This is a dangerous subject, and a relevant one. It is always about balance and moderation, as is anything in life.
Take someone like GuesSAngel: she is basically homebound and on semi-to-restricted bedrest. She posts here like crazy as an outlet and reaching out. I don't think she's a loser - it's very apparent that she has other things in her life that make her happy and she seems well-rounded (literally and figuratively
). She's not a loser.
You live halfway around the world, and yet you have found a community of people that accept you, talk to you over the internet, listen to you vent and in some ways help you work through your problems.
These are good things.
BUT, there is a side to all of this that is not what I would call sinister in nature, but it's sneaky. A person can get caught up in all of this very easily and two things can happen as a result:
1) Taking things online a little too seriously. This is the internet, and it exists inside a little box on the top of our desks, tables whatever.
It's not real, and internet arguing (and I don't mean debate on a subject but flamethrowing get downs) is the height of stupidity. Internet arguing is ridiculous.
2) Separating yourself from your real life. If a person posts on the internet as a primary means of communication, that is bad. That person needs to get out and meet people. This is fun, and it's great to post to you knowing you're halfway around the world. That is cool, isn't it? And how would we know each other otherwise? I like that. But we all should NOT let this or any other forum get in the way of our productivity at work, our personal lives, our family time or our romantic relationships.
Once posting on an internet forum does either one of those two things, your ex starts to become right.
As long as posting doesn't do one or both of those two things, tell your ex to fuck off.
