Teen Pregnancy

[Specialized]

Teen pregancy is an epidemic, no doubt. I fail to understand why it seems like I've heard of more here than in my own life. I've known one or two girls, known of I mean, who have gotten pregnant. Weird I hear that more than a couple of people were directly affiliated or close to it just on this forum.

Condoms are not 100%, we all know that. Maybe I'm wrong, which I probably am, but I think they work better than you all have made them out to be. I'm no angel. I've been with more girls than I care to share with you all. I was fortunate to be a well known person in my high school and I ran with a great group in college. I am a father to nobody. Condoms are the only reason I'm not. I don't understand a girls thoughts when having sex without protection. Even if you've done it before and you didn't get pregnant. It's just begging for a baby. Then, from what I've read, it happens again.

I again may be wrong, but nobody intentionally has 3 kids by age 20 unless they are in a lifestyle that is just as suprising. It doesn't happen. I'm not against teen pregnancy, but I feel that more times than not that the result of a teenage pregnancy is due to carelessness, ignorance, and lack or gravity for the situation that you are the parent of a kid who may have a harder life now because you were horny a few times.

I won't find any of you a statistic, but you know as well as I do that most children born to teens are more inclined to have a harder start at life due to the crushingly early age the childrens parents had them. I don't feel as baby should be born into this crazy ass world unless the parents are ready to take on a whole other lifestyle. Parents ready for a baby. Meaning, financial stability and stability between the two having the kid. You can't tell me any teenager and his/her spouse is financially secure for a child, even between the two of them. This is taking out help from anyone but themselves.

Now, please tell me where I'm wrong. I'm sure someone will have something they disagree with.

 

[Veronica]

well, I can tell you that joe and I did fine during our first pregnancy. I worked my ass off as a server and Joe worked his ass off as an asst manager of advance, then moved onto titlemax. But we made ends meet reguardless because that is the kind of people we are. I would never want my child to go without. I got pregnant w/ my miscarriage when I was being stupid. As for me getting pregnant w/ austin, well PER the doctor I wasnt suppose to be able to get pregnant so soon, but it happened. It was an opps but a great opps and made me realize a great deal.

Yes, there are ALOT of teenage pregnancies and I wish I could help change that, But its gonna happen because guys like you from being in school tend to pressure the girls into. Its NOT ONLY the girls fault! Its ALSO the guys!

 

[SilentEyz]

You do have some Valid points Specialized,

Children born of teen pregnancies will have a harder start in life, Sometimes it is an accidental pregnancy, sometimes it is kids being just stupid, or thinking it wont happen to them, someitmes its them just not caring, ... there are many, many diffrent reasons why teens get pregnant.

But being pregnant, and the child having to go through more tough times then perhaps other kids would have to go through, does not make them Trashy,

And there is still the fact that you don't have to be a teen to have an unplanned pregnancy, you dont have to be a teen to not be in the best postition to have a kid, All ages and all lifestyles have children before they Are finacialy and stability wise ready for them, thats just not an issue of teens. And children born to many full grown hard working parents,can have just has hard of a start in life.

One of the biggest problems in my opinion with Teen Pregnancies, It is has become socially acceptable. causing it to be a continuasly growing problem, Its not because these girls are trashy, Its because they are trying to live life and grow up before they need to or should, and society expects them to grow up, be mature, yet remain children.. We cant have it both ways.

 

[Veronica]

You do have some Valid points Specialized,

Children born of teen pregnancies will have a harder start in life, Sometimes it is an accidental pregnancy, sometimes it is kids being just stupid, or thinking it wont happen to them, someitmes its them just not caring, ... there are many, many diffrent reasons why teens get pregnant.

But being pregnant, and the child having to go through more tough times then perhaps other kids would have to go through, does not make them Trashy,

And there is still the fact that you don't have to be a teen to have an unplanned pregnancy, you dont have to be a teen to not be in the best postition to have a kid, All ages and all lifestyles have children before they Are finacialy and stability wise ready for them, thats just not an issue of teens. And children born to many full grown hard working parents,can have just has hard of a start in life.

One of the biggest problems in my opinion with Teen Pregnancies, It is has become socially acceptable. causing it to be a continuasly growing problem, Its not because these girls are trashy, Its because they are trying to live life and grow up before they need to or should, and society expects them to grow up, be mature, yet remain children.. We cant have it both ways.

I agree w/ you.

