i need some help pls

[matt0114]

its been a while since ive been to this site, some of you may remember me, some may not. i need some help with a relationship question. i have been dating this girl for almost 9 months now, and everything has been awesome, by far the best relationship ive ever been in... all of a sudden sunday night she seems upset and wants to go home early, i figured she was just tired or in a bad mood or something. Monday when i called her she acted like she was upset and didnt want to talk. After calling her twice i finally got her to tell me what was wrong, she said that i (me) had been in a bad mood all the time lately and was mad at someone at least once a day and she was tired of it. I told her several times i would try to change my ways and watch my temper, but she just kept saying that there is no need for me to change just for her... please help me, i cant take losing her right now.

 

[Peter Parka]

I hate to say it mate but I really don't think she's the girl for you if she's not even prepared to work through a fairly minor problem like this. To be honest it sounds like she was looking for an excuse to dump you. Has anyone else been telling you that you have this problem? Even if this is a problem I can't see why she wouldn't accept your acceptance of the need for you to sort it out if she really cares about you. I know thats probably not the answer you're wanting to hear and splitting up for whatever reason is painful but personally I think you're best just trying to get over her and moving on. Sorry!

 

[Darkstar]

Give it one more go to try and talk to her face to face. Its a little easier to read someones intentions when you are looking at them. Just explain that you didnt realize your actions and that you will try to change because you WANT to, not because you have to.

Hopefully, things work out. Good luck.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

Sure maybe she may be tired of your "ways" lately but that doesnt mean you just give it all up and walk away, especially after being together for awhile like yall have. Something else has got to be on her mind and she isnt saying. Maybe she is just scared to get real close. I was that way when I first started dating my husband. I was really scared to let myself get so attached because I just knew that I couldnt handle it if he ever left.
I wouldnt give up on her just yet. Let her know that you are truly sorry for your actions lately and you will really work on your "attitude".

 

[matt0114]

well, i just left her house on my way to school/work, we talked and she wants to take a "break" she said its not really me or my attitude, just that she has so much on her mind right now trying to find a job, having trouble with family/school and so forth. she said she still loves me just as much and all that good stuff....... i hate my life right now

 

[lemon]

disclaimer - i have not been in a relationship. with that out there ...

you hate your life? how is that? do you hate how things are turning out? do you feel guilty in some way for how it is turning out? remember - she said she needs a break - she has a few extra things on her plate that she is working on getting through at the current time. how does that make you hate your life? she just needs some space and time. let her have it. i think she would appreciate it.

 

[matt0114]

i hate my life because i feel that it is my fault, i must not have been there when she needed me. she was everything to me, and i feel like a dumbass to let this happen. maybe all she needs is a "break" but i still hate myself for making her feel this way.

 

[Peter Parka]

I wouldn't cut yourself up over it, mate, it sounds like she's the one who's got things to sort out. Nobody's perfect.

 

[Veronica]

make a grand gester... You know, buy her something nice, or take her out to eat and have a talk.

 

[matt0114]

ah, ty vs.....you always seem to have great ideas at just the right moment i think i'll give her a few days to start missing me and just go get some dinner or something

 

[Sam]

Matt ,

Get a special gift for her with some beautiful flowers, drop at her place when u know she will be there and give her a surprise, and take her for dinner to some good place....

Forget the past !! concentrate on present, just keep staring at her eyes .... it shud work .. 100 % gurantee ....

Ups and Downs are always there !!!

Just chill

 

[matt0114]

these sound like good ideas, but with one problem. she could care less about flowers, or jewelry or stuff like that. the only time i have ever seen her wear anything other than an ankle bracelet, is when she was at high school prom. she just doesnt care about that stuff, she would rather have a new welding helmet and thats not something you can just show up to dinner with

 

[Haus]

i think you should respect her wish and let you guys take a break. maybe its for the best. maybe she'll realize just what she had and come back or maybe she wont.

just my .02

 

[Peter Parka]

these sound like good ideas, but with one problem. she could care less about flowers, or jewelry or stuff like that. the only time i have ever seen her wear anything other than an ankle bracelet, is when she was at high school prom. she just doesnt care about that stuff, she would rather have a new welding helmet and thats not something you can just show up to dinner with

Sounds like my kind of girl!

 

[matt0114]

ya, you dont find girls like her very often.....thats why im so distruat
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[matt0114]

well, do to some of the most fucked up circumstances i've ever seen happen, we will never be getting back together.....now i'm just trying to pick up all the peices and start over, and it all hurts soo bad right now.

 

[Peter Parka]

well, do to some of the most fucked up circumstances i've ever seen happen, we will never be getting back together.....now i'm just trying to pick up all the peices and start over, and it all hurts soo bad right now.

Sorry to hear that, hope you get over her soon and find another girl worthy of your love.

 

[matt0114]

thank you all for your support and help on this matter happy days are sure to come again