Internet Relationships

[COOL_BREEZE2]

My niece announced yesterday that the young man she had been chatting with for approx 2 years turned out to be a fake. she had been talking about meeting him and hopefully marrying him one day, she was quite serious about the lad. turns out he is some older dude, playing games, with too much time on his hands. he's married, with a few kids well into his 50s (my niece is 24) he created a whole persona (what he did for a living, where he actually lived, his age)He faked a 'surprise visit to her' but didnt show up because he claimed immigration officials didnt let him through, they guys is just a nut IMO. I get that this happens on the internet all the time. i feel bad for my niece. i cant imagine having that much time on my hands and that much hate in my heart to pull something so elaborate off.

Wow. That's tough. 2 years you say too? That''s a helluva charade. Not nice at all.

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

i wish her story had a happy ending. i feel terrible for her, she was totally committed, she didn't see other boys, she just stuck with him, meanwhile he had this whole other life. faking his surprise trip to meet her, that took time and planning, what a scumbag.

That sucks big time. What's the use of stringing someone along like that for? I just don't get it.

 

[Dana]

I've been into a woman online. I've talk with a woman for 9 years. We had pics and a webcam we always wanted to meet each other but its never come to fruition. I would never devote myself solely to someone I can't touch daily or weekly. I loved her and still do but we both have lives outside the web and lifes twists and turns make things difficult. I think people should think before they leap into something like that.

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

E-relationships can definitely work, as long as you remain realistic. If the other is not willing to meet you in person or something always 'comes up,' run screaming.

I met my ex on a forum and we stayed together for 2 years. However, he also made trips here 4-5 times over those 2 years from the UK. And actually before him, I did all my dating strictly off the internet. I'm pretty sure it's virtually impossible to find a decent man in some hole-in-the-wall bar unless you're just after fun and games. The internet allows you to interview potential candidates worthy of your attention and affection. I like that.

True that. There's pros and cons.

And as for this...."If the other is not willing to meet you in person or something always 'comes up,' run screaming." I'd have to say you're right on target.

Personally, I've never been one for long distance relationships. I actually have a phobia about it I think. Generally if someone lives 15-20 minutes away from me I have reservations. Probably because I've been accustomed most of the time to having girlfriends who live close to me. I've actually broken up with girlfriends because of distance. Either cause I moved out of the area or she moved. Very serious about that. If I'm interested in someone and I find out she lives far I lose interest. Sounds shallow eh? But that is how it has generally happened in the past. And part of it is mainly too because of how others in similar situations end up. I know there are exceptions but still it's in the minority.

I've been in one heavy-duty long distance internet romance. But the difference was that there was a mutual interest to meet. And we did. The issue of hiding info and stuff wasn't a factor.

 

[COOL_BREEZE2]

I must interject - if an e-man showed up on my doorstep without letting me know beforehand that he was coming, I'd have no qualms filing a restraining order.

Note to self: Self, do not show up at Stella's doorstep.







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[TheOriginalJames]

i really don't believe in internet relationships. I can't understand why people would have them.

Try living in my shoes after my some 5 failed relationships and ex's in/just after highschool, my 3 years of actually going to bars trying to meet someone (meanwhile buying drinks and then getting walked all over), and my unwillingness to pay for an online dating thing like eharmony...

Then you'll understand.

 

[Keight]

Sometimes you can know more about a person if you and that other person are honest of course....
You will know things you wouldn't normally find out until further on in the relationship.
If you fall in love with a mind then everything else comes naturally

 

[Dana]

Try living in my shoes after my some 5 failed relationships and ex's in/just after highschool, my 3 years of actually going to bars trying to meet someone (meanwhile buying drinks and then getting walked all over), and my unwillingness to pay for an online dating thing like eharmony...

Then you'll understand.

:homo: although i still go out

 

[Obdurate]

Sometimes you can know more about a person if you and that other person are honest of course....
You will know things you wouldn't normally find out until further on in the relationship.
If you fall in love with a mind then everything else comes naturally

Word. Me and Katy talked for like a year and a half before we even met and we learned a lot about each other. Hell, we knew what each other would be like when we did meet because we talked so much.

Also, it gave us something to look forward to. Don't get me wrong, I wish I woulda been around her in person from the beginning but because we were far, we appreciate each other more. Seeing her for a week and then going home was the hardest thing I've ever done.

 

[Godsloveapples]

i wish her story had a happy ending. i feel terrible for her, she was totally committed, she didn't see other boys, she just stuck with him, meanwhile he had this whole other life. faking his surprise trip to meet her, that took time and planning, what a scumbag.

It's alright, she'll get over it. We learn from life experiences whether they might be good or bad and hopefully she has learned.

 

[Peter Parka]

I'm sorry but how the fuck can you be serious about and want to marry someone you've never met? Nothing wrong with starting a relationship on line but it's just that, a start. I could never even start to take it seriously until we had at least met.

 

[Dana]

I'm sorry but how the fuck can you be serious about and want to marry someone you've never met? Nothing wrong with starting a relationship on line but it's just that, a start. I could never even start to take it seriously until we had at least met.

:homo:

 

[Pheonix23B]

I'm sorry but how the fuck can you be serious about and want to marry someone you've never met? Nothing wrong with starting a relationship on line but it's just that, a start. I could never even start to take it seriously until we had at least met.

I dont get it either, i dont know how they talked or how their relationship went on for 2 years.

 

[groundpounder]

i really don't believe in internet relationships. I can't understand why people would have them.

^^I'm with bi-curious^^

I'm sorry but how the fuck can you be serious about and want to marry someone you've never met? Nothing wrong with starting a relationship on line but it's just that, a start. I could never even start to take it seriously until we had at least met.

Good grief, PP, but I don't think you've ever made a more spot on post! :clap

I repped both of these rep-worthy posts...:nod:

 

[Pheonix23B]

I agree, I stated the same thing on the 1st post of this thread. again, as much as she fell for him and got caught up in all this shit, he is still a bastard for his elaborate hoax.