But, I will say that I was rediculed (sp?) when I was pregnant w/ Austin. The nurses and staff treated me different like I didnt know anything. I helped my sister raise her son (because she was 15 when she had him) and I knew about kids. NO, I wasnt ready, but not many people are.

Im not trying to take this as a personal attack specialized. But please dont say that all teenager that have kids are trashy, because I was not.

 

[SilentEyz]

I was 20 and still ridiculed because I was single.. never mind that I had excellant reasons for choosing to be that way.

Society's views and acceptance, and reality sometimes get to be too far apart to make changes.

 

[Veronica]

I was married and they still wanted my mother to be there.... I was pissed!

 

[SilentEyz]

Oh yeah, that would have pissed me off.

My first Dr. appt he asked me how I felt about being pregnant, I told him It life, I will deal with it ( mind you im still coming to terms myself with everything) He reported me, and a week later Social care was at my door explaining my options to me.

I never went back to that Dr. I mean please, he sees me one time and passes judgement that I was not fit to be a mother, because What I wasnt jumping for Joy. Uggghhh

 

[Veronica]

i would of been pissed about that too.

My doc was good. He was actually the doc that delivered me when I was born.

 

[Peter Parka]

I think a lot of this depends on the individual. Yes, there are a lot of bad teenage mums but there are a lot of good ones too. There are also women having babies in their 30s and 40s who are bad mothers so we shouldn't really generalise. A lot of the problem too with teenage mothers is that they usually fall pregnant to teenage fathers who are less likely to take responsibility in caring for their kid. Because of this it's no wonder there is so many teenage mums living off benifits, what else are they supposed to do?

 

[AUDRAA]

I think whats more important here is how ,and what that mother chooses to do and be with herself after she has her child. If she gives it up because she cant handle the responsibility ok thats her choice, mine was not to. I had great parents that helped me and stuck by my side which is not always the case for some teen mothers. I in turn chose to get my act together and realize that now it wasnt just about me anymore and I needed to finish highschool and go to college so my child would have a mother to be proud of and not be deprived of anything. Being raised by a mom thats not much older than you doesnt leave you much room to try and pull any monkey business it hasnt been that long since you did it yourself.
Specialzed Im sorry that youre so closed minded that you can only see the stereotype that some uninformed individual has put in your head. I feel sorry for you, not the children of some of the mothers in this thread that are obviously doing an outstanding job.

 

[Reaver]

I like the point that, ANYONE can be a bad mother. Not just young people, but older ones as well. Every individual is different, so dont judge too quickly.

 

[nelms]

well i am just going to through this one out there i am 18 and i just had a baby girl on feb. 10th and i am the proudest mom ever i dont care what other people think i made a mistake and now i have what happened from that mistake and i wouldnt give her up for the world. i know its going to be hard but i am willing to gamble with that i guess!! thats all i have to say!!!!!!!!!! Think what you want i dont care!!!NeLmS

 

[lemon]

i cant really comment on this much, because i didnt have sex as a teen ( still havent had sex yet - nother story for those who will never hear it ) but i am of the opinion that if you know the consequences, and are prepared to follow through with whatever choice you make, then hell, who am i to stop ya?

 

[IntruderLS1]

This is the number 1 reason that a comprehensive sex education class should be taught in schools at an early age. If these kids are going to have sex, you have to prepare them with good information. You CANNOT teach abstinence and only abstinence like the religious right would like.

You can say what you like about abstinence training, but nobody can argue that it's the only failsafe method. STD's and Babies are not something an abstinant teen has to worry about.

Reseach shows that couples that wait until marriage tend to stay together more often than their pre-marriage peers. Children from two parent homes statistically do better in life than children from single parent homes. (Not bashing single parents [I was raised by one], we're just talking science)

The self denial of abstinance in High School builds character by miles. It's not easy to say no to something like that, but if you can do it, you'll be able to remain strong on so many challanges in life that otherwise would run you over.

I know people are resistant to items of religion, but scientifically, there can be little argument.

I'm not preaching from a high horse here. I blew it at 16 the same as almost everybody else.

:ninja

 

[Nightflight]

Not everyone wants to be the next top career woman, and some people are just natural moms, like they were born to be a mom. I support it, although I think there are exceptions (like the girl who had a kid at age 8 or 9)... your body needs to be mature). If you can do it (raise the kid), I support it.

 

[elluko]

One person I know got a girl pregnant at 14. Trust me, it can ruin your childhood.