Q: Should men hit women?

PurpleDove said:
Hence, nowadays at court hearings for domestic violence- where a husband was charged with felony charges for battery and assault with deadly weapon or what not. The husband charged can countersuit against the wife. The court/investigators check the validity of the man's countersuit in re: physical strength, build and height of the woman vs the man.

Or even for cases as you guys stated, investigators of course has means and ways ( forensics-wise) to be able to prove self defense or what not. As of couse in the society, the tables can be turned by the woman to claim she was hit by the man given men are generally stronger than men. If it's proven as a self defense by the man then there would then be a case against that stronger,attacking woman. Which i think is good so there is equality when it comes to these issues :cool
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I've only beat up on a man once. After my hubby stepped out on me and I got drunk, (we were engaged). He basically held me down until I gained control. I got more bruises than him ;)

Now I have kneed a guy in the balls once, getting away from a stalker who ended up stealing my address book, harrasing my friends, and ended up killing himself so I think I had just reason.

I try and talk myself out of situations
 
The Man said:
And they think they are hot...plus it ruins the breasts as well.
Nothing wrong with a little tone...but dont want a muscle broad..if I want to see muscle,I will look at myself in the mirror:D
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If a woman is coming after a man attacking him, punching him, or even swinging a weapon at him then there may be no other choice, but generally a man should be able to restrain her without having to actually throw a punch, but again if she is trying to cause you serious bodily harm there might not be another option, only in extreme cases of self defense.
 
Male or female, it shouldn't happen. Period. However, if you feel you have no other option than to use your hands in defending yourself, I say do it and then get the hell out of that relationship; hitting each other out of anger / frustration, etc. is unhealthy and will only get worse as time goes on.

I've been in this very situation. Once. And only once.
...An ex of mine hit me so hard that it knocked me off my feet. Did I deserve it? He obviously thought I did; I gave him ALOT of lip for doing something behind my back (he cheated on me with his best friend's wife / my so-called 'friend') and told him our relationship was over and that I wanted him to pack his shit and get out of my house. When he hit me, I got up off the floor and clocked him in the face as hard as I could. It was the worst thing I could have done due to my size and his but I felt it was my only option in defending myself.
...Anyway, I ended up in the hospital for 5 days due to the injuries I endured.

When I came home from the hospital, I had some friends of mine help me gather all his shit, tossed it into a transit van and dropped it off at his his friends house. A couple weeks later he tried apologizing / getting me back, etc. but I don't believe in second chances when it comes to abuse - no matter who's fault it is.
 
Butterfly said:
Tommy, your tags are horribly messed up... but it's probably a good thing... I've looked at that last pic, just wow.

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apparently all sorts of stuff doesn't work right when your account is on probation.

if you ever wondered thought about thinking inside the box, now you know what might be in the box. :jk
 
i've stated my philosophy of hitting before. only once. not to hurt. not from anger. to get somebody's attention when all else fails. anything more is wrong and only exacerbates the problem.

men and women who get violent over petty disagreements are barbarians. i feel that even dk is in error when he talks about retaliating to a belly bump or a chest poke. to me that's not retaliation. that's accepting a challenge.
 
TommyTooter said:
men and women who get violent over petty disagreements are barbarians. i feel that even dk is in error when he talks about retaliating to a belly bump or a chest poke. to me that's not retaliation. that's accepting a challenge.
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I would agree on this I suppose, it can't really be called self defense, I never claimed to be the most civilized guy in the world, if a person challenges me I have a hard time walking away from it, I don't go looking for fights but I don't really try to avoid them either, I think we all have a littler "barbarian" in us, we may wear clothes and live in houses but deep down we're still animals :dunno
 
I don't condone violence from anybody. It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, you have no right to hit another person no matter what. I've always been taught to walk away from a fight and I wouldn't be in a relationship that made me so unhappy and angry that I'd feel the need to scream in my partners face and spit on him causing him to want to hit me. I'm smarter than that. Nobody deserves to be hit imo...it takes more strength to walk away....that's what separates us from the animals.
 
dkwrtw said:
I would agree on this I suppose, it can't really be called self defense, I never claimed to be the most civilized guy in the world, if a person challenges me I have a hard time walking away from it, I don't go looking for fights but I don't really try to avoid them either, I think we all have a littler "barbarian" in us, we may wear clothes and live in houses but deep down we're still animals :dunno
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Damn right we are animals, we all do the same shit they do, animals back down from fights too.
 
OK so touchy subject somewhat. Under noraml circumstances I do not believe its ever ok for a man to hit a woman. Unusal circumstances would be if she had a weapon and she instigated it without any grounds. I have been in abusive relationships to the point where when we argued I would actually push them away first rather than just sit there and wait to be hit or anything worse. Though always with the guys the violence was started by them.

I have been choked, slammed against and through a wall, slammed against pavement, punched 2 times in the face, burned on the inside of my ear, spit on and ashed on....not fun. Only once did someone step in to stop it.

Any kind of abuse from men or women is unacceptable. If you are in a relationship where that happens then run. Far and fast before it destroys you. It should not be an issue. But men are seen as protectors. They are supposed to protect their family...women are supposed to nurture and care for their damilies....all to often it doesnt happen


as far as in if some bitch hits a guy onthe street for no reason. As with anyone as angry as it can make you. A guy can always choose to walk away. As I said...in extreme circumstances I can see it being necessary. But never truly acceptable if there is another way out of it.


Just my 2 cents
 
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