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[Homer]

and i don't want you to get stuck paying again even more , i think if you can put up with dad for a while you'll have a much happer outcome.

 

[Veronica]

yea, but my dad has a temper and i know he wont be able to deal with my kids. Thats why I didnt want to have to stay with him for long.

 

[Homer]

i really feel for you talk about being stuck between a rock and a hard place , are ther no other family members around or even friends , i can't help but feel uncomfortable you moving in with mom & bf , sorry but you've given so many reasons.

 

[Maulds]

You have mothers intuition now, if its telling you to avoid the Moms boyfriend then do it. I'd store a few things in a rental unit and stay with Dad, he'll get used to the kids. Besides he did invite you...kids and all.

 

[Charmer]

I'm with everyone, of course, on your Mother and her boyfriend and his kid, not living with you. And it sounds likes you're pretty unsure about your Father, so I don't know if you really want to move in with him for any length of time over a month or two. But you said family and friends. Do you have any other family members in or around your hometown? How about friends that are trustworthy?

And how long until you actually move back there? Can't you go visit there and look at the housing/apartment situations to find out if there is anything affordable for just you and the kids? And check out any babysitters/daycares? Maybe wait a couple of months before you actually make the move so you can plan out a more suitable living arrangement for you and the kids? And you will be getting child support and spousal support, too, right?

 

[OUZBnd]

I don't know if this is an option. But joe should still be held responsible for finance for the kids. Legally once you are divorced you should be getting money from him for this. Until then, if he's a stand up guy to his kids then he should provide you with $$ to make it on your feet without him.

 

[elluko]

I think you should learn to cope with him or tell your mother how you feel about him.

 

[Nightflight]

People like your mom's boyfriend that give ultimatums like that give me a bad vibe - if I were you I'd try with dad, and see if a compromise cannot be made, perhaps explain to him why you'd rather do it this way?

 

[Homer]

I don't know if this is an option. But joe should still be held responsible for finance for the kids. Legally once you are divorced you should be getting money from him for this. Until then, if he's a stand up guy to his kids then he should provide you with $$ to make it on your feet without him.

an excellent point that would help you get a place of your own , and ther are places to go for help with the kids , i still think you should have a talk with dad before you count him out , hell if it were me i'd be one very happy pop.

 

[IntruderLS1]

You don't need anymore good advice, as I pretty much agree with the consenses up there. Mom, boyfriend, and BF kid are not an option. Dad is the best bet, as you only need something temporary. You work for a police station, there has to be people there who know the ropes for city assistance.

You need to talk to Joe and get him to start pushing you some greenbacks. I know you don't want to, but this is part of being mommy first, and injured woman second.

If dad isn't going to work, find a friend in the department. If friend in the department isn't going to work, put your stuff in storage, and find a cheap 2 room appartment.

Good luck Veronica. Fight for what you need. You and the kids will come out smelling like roses as long as you keep your head on straight, and never give up.

We're all praying / pulling for you. We know you can do this.

 

[alleycat]

Im with Intruder on this one. Poor V. Im so sorry you have to go thru this.