To Marry Someone You're Not Even In Love With

[Natasha]

Some think that since they haven't found the right person to marry that they never will.

For some of us it takes longer to find the right person. I'm 35 and never been married...but I'm in no rush. Sure, I want to find the man of my dreams and settle down...who doesn't??? But I'm not worried about any stigma of not being married at my age. Better single at 35 than thrice divorced at 35, LMFAO

 

[MainerMikeBrown]

Meeting the person of my dreams is not high on my priority list either. As a matter of fact, I'm a little afraid to meet women because I don't want to run the risk of settling down, as there's a lot of things I want to do with my life.

 

[pandandesign]

I wonder why marry someone you aren't even in love with...I have heard a lot of people marrying someone they aren't even in love with. I believe they get tired of each other or they no long love each other due to a lot of factors. However, I wouldn't marry someone if I don't love that person. I think it's quite strange because this kind of marriage won't last.

 

[Denis Hard]

That's why most marriages fail. Once the parties involved realize they've been deceiving each other, things start going downhill. Do you know why arranged marriages could work? Because those who got in knew they didn't love each other. Their union was to fulfill an obligation: to raise a family. The process of raising a family made buddies out of two strangers and in the end the couple got to be in love. These days people want to fall in love first then get married. It doesn't work that way. Love grows. Slowly.

 

[caparica007]

I think first comes passion and then love, grows like a plant like Denis says. Other than that I don't see how a relationship can last, if emotions aren't involved there's no sense in a relationship, it would be what, a business relation?

 

[writeletters]

I'm sure that kind of things happen very often. It could be via arranged marriage by parents, or by someone who just wants to marry for wealth. It's actually more common than you'd think. It's hard to marry someone you don't completely love, though.

 

[Lizbeth19ph]

Yes, there are still many cases nowadays of marrying someone one is not even in love with and one main reason could be just via a fixed marriage thing set up by both of the families of the man and the woman involved. Affluent families still practice this thing and hands them down to their descendants. I believe though that one must marry because of love and not just because of money or what for it is a lifetime commitment and not just a piece of paper.

 

[Cory]

This for sure happens everyday, I don't think it's so much that they need someone by their side as it's that they feel like they need or should marry them. It may be because they have a child together, military, money, or because they feel pressured to get married. Whatever the reason it's never a good thing and often causes the couple to become divorced.

 

[MyDigitalpoint]

I grew up hearing stories about women who married just because marriage was their ultimate resource to leave their parents' home, so no love involved and too much sad stories of failure to say the least that may happen when someone marry without being in love.

Back on my memories, overtime I found myself in love with a man that was far from parents' expectations, because they wanted a charming prince that was very far from being the man that stole my heart. In fact that man was also far from my own expectations, but heart doesn't understand any preconceived that anyone can hold about his or her soul mate.

When I finally realized that I was certainly in love with a man that my parents would never accept, life at home was turned into a living hell and, for an unknown reason, that man went away one fine day. Everything points someone on my family's side did something to scare him away.

However, knowing that marry could be the exit door to all those family problems and gloomy days, simply I could not start a relationship with another man because my heart was unable to love any other man.

Now I happy that my heart worked that way, because definitely marrying without being in love is probably the biggest mistake that someone could make.

 

[mauricioq]

I guess that somewhere in the world, there will be people doing it, but that's just nonsense.
Marriage is the union between two people who are meant to be forever together (?), if you're not sure of that, you don't want to be married to be honest.

 

[KellyValentine]

This is crazy because two people I know recently have gotten married in the last month. The first was one is pne my exes who for some reason was still trying to talk to me and I'm like your engaged and getting married wth? Then the other person is a male friend and at his wedding reception no lie he was telling me to give messages to someone who he used to mess around with. I just don't get it. If you have doubts just don't do it.

 

[SueA555]

I've been married a couple of times. I always thought that I was in love at the time. First time I was just too young and immature. Second time married a man with tons of emotional problems. I did have a daughter with him, and I've never regretted that. I don't think I would get married again.

 

[Minormc]

Yes I do think people marry just because they don't want to be alone. If they will marry for money, kids or more I am so sure they will marry so that they want be alone. People get married for a lot of wrong reasons. Even so someone can stay in the states.

 

[mansawalta]

It is possible to marry someone you are not in love with. In most of the Arab nations this is the case and it turns out that they have a lower divorce rate than in countries where you are allowed to pick and choose whatever you want. Relationships are tricky in nature and i feel that people need to be mature about them and value the people that the are with.

 

[BleedingBull]

If I married it would be cos I meant the vows, I wouldnt bother otherwise.

 

[Trellum]

Yes, I met someone like that some years ago. He was so desperate to fill that huge void in his life he was willing to marry me, despite he didn't even love me, but he did find me attractive. I, on the other hand, didn't find him attractive at all; both physically and mentally! Our personalities were so different, and he was very rude and liked to scream a lot. He loved to play the blame game and used to talk about things that took place a long time ago... used them against me! It was bringing up old arguments back to life with him everytime. I'm so glad I broke the engagement, and took off. I felt sorry for him, but I knew that if I married him I'd regret it for life! We still talk from time to time, but we have put a lot distance between us since then.

 

[BleedingBull]

Yes, I met someone like that some years ago. He was so desperate to fill that huge void in his life he was willing to marry me, despite he didn't even love me, but he did find me attractive. I, on the other hand, didn't find him attractive at all; both physically and mentally! Our personalities were so different, and he was very rude and liked to scream a lot. He loved to play the blame game and used to talk about things that took place a long time ago... used them against me! It was bringing up old arguments back to life with him everytime. I'm so glad I broke the engagement, and took off. I felt sorry for him, but I knew that if I married him I'd regret it for life! We still talk from time to time, but we have put a lot distance between us since then.

sounds a catch

 

[drkn335]

Of course, this will happen everyday. And in some ways I see it logical - I feel a marriage out of wanting companionship and not wanting to be alone will be more successful than a marriage out of love. If both parties just want someone to keep them company, and they get on well with that person without any close feelings, then they will probably stay married for a very very long time, if not life. But love out of marriage has sooo many problems, that it will probably end at some point. I don't think I would ever marry just for love (it would probably be part of it though) but I might marry for another reason to, to ensure that I wouldn't be the one to divorce if the love ended or broke down.

 

[KC Evans]

I couldn't marry someone I wasn't into. There's no way it could last forever (which is what marriage is "suppose" to be) with someone I do not love. Does sex count? Lol.

 

[Niyi Briggs]

I must have love for you for me to be able to make excuses for your shortcomings as my wife. If I don't love a person I am married to, I would want to hold her to every of her shortcomings. I can't marry someone that I don't love.