How forgiving a person are you?

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How forgiving a person are you? Does it depend upon the person involved? Would you forgive a sibling for a hurtful comment or action but not a best friend/partner/lover/acquaintance? Do you forgive but not forget?

What's the most unforgivable thing a person can do to you?
 
The most unforgivable thing would be to cheat on me. I think I tend to hold grudges a little bit...but it depends on who the person is I guess. Sometimes ill just let something slide...other times I cant let it go.
 
Eridanus said:
How forgiving a person are you? Does it depend upon the person involved? Would you forgive a sibling for a hurtful comment or action but not a best friend/partner/lover/acquaintance? Do you forgive but not forget?

What's the most unforgivable thing a person can do to you?
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I'm way too forgiving....I end up getting hurt over and over by the same thing. I might stay mad for awhile, but I always end up talking it out and wiping the slate clean.

Thats gonna be the death of me.

As far as unforgivable? Hurt my son in any way and your ass is mine...
 
I can sometimes forgive...after some time...but I will NEVER forget.

I can't really say what the most unforgivable thing a person could do to me..

Would have to be where my sister didn't show up at my wedding b/c she couldn't find a baby sitter...who could blame her though...she only had 6 months to look for one. She didn't even bother showing up at the chapel. what the fuck.
 
I hope I can say I am very forgiving person, so far I could say it. I forgive, but not forget, which is a different thing. I may not trust someone the same way but I forgive them and hope the best for those who have hurt me.
 
Darkstar said:
I'm way too forgiving....I end up getting hurt over and over by the same thing. I might stay mad for awhile, but I always end up talking it out and wiping the slate clean.

Thats gonna be the death of me.

As far as unforgivable? Hurt my son in any way and your ass is mine...
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Im the same way as Crystal here. Im waaay too forgiving. I dont forget things though but I forgive way to easy.
 
i think forgiving is something everyone should do, no matter what. regardless, if we do or dont though, the greatest forgiveness is not bestowed by us anyways. if you are cheated on, what exactly is being cheated on if the person who says they love u is doing it? what kind of love are you being cheated out of? it would pain me too, but what would i be loosing in the long run but something that wasnt as strong as it should have been. forgiveness is a life changer, as for forgetting, thats tough. i think you can forget to a certain degree, the pain can be easily forgotten i feel, but what is learned with that pain is the knowledge to not put yourself in the exact same position again, for example, you can love again, but probably not with the person who cheated on you.
 
SilentEyz said:
I never Forget, but I always forgive, and I will forgive too easy and too often. And I will get myself burned repeatedly for it.
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i too have felt the sting of being burned for forgiving, but again, what was it that was burned, my feelings and idea that proved to be incorrect? let me see if i can explain this better.....

Lets say u met someone and fell in love. and the two of you felt that the best way to make a bond was to buy a pig together (bear with me, lol, this is going to get wierder), so you go out and buy a pig (symbolizing love,lol) and bring it home and together you show much care. one day your loved one just decides to up and leave, and takes the pig with him. But the next day he comes back with the pig in hand, and you forgive him, because you love him and you want to take care of this pig with him. After this happening a couple times, he says he's leaving for good, and doesnt care about the pig anymore, and sets fire to the pig (lol, not funny).
It will burn you at first to see this happen, but what you find out (through this fictional tale) is that the pig was made of wood, not real, never real, it was not the pig you thought it was after all, so dont be too sad, because the real pig was never lost, only what appeared to be one
 
this is general discussion, not debate. no one is expected to defend their practices here.

i try my best to forgive and forget, let things go, concentrate on the future, etc. if what was done was so horrible, it'll just change my philosophy of how to handle myself next time. if i can find the strength to forget something that's bothering me, i absolutely will forget it. ignorance in bliss.
 
How forgiving a person are you?
"The king summoned the man and said, 'You evil servant! I forgave your entire debt when you begged me for mercy. Shouldn't you be compelled to be merciful to your fellow servant who asked for mercy?' The king was furious and put the screws to the man until he paid back his entire debt. And that's exactly what my Father in heaven is going to do to each one of you who doesn't forgive unconditionally anyone who asks for mercy."
- I try my very best to forgive and do not normally find it too terribly difficult to do. I'm not a grudge holder.

Does it depend upon the person involved?
- Not usually.

Would you forgive a sibling for a hurtful comment or action but not a best friend/partner/lover/acquaintance?
- Not usually.

Do you forgive but not forget?
- God can forgive and forget. I am definitely not that good. Forgive I can do. It is difficult for me to forget though. That does not however mean that I will punish the person forever for their transgression. Though in some instances, even though I forgive someone I may choose to not be around them anymore. I hold no ill will toward them, but just do not trust them anymore. This is not to say that if this person wants to earn my trust back that it would be impossible to do so.

What's the most unforgivable thing a person can do to you?
- I would like to think that nothing is unforgivable. But when it comes to my kids, I think I would really find it difficult to forgive someone if they were to hurt them, etc. I would really need God to help me BIG TIME with something like that.
 
Sometimes I feel I'm a little too forgiving. I remember back in January, Encyclopedia Dramatica raided a forum I'm on, and hacked an admins account and fiddled with the CP, replacing the banner with porn, and putting filters on many words to replace it with something offensive, (E.G. Replacing the letter "a" with "KILL ALL THE NIGGERS AND JEWS"), and completely destroyed the forum. Yet, I forgave them, and still visit ED.
 
Its a horrible trait of mine,.. but I don't forgive much and I don't forget ever. I'm still holding onto things from when I was around 6 years old. I have a crazy memory and I can for the most part repeat something said to me that was hurtful word for word years later. I tolerate more than i forgive and forget. I never said it was a good thing, it was just how I was made.
 
redsMULLT1 said:
Its a horrible trait of mine,.. but I don't forgive much and I don't forget ever. I'm still holding onto things from when I was around 6 years old. I have a crazy memory and I can for the most part repeat something said to me that was hurtful word for word years later. I tolerate more than i forgive and forget. I never said it was a good thing, it was just how I was made.
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I feel you on the toleration .. seems that's all you can do sometimes these days, people will just wear the forgiveness right out of you. Do they not realize that there is a limit to it? It's not endless for god's sake. :yuk
 
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