So, my brother and sister-in-law.....

[pjbleek]

have had their divorce finalized and I come to find out my ex-sister-in-law is going to be getting maried again. I saw her on Sunday for the first time since my mom's funeral in October. She seems to be okay with it and her kids are okay about it as well (they had three kids in all two girls and one boy) and she mentioned that the wedding was to occur in October and that her, her son and my niece would be moving to Wisconsin. I am happy for her, and my brother hasn't mentioned anything in regards to their splitting up. So, if I may ask those of you who are divorced and you found out that your ex was getting married again how you felt about it....

 

[retro]

For most people, it would most likely depend on the circumstances of the divorce.

That being said, I'll be happy for my ex if/when she gets married again.

 

[Springsteen]

If I could come from a slightly different perspective....

My Mum and Dad split up a few years ago, when I was a kid, divorced and everything. Then my Dad started seeing this other woman (which was fine) and they eventually chose to marry. I didn't have a problem with it because I liked the woman he was married to, and he was still my Dad. So I guess if you just see it as that simple, then it's easier to accept. FWIW that second marriage didn't last, but that doesn't matter so much. At least not to me.

If I ever got married, and then divorced, and then the woman chose to marry again, I wouldn't have a problem with it because she's obviously moved on.

 

[porterjack]

i have never married hence never divorced

i would think my issue would be access to my kids, how old are these three

 

[pjbleek]

i have never married hence never divorced

i would think my issue would be access to my kids, how old are these three

the two girls are 19 and 17 and the son is 13

 

[porterjack]

not as bad as if they were toddlers but still, i would want to bve closer to my kids than Mass to Wisconsin

 

[AUFred]

The children are old enough to stay in touch by their choice.

 

[porterjack]

The children are old enough to stay in touch by their choice.

i know and with facebook and all it is not difficult to stay in touch, i was thinking more of attending graduations, bailing them out of jail, that kind of thing

 

[pjbleek]

i know and with facebook and all it is not difficult to stay in touch, i was thinking more of attending graduations, bailing them out of jail, that kind of thing

yeah, but the eldest daughter is wise enough to stay away from any troubles...but her brother....jury is still out on him.

 

[hart]

I was a 2nd wife of a man who I married with a 7 and an 11 year old. We stayed married 8 years and I stayed in touch with the girl for several years after the divorce, but finally we did lose touch. Now I am remarried with a 17 year old stepson, that I started knowing from age 7 and even when Joe and I were separated I stayed in touch with Evan. I feel whatever my status with Joe-I will forever be in touch with Evan, he's in my heart.

 

[Joe the meek]

have had their divorce finalized and I come to find out my ex-sister-in-law is going to be getting maried again. I saw her on Sunday for the first time since my mom's funeral in October. She seems to be okay with it and her kids are okay about it as well (they had three kids in all two girls and one boy) and she mentioned that the wedding was to occur in October and that her, her son and my niece would be moving to Wisconsin. I am happy for her, and my brother hasn't mentioned anything in regards to their splitting up. So, if I may ask those of you who are divorced and you found out that your ex was getting married again how you felt about it....

This is a dumb question, but why wouldn't your ex-SIL be "okay with it" since she is the one getting married?

Not to be overly nosey, but do you know what kind of court arrangement was set up with the children? The couple people I know who are divorced and have kids couldn't leave the state to reside elsewhere with their children without permission from their ex spouses. If they moved without permission, they would have to leave the the children with the other spouse. Then again, the kids I'm thinking about are all younger than 10, perhaps it gets different when the children are older.

 

[pjbleek]

This is a dumb question, but why wouldn't your ex-SIL be "okay with it" since she is the one getting married?

Not to be overly nosey, but do you know what kind of court arrangement was set up with the children? The couple people I know who are divorced and have kids couldn't leave the state to reside elsewhere with their children without permission from their ex spouses. If they moved without permission, they would have to leave the the children with the other spouse. Then again, the kids I'm thinking about are all younger than 10, perhaps it gets different when the children are older.

Both parties have not spoken about said subject, so I am on the outside looking in, and I didn't get the feeling from her that she was overly happy to get married again (her choice, her life) so my minds eye showed no over excitement in her talking about her new life.