You can ask.
We sit down and have discussions on world politics, computer technology advances, and medical news, as well as the events that occurred while he was sitting in a cafe online for the four hours between classes with a couple of his chums.
I sometimes receive a massage for my back, as it tends to ache a bit more these days. (I think I strained something, and should really probably go have it checked out.) We don't do anything x-rated until after we go to bed...usually. Depends on the moment.
*smiles*
Does that clear it up for you?