I think it's disrespectful in the sense that there is a dress code for certain 'special' occasions, therefore it is expected that you turn up dressed appropriately for said occasion. If people have money to buy jeans, they have money to buy smart trousers. Black trousers are smart and readily available in pretty much any shop you walk into and arent costly either. I'd be pissed if someone turned up to my 'special' occasion in jeans. However, I would be more pissed if they turned up with greasy, messy hair and dirty, creased clothes.
Is 'casual dress' disrespectful?
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I think there are many people who confuse "business casual" with "casual".
When I've gone to weddings/graduations and such in the hot, humid Southeastern part of the States, it is perfectly acceptable (except in "formal" circumstances) to dress business casual. My husband wore nice khakis, polo shirt, and penny loafers to my niece's graduation - I wore wide-legged trousers and a short-sleeve fitted blouse with chunky heels, and we were FAR more "dressed up" than a LOT of people there. But it was also HOT - around 93*F and humid. I don't think many people can be expected to wear ties/sport jackets in a crowded arena that is minimally air-conditioned. But you CAN look nice.
Husby does have some friends that live and dress like they're still hanging out at the frat house. If I don't want to deal with their asses, I just don't invite them. I *know* what they'll look like and I know how they'll act. It's just a part of knowing who your friends actually ARE.
When I've gone to weddings/graduations and such in the hot, humid Southeastern part of the States, it is perfectly acceptable (except in "formal" circumstances) to dress business casual. My husband wore nice khakis, polo shirt, and penny loafers to my niece's graduation - I wore wide-legged trousers and a short-sleeve fitted blouse with chunky heels, and we were FAR more "dressed up" than a LOT of people there. But it was also HOT - around 93*F and humid. I don't think many people can be expected to wear ties/sport jackets in a crowded arena that is minimally air-conditioned. But you CAN look nice.
Husby does have some friends that live and dress like they're still hanging out at the frat house. If I don't want to deal with their asses, I just don't invite them. I *know* what they'll look like and I know how they'll act. It's just a part of knowing who your friends actually ARE.
Heck, a couple of months ago I went to a wedding and the bride had a #3 tattooed on the back of her arm.
I hit the trifecta in North Carolina LOL (1st was a guy pulling his check citation with a horse, the second was a lady using a mower for transportation at a party).
I hit the trifecta in North Carolina LOL (1st was a guy pulling his check citation with a horse, the second was a lady using a mower for transportation at a party).
It seems to me if someone didn't respect you then they wouldn't bother showing up at all. What they're wearing is a statement about them not how they feel about you.
I beg to differ, yes, if someone doesn't show up it might be portrayed as a lack of respect but if they show up in grubby wear it's also a lack of respect....make an effort ffs.
On the other side of it, I have a wedding to go to next year which I know will be very informal. I have a dress I'd love to wear, but it might actually be too much.
I need to find out what the bride is wearing so I can see whether I'll be dressier than her :ninja
I need to find out what the bride is wearing so I can see whether I'll be dressier than her :ninja
I see your point. I can agree that under dressing is disrespectful to convention. But I wouldn't take it personally if I were you. The fact that they came is probably proof they like and respect you.
I don't like to be under or over dressed. But some people don't do well with convention. I had a friend who would wear shorts and flip flops to church. Most of the men including myself wore a suit. He meant no disrespect to the people. He didn't even own a suit and not because he couldn't afford one. He was just a nonconformist in pretty much every aspect of his life.
lol I typed undressing instead of under dressing in the first paragraph. Fortunately I caught it while rereading. Now undressing at a christening would be very unconventional.
Funny, pretty much 10 months out of the year I wear gym shorts, button shirt and sandals to church. The way I see it, I'm there for the God as I believe him/her to be, not anyone else. I also figured that we come into this world wearing nothing but our birthday suits, and if I'm wearing at least something, I'm ahead of the game in most people's eyes. Ironic isn't it that clothes and "fashion" are a product of man, not God.
:thumbup Yep, you sound like my friend. He didn't figure God to be overly concerned by the way someone dressed. I dressed up because that's who I am. I like to fit in. But I was fine with his laid back attitude. Most of the people were but some were not.
The way I see it, I don't want anyone drawing attention to anyone when it's my day. I want the attention dammit!
I would have dress a little more proper for the occasion..had I not had the clothes I wouldnt have shown..thats just me.
Sometimes its hard to tell how other people are going to be dressed for certain occasions,as you arent familiar with the group etc.
I hate to overdue it as well..As I dont want to look like a show off or out of place.
In this situation I wouldnt hold it against anyone.
They may have not known what to wear
May have not had "dress" clothes.
May not be into getting dressed up at all...I know people like that.
They are clean and decent dressed whether going to the store of funeral.
If someone shows up for your function its probably because you wanted them to be there..not because they wanted to be.
They may have felt bad the entire time they were there..but felt obligated to go.
I hate to judge someone under such circumstances..I wouldnt be embarrassed with them being there.
They may have felt embarrassed..once they arrived..who knows.
Now if someone intentionally down dressed to "mock" a function thats a little different
Sometimes its hard to tell how other people are going to be dressed for certain occasions,as you arent familiar with the group etc.
I hate to overdue it as well..As I dont want to look like a show off or out of place.
In this situation I wouldnt hold it against anyone.
They may have not known what to wear
May have not had "dress" clothes.
May not be into getting dressed up at all...I know people like that.
They are clean and decent dressed whether going to the store of funeral.
If someone shows up for your function its probably because you wanted them to be there..not because they wanted to be.
They may have felt bad the entire time they were there..but felt obligated to go.
I hate to judge someone under such circumstances..I wouldnt be embarrassed with them being there.
They may have felt embarrassed..once they arrived..who knows.
Now if someone intentionally down dressed to "mock" a function thats a little different