What do you do when you don't get along with your family?

[jazzalazz]

Not to go into too much detail, but my family has done some bad stuff in the past (drugs, for example) and now that I am an adult, if/when I have children in the future, I do not want my children to have a relationship with my parents. Is this rational?

 

[ReadmeByAmy]

I do get along well with my family and I am lucky up to now all of my siblings even we had our own family we are still close and intact with my parents. With regards to what you said, for me they are still your family and everybody deserves a second chance to change their way of life. You will never know in the future your family will be the one to help you. I think by the time you will have children they deserves the right to know who are their grandparents. After all they are still your parents and without them you will not be born in this world.. This is just my own point of view about this matter

 

[SS42A]

While the solidarity of the family is important, there are extreme situations where living separately and physically apart from each other is a more viable alternative. As you get older, you will realize that you will have to be physically and morally independent from your parents if you are to achieve personal goals.

 

[Boomerang]

When you say they did bad stuff in the past, are they still doing those bad things? If so, I say it is your right and responsibility to keep your kids away from that. However, everyone makes mistakes. I don't know if I would write them off for something that they did in the past.

 

[Josie]

My way of seeing things; if I would have been given the choice of who my family was, would I have chosen who I ended up with? Anyone can reproduce (barring medical issues of course), but not everyone should. There is no reason to add stress to you or your family just because you happen to share blood with someone. It's not my place to say whether your reasons are valid or not, but if you can't be happy around them and you know they would be a bad influence on your children, then I'm wondering why blood overrides that. It certainly doesn't in my house. Those who don't add to our lives, aren't a part of our lives. We aren't here a long time; might as well live it as drama free as possible.