Is it ever ok

[Kat]

Just wondered what people thought of this subject me and my friend were talking about it today.

Is it ever ok for a guy to get physical towards his gf/wife ...whatever

I know the age old a guy should never hit/physically hurt a girl thing.

But what if durning a fight the girl pushes him back a little to get him away cause he's right up in her face wont get out and wont let her move...would it be understandable if he grabbed her around the stomach and lifted her up struggled to restrain her just cause he was so pissed off. (after raising his fist like he was gonna hit her...but did that instead) (with him being much much stronger than she is)

or do you think this is a sign that it will slowly get worse...and eventually lead to him hitting her for real

 

[Bagel]

i dunno ..maybe its casue ima pacafist and generally dotn liek geting physical with anybody be they male or female.. but unless she got physical with him first with the itnent of harm..i dont think its jsutified..if she wanted space and he didnt give it to her so she put it in a way he could understand..he retaliated in kind...i dont agree with it..but sometiems there are circumstances where a guy woudl neede to defend himself..but i dotn see any hint of that here

 

[Veronica]

hmm.. Im my profession, it seems to get worse by steps. If a man did that, but stopped himself from hitting her, then that could be a good sign that maybe his temper got in the way, but he was able to control himself.
He he ever hits her... or throws something, ect.. it will DEFINALLY only get worse.

 

[Kat]

ok the guy we were talking about hasnt ever hit her...but also put her in a choke hold once before cause he was drunk and she wouldnt let him drive

 

[Veronica]

hmm.. Is this guy violent alot? Does he lose his temper quickly?

 

[Kat]

usually only when drinking if he gets aggravated... but he does drink a lot..it was worse when he drank hard liquor which now he sticks to beer...but it can still get bad with him punching things and such

 

[alleycat]

oh icky... this doesnt sound good at all.

 

[SilentEyz]

Well there are two ways to look at this,

Yes people who are close emotionally can push each other to a point, and most eventually will where the Possibilty for violence becomes very real ( not that it actually has to happen) And there sometimes will even come a point where the man may actually screw up and become Violent.. yes it does happen and it does not have to be a pattern of things to come.. Mistakes happen and We all can be pushed unknowingly to that limit spiacially ( yeah I spelled it worng) when it comes to love and the heart.

But.. When there is alcohol involved and the pattern is always becoming apparent in that circumstance.. Then it is a problem. one that can be fixed Yes.. But if it is a behavior brought on my alcohol, then it will continue and YES it will only get worse.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I don't believe physically restraining/hitting/injuring a woman is EVER permissable or forgivable.

 

[sharpies]

It's never ok to hit a woman but I do think that there may be times when it is ok to restrain someone especially if they are about to hurt themselves or someone else.

In my experience people who drink & get violent usually increase the levels as they become older & more frustrated or if they feel they are losing control.

Allan

 

[Peter Parka]

Restraining an out of control woman who is a danger to herself and others is ok. Hitting a woman is disgusting.

 

[Boomer]

I believe in restraint. I wont hit a woman, but I wont let her hit me either. I will simply sit on top of her till she calms down. : )

I say this because I had a friend. Him and his girl got in an argument. He was getting pretty pissed so he decided to go for a drive before he did anything stupid. He got half way thru the living room and she stabbed'em in tha back with a kitchen knife. Collapsed his friggin lung man! So...I will restrain and never turn my back on them when I'm leaving.

 

[Veronica]

restraining is fine, hitting isnt..

If alchol is involved, then it may happen again and be worse.

 

[Maulds]

ok the guy we were talking about hasnt ever hit her...but also put her in a choke hold once before cause he was drunk and she wouldnt let him drive

Tell me a choke isnt as bad as hitting her. I'd say the capacity for violence is there and she should watch it.

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I'm not talking about restraining an out of control woman here guys. Keep the thinking within the confines of the original post topic. A guy who is pissed at his girlfriend who is doing nothing but using her common sense should never use his size to restrain a woman who is simply either trying to defend herself (and/or children) or get away from the guy.

 

[Kat]

I'm not talking about restraining an out of control woman here guys. Keep the thinking within the confines of the original post topic. A guy who is pissed at his girlfriend who is doing nothing but using her common sense should never use his size to restrain a woman who is simply either trying to defend herself (and/or children) or get away from the guy.

Thank you for that James...this is exactally what i was talking about...nothing more nothing less

 

[IntruderLS1]

or do you think this is a sign that it will slowly get worse...and eventually lead to him hitting her for real

Yep. Tell her to get out now. I've seen it up close. It only gets worse.

 

[lemon]

hmm - im confused with the original question.. so ill put my two senses in..

should a guy hit/whatever a girl, especially in a relationship? if the guy didnt start it, yes, but for self-defense only. same goes for girls, if the man is the agressor, only fight back in self-defense.

if there is drinking involved, simple answer - get out of the relationship and as far as possible away.

 

[Nickers]

I believe it's never right to hit a female, EVER. It's constitutes assault, even raising your fist and putting enough fear into someone to the point where that person believes that they are going to be struck is not right either and it should not be condoned. It is never ok. A true gentleman would not strike a woman.

 

[Sam]

Its better to stay calm in this situation and move on ..