Serious question...

[TheOriginalJames]

Am I weird? Answer honestly. I won't go into detail as to why I'm asking this on the board, even though someone already knows why, but I've been pondering this question for a few days.

It's perplexing to me.

So am I? Explain why too.


edit: be blunt, i'm not going to get mad at anyone for having their opinions. But maybe I can change the opinions from here on out. I always just try to get people to enjoy being around me, but sometimes it doesn't work out the way I want it to.

 

[Homer]

you seem ok to me i like you .

 

[alleycat]

I dont find you weird at all. I find you quite normal. Maybe we are all weird so you fit in well with us.

 

[Sneakiecat]

I don't find you any weird than most people. But this is coming from an extremely weird person so I don't know if it counts.

 

[Kat]

not weird at all hun... maybe stubborn sometimes but so are we all

 

[SilentEyz]

I dont think your weird,

As Kat said I think you are Stubborn, I think you have a view of the way things are and the way you think they should be, Which is good, but sometimes you have to step back and allow those views to be altered or changed depending on the circumstances.


*wonders if that makes sense*

 

[Boomer]

Yer fine man. Dont see a thang wrong wit ya.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

weird isn't the right word james. but you are something. a bit of a dramallama i think. I'm being blunt here, no need to argue. Why? Well because you just can't take things as they are, and you tend to like to fight on principle, when you just need to learn to pick your battles. Things may not be 100% fair for you 100% of the time, but realize that each time you fight a meaningless battle over something petty, it decreases the chance that you will be treated fairly on here. Things add up, and make impressions on people.

 

[DanTastic]

weird isn't the right word james. but you are something. a bit of a dramallama i think. I'm being blunt here, no need to argue. Why? Well because you just can't take things as they are, and you tend to like to fight on principle, when you just need to learn to pick your battles. Things may not be 100% fair for you 100% of the time, but realize that each time you fight a meaningless battle over something petty, it decreases the chance that you will be treated fairly on here. Things add up, and make impressions on people.

couldnt have said it better myself

 

[Boomer]

Yer mom kinda dresses you funny too.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

weird isn't the right word james. but you are something. a bit of a dramallama i think. I'm being blunt here, no need to argue. Why? Well because you just can't take things as they are, and you tend to like to fight on principle, when you just need to learn to pick your battles. Things may not be 100% fair for you 100% of the time, but realize that each time you fight a meaningless battle over something petty, it decreases the chance that you will be treated fairly on here. Things add up, and make impressions on people.

Yeah. I know what you mean, but to counter (not argue); a lot of things that I say on here are misunderstood and then the bush is beaten around until I can finally get a clear cut answer out of what is wrong and/or what I did. A lot of times, people just want to argue with me because they know I'll respond to it, but the actual problem doesn't get resolved. I don't normally let things get to me because I'm so clearcut and direct for the most part, so when things aren't as such, I first get confused, then curious, and then I want an answer. Stubborn is a great word, I'll work things until I'm satisfied with the answer I'm given.

I tend to be blunt, to the point, honest and, yes, I do take things at face value. If I'm not blunt, things get misunderstood and then a joke turns into anger and a debate/arguement.

I hate being vague, and when someone is being facetious with me I cannot tell. In real life, on the net, on the phone, anywhere. I always seem to get vague statements that I have to decipher for myself and I hate doing that.

Which is why I've been pondering this entire thing. I was told by person B that person A said to them that "He is weird and you shouldn't talk to him." Everybody has their oddities and I don't think that's fair to bestow upon this other person that I'm intolerable, thus hurting my reputation prior to person B actually knowing or talking to me to make up their own mind.

When I asked person A about why, I was never answered.

It's just a big round-about type of thing that leaves me confused and since it ends up hurting my reputation, it makes me not want to be a part of anything.

 

[Boomer]

You shouldnt care what other people think man. Just tell'em," Walk in my shoes, hurt ya feet!" ; )

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

Stubborn is a great word, I'll work things until I'm satisfied with the answer I'm given.

this is part of the problem here. You need to learn to accept no for an answer, or accept answers that are given to you. You tend to run us mods ragged sometimes, we are only doing our jobs and we get to hear it from you everytime any of us forget to dot an i or cross a t.

I tend to be blunt, to the point, honest and, yes, I do take things at face value. If I'm not blunt, things get misunderstood and then a joke turns into anger and a debate/arguement.

Part of me tends to think you use the word "blunt" as an excuse for some of your actions. A lot of people here are blunt. But there is a difference between being just simply blunt and learning when to just keep your mouth shut.

I was told by person B that person A said to them that "He is weird and you shouldn't talk to him." Everybody has their oddities and I don't think that's fair to bestow upon this other person that I'm intolerable, thus hurting my reputation prior to person B actually knowing or talking to me to make up their own mind.

this goes back to reputation, and as of late yours on here is not very stellar.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I wish it was that simple, boomer.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

this is part of the problem here. You need to learn to accept no for an answer, or accept answers that are given to you. You tend to run us mods ragged sometimes, we are only doing our jobs and we get to hear it from you everytime any of us forget to dot an i or cross a t.


Part of me tends to think you use the word "blunt" as an excuse for some of your actions. A lot of people here are blunt. But there is a difference between being just simply blunt and learning when to just keep your mouth shut.


this goes back to reputation, and as of late yours on here is not very stellar.

"no" usually isn't an answer that is relevant, though. I never use blunt as an excuse, it's just who I am and some people who know that will be vague with me just because they can. I run the mods ragged because I'm given a PM of some sort where I'm told the end result and the actions taken against me, but not the reason why, nor have I been given a chance to explain, and when I try to, I'm basically told to piss off.

I realize my reputation isn't very stellar, some of it is my fault, some of it is because I haven't been given a chance to explain anything because people will jump to their conclusions based on past where "my instigating everything" keeps coming into play. The other part is private conversations being spread across everywhere.

People tell me they don't like their private life being spread across everywhere, but some have done it to me as well, then I get yelled at for it.

I'm not trying to play the victim in anything, I just want my fair chance at being told WHY I'm being talked about, and WHY I do/say the things I do.

I really wish that this place would go back to the way it was. It seems to have gotten very, very 'cliquish' and I used to mesh with everyone, but close bonds have been formed and suddenly there are secrets and whisperings' behind others backs. Of course, that's just my opinion. I'm sure others see it but just choose not to mention it.

 

[Boomer]

Well I just found my center man. Once you find out who you are, you respect others more, because you look at the beauty that is you. That same beauty is inside everyone. So before you know it, your surrounded by beauty. And beauty is tranquil. To me anyways. I hope this made sense.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

i think this thread belongs in the debate forum...
im done, i told you what you asked and im not going to rehash or reword stuff just to give you an answer that makes you happy. We would be posting here all nigth about that going back and forth and around and around in circles, and frankly I have much more important things to do with my time.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

and I thank you Clare. I know how you feel about me, and my way of thinking now.

 

[Tim]

Do you really want a serious response to your question, or did you hear what you wanted to already?

 

[TheOriginalJames]

From Clare, sure. I'd like to have a chat in private with you, actually Tim.