*smh* I guess I'm lucky that I grew up in the household I did. If I ever planned on having kids, I would certainly hope they would come to me rather than seek out advice from strangers on the internet. Then again, I took the initiative and went to my nephew when I found out he was having sex and asked him if he had condoms or if he needed me to buy him some. Whatever small discomfort I felt was miniscule compared to the prospect of an unwanted teenage pregnancy or sexually transmitted disease, IMO.
Anyway, not that I don't enjoy being played as much as the rest of you guys, but it sounds like the OP has plenty of conflicting and confusing advice to help him through these troubled times.