What is UP with my kid???????

[wednesday]

Um Sophie...please.Try not to take offense @ peoples views and opinions...this sort of thing happens when you lay your life bare for people to read an judge.

We do not know your personal details...we do not live your life..none of us can judge. we go on what is written, and sometimes typing doesnt allow for sensitivity .

PLease....we all mean well..well most of us lol. And wish nothing more than for your daughter to be fine xxxx

 

[sophie]

Sorry...I'm just all raw nerves right now. I'm stressed out and not sleeping and freaking out and I read SRC's post as accusatory. It probably wasn't, but that's how I read it. And now, I really need to get Soleil up lest we be late.

 

[wednesday]

I understand... but please try not to worry of others opinions...i know its hard, buti guess when you decide to write posts about such personal things to you...you have to appreciate others views??

Now go get that lil girl sorted xxxxxxx

 

[wednesday]

Whats plox??

 

[Haus]

i dont k now but looking up under urban dictionary it says this

a word used by gaming fags to say plz except its longer and makes you look like an idiot when you say it.

 

[Haus]

so slang for please i guess

 

[SouthOfHeaven]

maybe its the same person? *shrugs*

 

[Natasha]

Wow...that's awful. It's bad enough when I hear about teenagers and adults that do this, but a 6 year old child!?!?!? It sounds like you are doing everything right, though, by getting her help for whatever is causing her to do this as well as hiding whatever sharp objects you can. I will say this...I have a friend that's a cutter and she is VERY sneaky about hiding her razors. A common misconception is that cutters are trying to commit suicide. I myself have never been a cutter and have never fully understood it...but my understanding is that it's about releasing physical pain to cope w/ emotional pain.

 

[wednesday]

um....? what?

 

[Keight]

pl0x?

Nerd.....

 

[Omlette]

Sophie, stop beating yourself up over this. It's not your fault. Something is wrong, yes, but you couldn't have done anything differently. Now you're doing the best you can to get this sorted out.
I tend to agree with the others too, that something must have happened to your daughter. Such a radical change in behavior like that is not natural. Don't give up. You'll get this figured out! *Hugs*

 

[pink]

I am sorry to hear about this. I hope the psychiatrist can get her the help she needs. Hopefully since she is still young the can find the cause fairly quick.

 

[sophie]

Thanks for all the support in here, you guys. I've been shite at being here lately, just been way too busy. The world has kind of been crumbling around me.

Here's the latest on Soleil:

She has completely stopped talking, going on a couple days now. But, she has lost her anger toward me. She hugs me and holds my hand and brushes my hair (and lets me brush hers). She cuddles with me on the lounge. So she is a little better in the sense that she has stopped cutting herself and is no longer violently angry with me, she just doesn't say anything. Frustrating to feel so helpless.

On the recommendation of her psychiatrist, she has an appointment tomorrow to check 'down there' for any scarring or trauma that might indicate a sexual assault or something of that horrible nature. I am hoping on hope that it comes up negative, because I honestly don't know how i could ever forgive myself if it did show something.

Meantime, anything she could possibly injure herself with has been locked up tight and we are continuing to see the psychiatrist twice weekly and basically just spending every possible second with Soleil that I can.

 

[wednesday]

*hugs* Bless...my thoughts are with you both xxx

 

[Anie]

Sorry to hear all of that happening in your life, I truly hope it does get better for you. You're doing the best you can as a parent, also showing your child all the love she deserves. It's not your fault or the child's, something happened and it may be difficult to figure it out but I really hope there's healing from everything.

 

[Keight]

Makes sense! " :24: "

unlike your posts?





Put down the meds and step away...... mmmmk :ninja

 

[pink]

:smiley31: Hope it all works out

 

[JosephGabriel]

I know a little about child psychology as I studied it a while ago. For a child to have a sudden change of personality or temprement like that something severe must have happened.

The best thing you can do is try very hard to put your own emotions to one side for a while. Try to think how a 6 year old would think. Take her somewhere comfortable that she can enjoy and relax. Try not to appear too mothery to her and try to be more like a friend would be.

Don't press the issue with her. Just try to ask indirect questions and let her start opening up to you. If you do in the right environment then she will eventually tell you.

Think if there's been any changes in your household or family around the time of her mood change, that could be linked to it.

Remember children don't see the world the way that adults do.

All you can do is make her feel secure, as I'm sure you already do. Don't get frustrated with her. Try not to give her any negative attention when she does things you consider bad. Ignore the bad things and over-praise the good things. Some children often act-up or misbehave for attention so you have to make them realise that they will get no attention when they do bad things but get lots of positive attention when they do good things.

All-in-all, trust your instincts and persevere, there's no quick-fix. Just try not to get angry and be a friend to her. Eventually she should open up.

Hope some of that helps

 

[sophie]

Update, for those who were/are interested in hearing.

Somebody hurt my little girl, though I have absolutely no idea who. She won't say. Back in November she had a gynaecological examination and there was scarring and tearing which means that someone hurt her.

We moved homes in January to a new area of the city and have basically re-created our lives. She goes to a new school and we don't really see anyone we used to see. It just didn't seem safe anymore, especially not knowing who it was that hurt her. She hasn't really made any friends at her new school, but as she is getting more talkative and closer to her "old self", she is making progress in that area as well.

She continues to see a psychiatrist once a week and right now we share a bedroom, even though our home has two, because it makes her feel better to have me close I suppose. She is talking again, and is coming out of her shell. She hasn't made any attempt to hurt herself again but to be safe, I have basically baby proofed our home.

I really wish I knew who it was that hurt my baby girl, because I swear I would tear them limb from limb. I've joined a group in the city for parents of children who have been sexually assaulted and it is the most surreal thing I have ever been to.

Long story short, though it wasn't the news I was hoping to hear, I'm glad that I know the truth about what was going on with Soleil, and that she is able to get help with dealing with everything that's happening. She smiles and laughs now, which has been a long time coming. She's going to heal and move on ultimately, and right now I am doing everything that can possibly be done to ensure that she is traumatised as little as possible by it all. She's doing well, and will continue to do so.

 

[Staci]

wow. im glad that things are getting better between you and your daughter. i am so sorry for what you found out. you are doing the best that you can for the both of yall. stay in the counseling and the groups. only time can really heal.