Should i or not? (confused)

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Edited this post because i was tired when i wrote the original and not very clear lol.

I told a male friend i was trying out a new recipe one weekend... he asked who i was cooking for... so i said family, i am single remember.. he then said why don't you try date sites as you are rather nice. At first i said no, then i got thinking about a site i used to go on just to chat to people.. and i don't know whether to take the plunge and rejoin..so i needed opinions.
Also him enquiring if i was cooking for a guy, then saying join site as i was *rather nice*... Was either a *i don't like u but u r nice looking, find someone* comment or he was seeing if i would do it. Also a few nights after he was drunk and said my ex was so lucky to have me... out of nowhere.


So question 1 is what are people's opinions on what he said? i'm not gonna ask because he never gives a straight answer to anything and if i keep asking, he logs off.

question 2... Should i take the plunge and join the site again just to chat and get to know people? ... am not too keen on meeting up tho, not too soon and people kinda expect it.

Hope this post is a bit clearer :)
Jo
 
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Do what makes you happy, sweetie. But use caution, as with all things.

Is it a really cool recipe? Just asking because...well, a gal might need to try to cook something in order to make up for my..ahem ..HER lack of other skills. 2pob6zq.jpg
 
Titien said:
So question 1 is what are people's opinions on what he said? i'm not gonna ask because he never gives a straight answer to anything and if i keep asking, he logs off.

question 2... Should i take the plunge and join the site again just to chat and get to know people? ... am not too keen on meeting up tho, not too soon and people kinda expect it.

Hope this post is a bit clearer :)
Jo
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I didn't understand much except I was under the impression that this guy was a real life guy and not an internet guy. But no matter. If you rejoin, just make them aware that it isn't going anywhere right up front. You will still meet like minded people who will want to talk to you and you won't feel that terrible pressure that you HAVE to meet them. :D
 
Yep i deffo would make it clear straight off :)

Taralynn said:
I didn't understand much except I was under the impression that this guy was a real life guy and not an internet guy. But no matter. If you rejoin, just make them aware that it isn't going anywhere right up front. You will still meet like minded people who will want to talk to you and you won't feel that terrible pressure that you HAVE to meet them. :D
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Qn 1: You cant go guessing if this online guy likes you or not. That's a mind game and it's torturing. If you're gutsy enough to ask him out or ask him what his motives are then at least you'll have an inkling what he thinks about you. You cant also make yourself wait for him. You're a pretty enough girl to be able to find one fine man. If he truly likes you he will make the move.

Qn2: If you feel comfortable meeting guys on dating sites, Go ahead. I've known people who've had successful relationships from those.

Good luck :)
 
Question 1: He likes you. Whether you like him back is another matter entirely - he's just 'testing the waters' to see how you'd react whilst no doubt actually trying to offer some advice too.

Question 2: There's good and bad. Just be careful, use your common sense and trust your instincts.
 
He is a proper mate i know in real life, we just are on messengers together too as he works a lot :) but i do see what you mean :) i'm not gonna wait for him (i don't think) i have liked him for 2 n a half years but i'm not gutsy enough to ask outright what's going on,so i'm just gonna get on with things n see, if it is meant to happen, it will :)

PurpleDove said:
Qn 1: You cant go guessing if this online guy likes you or not. That's a mind game and it's torturing. If you're gutsy enough to ask him out or ask him what his motives are then at least you'll have an inkling what he thinks about you. You cant also make yourself wait for him. You're a pretty enough girl to be able to find one fine man. If he truly likes you he will make the move.

Qn2: If you feel comfortable meeting guys on dating sites, Go ahead. I've known people who've had successful relationships from those.

Good luck :)
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Yep i like him.. but all that is stated in post above so not gonna repeat n kill the thread LOL
Yeah i know all anout weirdo's online, i just think well some are normal,whatever normal is lol

Siphorous said:
Question 1: He likes you. Whether you like him back is another matter entirely - he's just 'testing the waters' to see how you'd react whilst no doubt actually trying to offer some advice too.

Question 2: There's good and bad. Just be careful, use your common sense and trust your instincts.
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Titien said:
Well i joined,made a rubbish profile and now will wait for no one to message me on it :24:
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I think my most amusing ones (in hindsight) were the scammers. Those that post pictures of pretty girls hoping to lure in cases like me.

I caught on to one pretty quick that apparently owned a hair salon - in Nigeria... ;) - but yet wanted help to pay for her 'internet connection'.

Good luck though in your search :)
 
lmao.. So far i've had people have a go at me for being quiet, sheesh

Siphorous said:
I think my most amusing ones (in hindsight) were the scammers. Those that post pictures of pretty girls hoping to lure in cases like me.

I caught on to one pretty quick that apparently owned a hair salon - in Nigeria... ;) - but yet wanted help to pay for her 'internet connection'.

Good luck though in your search :)
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