Is Sex Texting Cheating?

[Peter Parka]

In the wake of a couple of married celebs over here getting caught out exchanging raunchy messages with page 3 girls by text and on twitter, do you class that as cheating or just harmless entertainment like going to a strip club or watrching porn?

 

[Pabst]

i just think it's retarded in general. why talk about sex when you can go have sex? silly celebs, no smarter than a bag of hammers.

 

[KimmyCharmeleon]

I think it's silly too. What's the point of doing it when you have a partner to do it with already. I don't know, stupid to me lol.

 

[Pabst]

i think it's a forbidden fruit thing for some people i guess.

but i think of sex as a coca cola. i like the real thing. sexting is like pepsi to me. dont want it, dont need it.

 

[Tyler Durden]

Sexually....romantically....I would consider pretty much anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner cheating

 

[Minor Axis]

Is lusting in your heart cheating? I guess it boils down to what counts more, your thoughts or your actions. Texting is an action, but it is not physical sex. Although I've never sexted, I assume part of the ritual is pleasuring yourself as you text? Would it bring doubt about the status of your relationship with your significant other? -maybe, maybe not. But it would definitely be frowned upon by the other.

 

[Butterfly]

I figure anything you hide from your partner/s is cheating. And odds are, if you're hiding it, you know it's not something your partner/s would be OK with.

 

[satinbutterfly]

Sexually....romantically....I would consider pretty much anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner cheating

I figure anything you hide from your partner/s is cheating. And odds are, if you're hiding it, you know it's not something your partner/s would be OK with.

:homo:'s

 

[itsmeJonB]

Yes it is

 

[flopstock]

Folks that will have textsex with others will have real sex if given the opportunity. Take it as a sign of things to cum and call it a day, IMO.

 

[Francis]

There's a fine line between being cheeky, funny and crossing that fine line.. I think we all know that level, we just don't want to admit it to ourselves ( well at least those who cheat )..

"Right and Wrong" are the basic two things we first learn in life.. It applies to everything..

 

[Dana]

Sexually....romantically....I would consider pretty much anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner cheating

:homo:

 

[SouthOfHeaven]

Part of setxing is sending dirty pictures unless ur going up to your partner and showing them everything ( which I doubt anyone is doing) then yes it's cheating. Jus because it's through a phone or I ternet or whatever it doesn't make it hurt any less to the partner..

 

[RedRyder]

Is lusting in your heart cheating? I guess it boils down to what counts more, your thoughts or your actions. Texting is an action, but it is not physical sex. Although I've never sexted, I assume part of the ritual is pleasuring yourself as you text? Would it bring doubt about the status of your relationship with your significant other? -maybe, maybe not. But it would definitely be frowned upon by the other.

Hmmmmm..... I'm giving this one some thought.

I've talked 'dirty' to others via the internet. Never pictures.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it.... I think because I am a writer (not published mind you).... I am experimenting with this whole concept of internet relationships..... I find it far safer and more convenient than talking to men in real life. I'm not looking for another man. I'm not missing sexy talk at home so it's not like I'm in need of it.

I actually put on the persona of whom I see RedRyder as.... and it comes very easy to me. She is who I am not. Of course, at times I find myself wanting to be RedRyder....... but that's all a fantasy.

So.... in my case.... perhaps I like to fantasize and this internet thing is available to do just that.

I'm not hurting anyone. Mr. Red knows some.... not all.... of my internet adventures. He'll ask me things at times about it and I answer as honestly as I can. Is it cheating? If I felt I was cheating, I'd stop. If he told me to stop, I would.

I guess if one feels guilt when they do anything... they shouldn't be doing it. Or at least they should explore why they feel guilty.

 

[Dana]

Is lusting in your heart cheating? I guess it boils down to what counts more, your thoughts or your actions. Texting is an action, but it is not physical sex. Although I've never sexted, I assume part of the ritual is pleasuring yourself as you text? Would it bring doubt about the status of your relationship with your significant other? -maybe, maybe not. But it would definitely be frowned upon by the other.

If your lusting for someone else.... then you shouldn't be in that relationship... period.

Hmmmmm..... I'm giving this one some thought.

I've talked 'dirty' to others via the internet. Never pictures.

Personally, I don't see anything wrong with it.... I think because I am a writer (not published mind you).... I am experimenting with this whole concept of internet relationships..... I find it far safer and more convenient than talking to men in real life. I'm not looking for another man. I'm not missing sexy talk at home so it's not like I'm in need of it.

I actually put on the persona of whom I see RedRyder as.... and it comes very easy to me. She is who I am not. Of course, at times I find myself wanting to be RedRyder....... but that's all a fantasy.

So.... in my case.... perhaps I like to fantasize and this internet thing is available to do just that.

I'm not hurting anyone. Mr. Red knows some.... not all.... of my internet adventures. He'll ask me things at times about it and I answer as honestly as I can. Is it cheating? If I felt I was cheating, I'd stop. If he told me to stop, I would.

I guess if one feels guilt when they do anything... they shouldn't be doing it. Or at least they should explore why they feel guilty.

talking dirty or being a flirt is different... I know that whenever ive texted or called a woman and chatted with her in that manner there were hormones racing and I wasn't exactly sewing while we were talking.

 

[RedRyder]

If your lusting for someone else.... then you shouldn't be in that relationship... period.

talking dirty or being a flirt is different... I know that whenever ive texted or called a woman and chatted with her in that manner there were hormones racing and I wasn't exactly sewing while we were talking.

You're not married or in a relationship. Big difference.

My hubby knows I'm a flirt.... and he doesn't mind.... so he's told me. He knows where I lay my head every night......

I have never talked dirty to another man in real life. When the hubby and I are out with friends and the topic turns to sexy things..... Everyone.... including the hubby.... is very open to discussion. Nothing is taboo. Other than actually talking dirty to another in the group.

 

[Peter Parka]

You're not married or in a relationship. Big difference.

My hubby knows I'm a flirt.... and he doesn't mind.... so he's told me. He knows where I lay my head every night......

I have never talked dirty to another man in real life. When the hubby and I are out with friends and the topic turns to sexy things..... Everyone.... including the hubby.... is very open to discussion. Nothing is taboo. Other than actually talking dirty to another in the group.

Big difference between flirting, fancying and lusting though. I find other women attractive and the thought of getting inside their love tunnel crosses my mind as nice, if I got obsessed with it there would be a big problem though.

 

[Pabst]

we all have urges and natural instincts. we'd be liars if we said we never had those kinds of thoughts/feelings. acting on them is a different matter.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

people act like sexting is something new....but people have been doing it on the internet for years now before texting even existed!

 

[Anghellic]

Sexually....romantically....I would consider pretty much anything you wouldn't do in front of your partner cheating

I absolutely agree with this.
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Why not just "sext" with your partner? That would add some excitement to the relationship and then you could act out the texts when you get home. I figure if you are committed you don't need to be doing such silliness behind your partners back.