has worked for close to 18 months because of our utmost trust and our honesty with one another. There are no secrets which we keep, and that makes everything so much smoother. I know couples who are always turning around saying, "Now don't tell so-and-so, but..." It makes me want to pull my hair out and scream.

I went through hell a lot of times in my life. My past track record with men almost kept me from being with anyone else...but I'm glad I decided that I wouldn't allow the past to irk me or to control my decisions, because I now have a very loving partner, and am quite lucky to have found him.

*swoons*

LOL, we dont lie to each other. (well I dont lie to him. LOL) There aint nooo telling what he does LOL : )

 

[Kungfu]

I am starting to come to the conclusion that communication sometimes is just not enough...

 

[StangMang]

sex, drugs and rock & roll

 

[lemon]

heres my thought on a few posts:

stangmang... mang, you left a few out: mustang gt convertible, communication, drinks, walks on the beach, fine dine-ing, a rose for no apparent reason - except just becuase, et cetera

tazzy... who gives a fuck about what that moron said? there is only one true opinion that counts in this world and any others beyond it:

YOURS

sure, i read that you have gone through a bad time. but realize, thats the past. sure, you've prolly heard it from billions of people by now... but, it appears ( dont hate me ) that it hasnt sunk in. take sim's advice: get out, party like theres no tomorrow, meet some new people. but dont forget the past. just use it to your advantage ( if you see some signs that a relationship might go to shit, and you dont think you can help it not got to shit, get out, and try again ). dont use it as an excuse to shy away from people.

same ole shit: your probably right. every couple is different. so there is no generic formula. easy on the eyes is good for the beginning, but its not all.

















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-lemon, saying shit that he has no experience in since 2000.

 

[Sim]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

Lemon, I send you 110% of my respect and gratitude for saying this. *smiles*

tazzy... who gives a fuck about what that moron said? there is only one true opinion that counts in this world and any others beyond it:

YOURS

sure, i read that you have gone through a bad time. but realize, thats the past. sure, you've prolly heard it from billions of people by now... but, it appears ( dont hate me ) that it hasnt sunk in. take sim's advice: get out, party like theres no tomorrow, meet some new people. but dont forget the past. just use it to your advantage ( if you see some signs that a relationship might go to shit, and you dont think you can help it not got to shit, get out, and try again ). dont use it as an excuse to shy away from people.

 

[Tazzy]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

I am starting to come to the conclusion that communication sometimes is just not enough...

Its alot of work ,respect and compromize ,,,, with those 3 items i dont see how it can work any work ..... I atleast know these things :dunno :dunno

 

[Sim]

Tazzy...are you even reading the parts of this thread that are directed at you, or are you ignoring them?

Just curious.

 

[same ole shit]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

sex, drugs and rock & roll

<<<< it could work :rock

 

[Tazzy]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

Tazzy...are you even reading the parts of this thread that are directed at you, or are you ignoring them?

Just curious.

Sorry Sim .........and what i was meaning by your lucky is talking about now ...You have a good guy who your crazy about and hes crazy about you ( not about your past youve gotten over that ) aned thats what i meant by lucky :dunno :dunno

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Re: RE: What makes it work?

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-lemon, saying shit that he has no experience in since 2000.

LMAO!!! That was fuckin great Lemon, and you're DEAD ON with what you said too. Major props to how grown up you are for 19 years old.