I'm afraid of my brother....

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So I have a brother who is 2 years older then me and 100 pounds heavier. When we were kids we were the best of friends but, then we grew up. At first he just you know ignored me as brothers and sisters do. Then he stole my money, my life savings actually.

What happened was he asked to borrow it to by some much needed parts to his pc and he would pay me back when he got the money. I said no for about a week because well it was my life savings but, I finally caved. maybe 4 months later we moved, and I unpacked my little money box that I keep my money in.

I found 50$ left and I flipped,cuz 500$ used to be in there, and now there was 50$. It didn't take me long to remember that my brother had borrowed it. When I comfonted him he not only flat out refused that he had taken it, he said that he had never even asked for it.

I didn't pursue it much because for the past year or so my brother just hits me when we are alone and he gets mad. Hard enough to bruise a few times, and he's choked me a few times too. I just run into the bathroom and lock the door but its still scary as hell.

So anyways my mom believes my brother because I didn't pursue it and I didn't pursue it cuz I don't want him to hit me. One time a few months ago I told my mom that he has been hitting me, and she just though that I was overreacting; because the first time he hit me and I called my sister because I didn't know what to do, she called my brother and told HIM to be careful because I overreact and he would get in trouble, then she called my mom and told her that the whole thing wasn't as bad as I said it was.

So now I don't get any support from my family and my only savings I have now is 200$ in the bank I was going to get a CD to save up for college once I reached 1000$ but, now that isn't going to happen... I dunno what to do, I can;t go to my family cuz they don't believe me, I can't comfront my brother cuz he'll hurt me, and... what will happen if I go to the authority's; nothing cuz they'll call my mom and she will say I over react and then I'll just be embarrassed. I'm sick of it and most of all I want my money back! :( What can I do?
 
AbriannaPeto said:
So I have a brother who is 2 years older then me and 100 pounds heavier. When we were kids we were the best of friends but, then we grew up. At first he just you know ignored me as brothers and sisters do. Then he stole my money, my life savings actually.

What happened was he asked to borrow it to by some much needed parts to his pc and he would pay me back when he got the money. I said no for about a week because well it was my life savings but, I finally caved. maybe 4 months later we moved, and I unpacked my little money box that I keep my money in.

I found 50$ left and I flipped,cuz 500$ used to be in there, and now there was 50$. It didn't take me long to remember that my brother had borrowed it. When I comfonted him he not only flat out refused that he had taken it, he said that he had never even asked for it.

I didn't pursue it much because for the past year or so my brother just hits me when we are alone and he gets mad. Hard enough to bruise a few times, and he's choked me a few times too. I just run into the bathroom and lock the door but its still scary as hell.

So anyways my mom believes my brother because I didn't pursue it and I didn't pursue it cuz I don't want him to hit me. One time a few months ago I told my mom that he has been hitting me, and she just though that I was overreacting; because the first time he hit me and I called my sister because I didn't know what to do, she called my brother and told HIM to be careful because I overreact and he would get in trouble, then she called my mom and told her that the whole thing wasn't as bad as I said it was.

So now I don't get any support from my family and my only savings I have now is 200$ in the bank I was going to get a CD to save up for college once I reached 1000$ but, now that isn't going to happen... I dunno what to do, I can;t go to my family cuz they don't believe me, I can't comfront my brother cuz he'll hurt me, and... what will happen if I go to the authority's; nothing cuz they'll call my mom and she will say I over react and then I'll just be embarrassed. I'm sick of it and most of all I want my money back! :( What can I do?
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so your brothers like umm 350 lbs.?:jk
 
Well it seems hardly likely now you're gonna get back any of that money since you don't have any proof of anyone borrowing or taking it. So you may as well forget about that and just try to be more particular in the future to safeguard it now as you know something fishy went on.

Regarding the abuse from your brother, he ought not to be hitting you and it shouldn't be encouraged. If he does, bring it to the attention of your parents regardless of you may not feel they are treating it as seriously as you think they ought to. It could be that they are thinking it's the normal thing that happens with kids growing up and getting on one another's nerves at times. Also do your best not to antagonize the situation between you two as best possible. That's the best advice I could think of at the moment.
 
Peter Parka said:
I'd be only too happy to give him a slap if I lived nearer! Really feeling like beating the shit out of someone right now and I'd really love it to be someone who totally deserved it!:nod:
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so heres what you do. you take your violent rage, you look in the mirror and start beating the crap out of yourself. then you get all the anger out and kick the shit out of someone who deserves it.

i tried many times to apologize if and how i ever offended you. you're anger to me sounds alot like jealousy.
 
ok, so this is probably not the RIGHT thing to do...but in a case like this the only thing I can suggest to make him back off is retaliation. Do something back to him...something he can never prove that you did. Or blackmail him...that way if he tries to come hit you he can't because he won't want his secret getting out.
 
As for the money, since there was no written agreement or witnesses, you're prolly outta luck. As for the abuse, if he leaves bruises, you need to go to the authorities...social services...because if your mom says you are overreacting, and you can show the bruises, they WILL look into it...and your mom could also be in trouble for allowing you to be abused by your brother and doing nothing. You shouldn't have to stand for that.
 
AbriannaPeto said:
So I have a brother who is 2 years older then me and 100 pounds heavier. When we were kids we were the best of friends but, then we grew up. At first he just you know ignored me as brothers and sisters do. Then he stole my money, my life savings actually.

What happened was he asked to borrow it to by some much needed parts to his pc and he would pay me back when he got the money. I said no for about a week because well it was my life savings but, I finally caved. maybe 4 months later we moved, and I unpacked my little money box that I keep my money in.

I found 50$ left and I flipped,cuz 500$ used to be in there, and now there was 50$. It didn't take me long to remember that my brother had borrowed it. When I comfonted him he not only flat out refused that he had taken it, he said that he had never even asked for it.

I didn't pursue it much because for the past year or so my brother just hits me when we are alone and he gets mad. Hard enough to bruise a few times, and he's choked me a few times too. I just run into the bathroom and lock the door but its still scary as hell.

So anyways my mom believes my brother because I didn't pursue it and I didn't pursue it cuz I don't want him to hit me. One time a few months ago I told my mom that he has been hitting me, and she just though that I was overreacting; because the first time he hit me and I called my sister because I didn't know what to do, she called my brother and told HIM to be careful because I overreact and he would get in trouble, then she called my mom and told her that the whole thing wasn't as bad as I said it was.

So now I don't get any support from my family and my only savings I have now is 200$ in the bank I was going to get a CD to save up for college once I reached 1000$ but, now that isn't going to happen... I dunno what to do, I can;t go to my family cuz they don't believe me, I can't comfront my brother cuz he'll hurt me, and... what will happen if I go to the authority's; nothing cuz they'll call my mom and she will say I over react and then I'll just be embarrassed. I'm sick of it and most of all I want my money back! :( What can I do?
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Wee in his shoes!:ninja
 
The best idea I have is to not be with him alone, then he won't have the chance, and if he does, then maybe they will believe you, they can't just ignore it when it is happening right in front of them.. If you can't not be alone, maybe buy a lock for your door and just go in your room and lock it till he leaves or till someone else gets home, go to a mates or just go for a walk for a few hours..

About the money, there is loads of money out there, I am sure you will be able to save it again, possibly never leave it alone, put it in an account you won't be tempted to use, so just have the card sitting around somewhere safe..

I'm really sorry you are scared, I hope everything gets better.. I know what you are going through...
 
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