Okay, so here's my story..

[motchien]

Alright. Let me give some background information.
I dated this guy back in May, and we dated for about five months. Everything was awesome and he treated me so good, but he controlled everything about me. I mean absolutely everything. We finally broke up in September, and it was the hardest thing I had ever done. He meant so much to me. I blocked his number when we broke up.
Obviously it's now December, and it's been three months.
I dated this other guy, who was a lot older than my ex, and we were together for only two weeks. I don't know why it hurt so bad when he ended things with me. Maybe it was stress, or maybe I just hadn't gotten over the guy I had dated in May. No matter the case, I still felt pretty bad.
So, last night, I texted the guy who I dated back in May. Eventually, we talked on the phone... and it wasn't weird or extremely tense. At first it was really nerve racking, but then it got to be more comfortable.
I realized I really missed him. He's changed a lot in the past three months. He's still himself, but I can see how much I had an impact on him to be active in his own life.

What should I do? Should I continue to talk to him and see how things go? Should I consider a second chance with him? Please help.:willy_nilly:

 

[dt3]

This thread looks familiar.

Is he still a control freak?

If you do get back with him you need to stand your ground and tell him that you felt he was controlling you and go from there. If he really loves you he'll understand.

if you like to be controled then sure

A controlling person in a relationship isn't where I'd want to go and/or be with.

You've got to be your own person. Don't let anyone change that. If they don't let you be yourself.... stay away.

Second chances are always a fair thing.... and since you said he treated you good and all. Take it slow. Keep your eyes open. You'll know if he's really changed or not soon enough.

Well if he has changed, go for it, just make it clear his old controlling ways arn't part of your relationship anymore and if he tries to start them again, you'll drop him like a lead balloon.

well of course, till you get back together and a few weeks go by then he`ll be telling you when you may or may not take a shit

do what YOU want as long as it doesn't endanger you

live and learn.

maybe though you should learn how to live single for a bit - be happy with yourself?

Maybe working at getting friends should be a better priority that working at getting a boyfriend for you? :dunno

if he is controlling you it doesn't really mean he loves you. talk with him, maybe, tell him how you don't like him controlling you, and maybe he won't anymore

how old are you two?

and be prepared for him to return to his ways once back together

has to be something he wants to work on. otherwise he is what he is and will always be that way

Have him round for a family BBQ or go out bowling with him and your mates or something?

 

[motchien]

LOL!
That's because my old thread died and no one wanted to respond anymore...

 

[dt3]

LOL!
That's because my old thread died and no one wanted to respond anymore...

So why would they come respond here?

 

[satinbutterfly]

Men don't change... plain and simple.

 

[motchien]

Hmmm..
He just texted me and said he still thinks I'm just as beautiful, or even more so, as I've always been.
He seems kind of reluctant to divulge in this.
Maybe I've hurt him too much.
He's the one that had enough emotions for the both of us, though.
This is kinda complicated..

 

[satinbutterfly]

If he was controlling then, he's still going to be controlling now. Just the way it is. If that's the kinda guy you want, go for it.

 

[Peter Parka]

Men don't change... plain and simple.

Same could be said for this posters threads

 

[motchien]

I don't even like my thread anymore. lol.

 

[satinbutterfly]

I don't even like my thread anymore. lol.

Okay. Buh bye then.

 

[motchien]

Hey there! I'm Rachel.

1. What is your occupation?
Being a student.

2. What color are your socks right now?
I don't have socks on! But, when I did have socks on, they were black.

3. What are you listening to right now?
The sound of my overly fat cat snoring.

4. What was the last thing that you ate?
Some KFC. MMMmmm mmmm grease.

5. Can you drive a stick shift?
If someone taught me, probably. Automatic's the way to go!

6. If you were a crayon, what color would you be?
I don't want to be a crayon. They smell weird.

7. Last person you spoke to on the phone?
That would be my mother. I don't talk on the phone too often.

9. How old are you today?
I'll still be the same age tomorrow.

10. Favorite drink:
I don't like to choose. It changes weekly.

11. What is your favorite sport to watch?
I don't like sports.

12. Have you ever dyed your hair?
Yeah, I have. Purple, black, black and red, dark chocolate, and then back to my original hair color. Which is brunette.

15. Favorite food?
I love sushi!

16. What was the last movie you watched?
Um, a Christmas Carol. lol.

17. Favorite day of the year?
Day? My favorite weeks are Christmas break, lol.

18. What do you do to vent anger?
I don't usually do anything. When I do vent, I type like crazy. Or I talk like crazy. Or I just cry. Depending on how angry I am.

19. What was your favorite toy as a child?
It was this weird little mermaid type thing

20. What is your favorite, fall or spring ?
Fall!

21. Hugs or kisses?
I'd rather have both, please.

22. Cherries or Blueberry?
Cherries.

23. Do you want your friends to pm you back?
Um.. sure.

24. Who is most likely to respond?
I have no idea.

25. Who is least likely to respond?
I have no idea.

26. Living arrangements?
Hell.

27. When was the last time you cried?
...Wow, today, hah!

28. What is on the floor of your closet?
A bunch of crap.

29. What did you do last night?
I stayed up til one.

30. favorite smells?
I love my french perfume.

31. What inspires you?
Music, and beautiful days.. when it's cold.

32. What are you afraid of?
Being alone. And stuff.

33. Plain, cheesy, or spicy hamburgers?
spicy hamburgers? wtf?
cheeseburgers all the way!

34. Favorite dog breed?
Huskies!

35. Number of keys on your key ring?
uhm four.

36. How many years at your current job?
zero.

37. Favorite day of the week?
I'd have to say Saturday.

38. How many states have you lived in?
One.

39. Favorite holiday?
Christmas.

40. Ever driven a Motorcycle or heavy machinery?
Yeah. Not a motorcycle though..

41. Who's your favorite NFL team?
I hate football!

42. Do you have a house phone that is NOT cordless?
Yeah...

43. 10 inches of snow or 100 degree weather?
SNOW! I hate heat

44. If you could have any occupation in the world, what would it be?
An absolutely amazing professional photographer!



Well, anything you'd like to ask me to get to know me?

 

[Jessica]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

welcome Rachel

 

[Peter Parka]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

Hello and welcome. :thumbup

 

[motchien]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

Thank you Nice to meet you Jessica.

 

[itsmeJonB]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

welcome

 

[motchien]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

Thanks!

 

[pjbleek]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

welcome to the show, please be sure to post often ( and learn how to post correctly) and remember that the year 2010 is upon us and have a great day!

 

[motchien]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

I'm very excited for the new year.
I can't wait to see what it has in store.

 

[Azazel]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

 

[motchien]

Re: Hey there! I'm Rachel.

Thank you