ok.. so here's the update...

[Jersey]

that was one of the arguments i made... yes-- you'll be making more, but it wont equal out in the cost of living there

 

[UncleBacon]

party with who where huh

 

[Jersey]

huh??

 

[alleycat]

It is extremely expensive to live in Cali. I paid $500 a month for a room for rent only!! It was a crappy room at that!!

 

[Jersey]

so.. yeah-- mike isnt moving to cali

at least not yet. there is a possibility he will be going in a few months... and i'm just drained from the whole situation... i dont wanna deal with with whole scenario in a few months again... so umm.. i think im cutting the ties here before i get all wrapped up in him and he decides to go later on down the road

 

[AUDRAA]

so what he finally decided to call and let you in on this after he never did the day he was suppose to leave?

 

[Jersey]

hmm.. apparently i didnt explain that whole scenario... that was the day he was supposed to give in his notice..

he didnt call me, he showed up at my house... with flowers... and we have been talking..but i've just been comtemplating the whole situation back and forth...

 

[AUDRAA]

Skank damn you you didnt tell me that part!!!

 

[Jersey]

uh huh.. tried not to make a big deal... cuz i had my mind made up that i didnt want to see his sorry ass... and then i felt pretty stupid when he showed up... granted it was really late, but all in all.. he showed up.

so yeah, do you continue to date someone who you know could be leaving in a few months? arent i just setting myself up for dissappointment?

 

[AUDRAA]

do you want to go with is the question if he does leave in a few months and things are still moving along well? you were talking about making a move this could be what you are maybe looking for in a change?

 

[Jersey]

i'm scared to death... cali is really far... and i'm afraid of failure...

 

[lemon]

dont let the eminent fear of failure cloud your vision of change. failure is doomed to happen. the best things came from failures - an extended version of the light bulb from edison - who's house, if still standing, should not be but a day's vacation from you heather.

remember, failure is going to happen. its your choice whether your are scared of it and choose to fear it, or not be afraid, and learn from the mistake that yielded the failure in the first place.

 

[Jersey]

dont let the eminent fear of failure cloud your vision of change. failure is doomed to happen. the best things came from failures - an extended version of the light bulb from edison - who's house, if still standing, should not be but a day's vacation from you heather.

remember, failure is going to happen. its your choice whether your are scared of it and choose to fear it, or not be afraid, and learn from the mistake that yielded the failure in the first place.

it's about 30 minutes from me. I saw it as a kid, but I'm not sure if it's still around

Thanks Lemonhead, pretty well put

 

[lemon]

you are welcome.

sometimes, i remind myself of this fear of failure. its a great motivator.. if you dont let it get to you quickly..