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I'm sooooooooo fucking happy for you and your IPs (lookit me, using the lingo and knowing what it means)!!!! ZOMG TWINS!!!!!

Love you! <3<3<3 Everything is going to go perfect.
 
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Oh sorry I missed this! I do HR/Payroll for a medium sized company (150 employees). My co-workers know all about everything. I told them all about it right before the transfer. I had waited that long because of my failed transfer last year, where I learned you can't really "count on" anything to happen (I was at a different job at this time). SO I waited until the wheels were already moving before sharing the news. They all think it's very cool, sweet, weird :D Our receptionist has never had kids due to her own infertility, so she is very interested in every step of the way. I think one thinks I'm just doing it for the money, but whatever that's her prerogative and I don't let it bother me. Overall, they've been very supportive and very interested in all my updates... I'm lucky to work with such a good group of girls.

That's awesome that you work w/ such a supportive group. Rare to find, too, when you're dealing w/ a bunch of women (hey, it's true...we're bitches when you get a bunch of us working together, LMFAO). I don't think any amount of compensation could make up for enduring a full pregnancy and childbirth...but that's just my 2 cents. You have the right attitude, though...let her think what she wants, after all, she's nobody to you. ;)

Congrats on the twins...OMG, how exciting!!! :D
 

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I should say those are my office coworkers, about 6 of us girls, and 10ish guys. The field laborers don't know :D Maybe I need to learn the word for surrogate in spanish for when I start showing!
 

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I finally got my first ultrasound yesterday after my high BETAs. I was suppose to have it on Monday, but ran into a bit of a problem with my awful clinic (transfer was out of state, and this clinic was local and a pain in the ass). So, my agency found me a new testing place and I had my first ultrasound yesterday, 6w4d.

IT'S TWINS!!!! I just had a feeling it was! I've felt very heavy inside my belly already, like a brick in sitting in there, and it just felt like more than it should for a 6w singleton. They were in the perfect spot and baby A measured 6w4d, and baby B measured 6w1d. They both already had heartbeats too! It was a blessing in disguise to have to tough out the wait a few extra days, because I probably wouldn't have seen that on Monday. Heartbeat rate was already 150! Everything looked good and healthy. I have 17 more days on shots/hormones, and I can finally start doing everything at my own Dr.'s now! HOORAY!

IPs ofc are BEYOND excited. We were told there was no chance at all of multiples because of our failed transfer, and IMs age, plus some gene or hormone she has? I can't really remember. But there's always a chance when you stick more than one emmbie in there! Not, that we were trying for two, as they only ever went into this hoping for one healthy baby.... but two is such a wonderful surprise that they are amazingly thrilled with.

That's great news!!
 

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I just had to read the whole thread, because I missed it apparently.

Wow! I give you props. I'm not sure it's something I could do (possibly because I don't have kids of my own yet and I'd want to keep it?????)
 

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That's great news!!! :D Me I don't like babies, toddler and kids yup, but babies nope, they foreign creatures :eek
 

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I just had to read the whole thread, because I missed it apparently.

Wow! I give you props. I'm not sure it's something I could do (possibly because I don't have kids of my own yet and I'd want to keep it?????)

I think it depends on the type of person. I don't think it's something everyone could do, and personally I could NEVER be a "Traditional Surrogate" where my egg was used, because I would think of that as my child. But for me, just being the carrier is something I really enjoy so far.

And yeah, having already had children of your own is a normal requirement for Dr.s to work with you in surrogacy... both so they know you are physically able to carry/deliver a healthy pregnancy, and so you are aware of the the mental aspects of pregnancy/birth.
 

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You know I just posted this on my Surro Forum, and thought I should share here too.

I had prepared myself and expected people to make possibly negative comments to me. I have no problem sticking up for myself, and was mentally ready for what people might say. This has rarely happened. Almost everyone has been more than supportive and interested in the whole process.

What I hadn't expected... all the stories. OMG, it is HEARTBREAKING. When people have heard about what I'm doing, they flock to me with stories of their own infertility. Telling me how fantastic I am, with tears in their eyes remembering their own struggles. Infertility is such a quiet, devastating fight. Something people don't really share or talk about normally, I think out of shame and the fact that's it's not "serious" in other people's eyes who don't understand (ie. they're not fighting cancer or something). So when they get the chance to share, it all comes flooding out.

I'm not a "huggy" or "lovey" type person :/ I think I could have much better handled telling people where to shove it who gave me attitude, than people opening up their hearts and lives to me. So it's been really interesting, and hopefully I've been handling it as well as possible.
 

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:D I don't think a "huggy" person would be able to go through surrogacy. I would imagine that handing the child over would be too tough for her.
 

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Lost one of the twins yesterday :( The other one is doing very well. The one we lost was "abnormal" in some way, they believe DS, and are doing further testing. Feel so bad for the parents.
 

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Thanks guys. It helps knowing that there was nothing I could of done, and that it was better that it happened this way because if not the Dr. said it would have likely been still born. It's weird to switch my mind though, I got really mentally ready for a twin pregnancy and it's weird to know that it's not anymore. The parents are holding up well and are so sweet.
 
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