Punishment...

[wednesday]

Got this idea from another thread...whats your veiws on punishment of children?

In Britain the law now states you may be arrested for smacking a child....I guess with the amount of child abuse that has risen i can see a point to this but it seems a lil harsh.
I was raised in a family where i would get a slap on the ass for being naughty, that said i havnt seen the need to do it to my children. I can count on my hand how many times its been necessary to use that method.They cringe at my voice..:24no shitty comments!!)

Do you smack your child for being bad? or use more conventional methods?

 

[motorbyclist]

Not allowed to smack your child in NZ also.

I can see both sides of the fence with this one, though I personally think it should be allowed because I sure as hell wouldn't begin abusing my child because I had some protection from the law like some of the disgusting stuff that is happening ATM.

 

[nursey1972]

There are certain things that are exceptable here... my mother-in-law works with Child Services and a open handed smack on the butt is not grounds for child abuse... but you can't leave marks, use an object in your hand or smack anywhere else...

yes my kids have gotten a spanking before....

 

[motorbyclist]

yes my kids have gotten a spanking before....

Can I have a turn? I promise I will return the favour.


(Yes, I am sorry I degraded another thread to sexual inuendos)

 

[nursey1972]

Can I have a turn? I promise I will return the favour.


(Yes, I am sorry I degraded another thread to sexual inuendos)

Don't lie!!! you are not sorry in the least!!!!

and yes you can have a turn but since you are of age, I can use an object in my hand... think... which one would be best suited for use on you????

and we can discuss the details of how I would like the favour returned via PM!!

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

Personally, and I know many will disagree, but I am convinced that corporal punishment doesn't do anything but increase the level of aggravation and confusion with children.

I do know that insisting upon respect towards the parents is something we have enforced from the time they could speak, and there is a responsibility by everyone in our house to contribute to cleaning etc.

Essentially me or my wife simply letting my oldest know that we are disappointed with a choice he makes, and grounding him from something he really enjoys, or taking freedom away alters his thinking.

You'll never convince me that hitting a child makes him/her change, it just teaches them to resort to violence first.

Again, JUST MY OPINION...I have always thought that spanking, whipping etc only makes the parent feel better it doesn't fix anything.

When I was young my brother and I were well behaved because we had respect for my parents, and they were around to teach us right and wrong, daycare and the television didn't do it for them.

 

[Mase]

I don't think smacking actually makes the child learn the lesson they're supposed to learn. More makes them decide not to do the naughty thing in fear of getting smacked, rather than actually knowing that it's a naughty thing to do. Which can mean that if the parent is not around, then they'd probably go ahead and do it.

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

I don't think smacking actually makes the child learn the lesson they're supposed to learn. More makes them decide not to do the naughty thing in fear of getting smacked, rather than actually knowing that it's a naughty thing to do. Which can mean that if the parent is not around, then they'd probably go ahead and do it.

Simple and well said :clap

Repped

 

[sierrabravo]

remember the days of "go out and cut a switch?" betcha i wont find a pic on google.. nope.... just light switches... fuck those switches hurt

 

[AUDRAA]

I think it depends on the child actully I did spank my son when he got out of line, not that often and only ever used my hand I remember my parents use to spank me with everything from a wooden spoon to a belt. Making him feel bad by letting him know I was disapponted in him did not work.
However that being said my daughter is totally different she actually didnt mind spankings hell shed say why dont you spank me then!! Shes more emotional though you let her even see youre dissapointed in something shes done and shes a wreck. Something my ex and I used with her is the Love and Logic discipline program and its worked fantastically. Id highly recommend it to anyone with a young child.

 

[teh_fuzz]

Personally, and I know many will disagree, but I am convinced that corporal punishment doesn't do anything but increase the level of aggravation and confusion with children.

I do know that insisting upon respect towards the parents is something we have enforced from the time they could speak, and there is a responsibility by everyone in our house to contribute to cleaning etc.

Essentially me or my wife simply letting my oldest know that we are disappointed with a choice he makes, and grounding him from something he really enjoys, or taking freedom away alters his thinking.

You'll never convince me that hitting a child makes him/her change, it just teaches them to resort to violence first.

Again, JUST MY OPINION...I have always thought that spanking, whipping etc only makes the parent feel better it doesn't fix anything.

When I was young my brother and I were well behaved because we had respect for my parents, and they were around to teach us right and wrong, daycare and the television didn't do it for them.

Coming from a hispanic family I was also raised with the upbringing that respect to your parents is priority, however a good ass whooping was given only and only if there was such a thing as stealing which we never did.

My mom spanked me once that I can honestly recall and it was because of something that she later found out i did not do... thus it doesnt count.

As for my girls, well over the first few yrs ive come to see how spanking isnt really benefitting either of us, for one, my oldest gets pretty upset, she is very emotional (thanks for the wife's genes lol) and will pretty much get her feeling hurt at the drop of a hat, Thus a few weeks ago Staci brought the idea to me that spanking isnt really something that is both efficient nor effective, so we are currently trying new ways.

Things like timeouts are the main form of discipline at the moment, it will be kind of hard to get my oldest to deal with that, but so far it seems to be far more effective which really has surprised me. Lala may be a little tougher to train on that but she seems to be getting the point and it really surprised me how effective it was to get her shape up by simply putting in her in time out. especially since we tried time outs at a younger age and they didnt seem to work then.

Addie, well shes just 1+ yrs so shes not a problem at the moment, but if things now are a window into the future... OH MAN ARE STACI AND I IN FOR SOME SHIT...

 

[BadBoy@TheWheel]

Coming from a hispanic family I was also raised with the upbringing that respect to your parents is priority, however a good ass whooping was given only and only if there was such a thing as stealing which we never did.

My mom spanked me once that I can honestly recall and it was because of something that she later found out i did not do... thus it doesnt count.

As for my girls, well over the first few yrs ive come to see how spanking isnt really benefitting either of us, for one, my oldest gets pretty upset, she is very emotional (thanks for the wife's genes lol) and will pretty much get her feeling hurt at the drop of a hat, Thus a few weeks ago Staci brought the idea to me that spanking isnt really something that is both efficient nor effective, so we are currently trying new ways.

Things like timeouts are the main form of discipline at the moment, it will be kind of hard to get my oldest to deal with that, but so far it seems to be far more effective which really has surprised me. Lala may be a little tougher to train on that but she seems to be getting the point and it really surprised me how effective it was to get her shape up by simply putting in her in time out. especially since we tried time outs at a younger age and they didnt seem to work then.

Addie, well shes just 1+ yrs so shes not a problem at the moment, but if things now are a window into the future... OH MAN ARE STACI AND I IN FOR SOME SHIT...

Right:thumbup

To me kids are begging for boundaries to be set, I have seen, not in all cases but in a lot of cases parents complaining about the kids walking all over them, well that's becasue the pecking order has been established that way.

It's clear in my house who the boss(es) are, and has been that was from jump street, even the dog knows if she steps out of line I won't hesitate to end her:ninja

We have established a well defined set of healthy boundaries for acceptable behavior in our home, consequently, we have few issues with bad actors...Very limited to just typical kid crap...Which let's face it, you gotta let them be little

 

[thatguyjeff]

Our 3 y.o. refuses to use any sort of booster seat or anything during meals. He just sits in a regular chair like everyone else. Sometimes he gets a little wiggly and won't stay in his seat so I get a belt out to strap him down to the chair, like a seat-belt.

One time the in-laws were over and the little guy wasn't staying in his chair and I threatened to, "get the belt."

Look on mother-in-law's face: priceless.

We don't believe in any sort of corporal punishment. All it does is teach kids that it's acceptable to use violence to get others to do what you want, IMHO. I'll go so far as to say that I think it's a failure on the parent's part. You've failed to get the child to comply, so you hit them because you don't know what else to do. FAIL.

 

[Makedde]

I don't have kids, but surely there are much more effective ways of punishing your children? Hitting them may only make the child fear you.

 

[Accountable]

"I've got two daughters ... if they make a mistake, I don't want them punished with a baby."
Barack Obama

 

[SgtSpike]

"I've got two daughters ... if they make a mistake, I don't want them punished with a baby."
Barack Obama

LOL. So was he advocating anti-life or safe-sex when he said that?

 

[skyblue]

Our 3 y.o. refuses to use any sort of booster seat or anything during meals. He just sits in a regular chair like everyone else. Sometimes he gets a little wiggly and won't stay in his seat so I get a belt out to strap him down to the chair, like a seat-belt.

really.......that sounds horrendous

 

[skyblue]

if i tried to hit my son for not behaving he'd probably punch me out.......at 6 feet 3 inches he's pretty big

 

[Springsteen]

If i misbehaved as a child, i'd get a smack. Never did me any harm. So as long as it's not done to excess and certainly not hitting hard round the head, then smacking a child as punishment is acceptable.

 

[Peter Parka]

If i misbehaved as a child, i'd get a smack. Never did me any harm. So as long as it's not done to excess and certainly not hitting hard round the head, then smacking a child as punishment is acceptable.

:homo:

Christ sake, the governmentn and social services are shockingly failing at protecting children from abuse in this country as it is, fuck knows how they think they can stop a parent from smacking a child when it dosen't even leave any bruises ect.