How Do You Know Who To Trust?

[Peter Parka]

I ask this question because I have very little social awareness. If some one seems like a nice person, I'll do what I can for them. I guess I've been lucky up till now and my insticts have been right. Last month however, I invited a friend of a friend back to mine because he was in a right state because his girlfriend was sleeping with another man and he walked in on them. He was in a state, talking about killing himself, talking about killing her ect. We calmed him down and we ended up back at mine having a party. After he went, I discovered that he'd nicked 20 quid, all my tobacco and a used razor, for some strange reason. I just dont get why anyone in that state would do that. I'm not even bothered about what he nicked, it's the fact that someone would take advantage of someone helping them like that. What he nicked dosent bother me, I know exactly where he lives and I will get what I'm owed back, stupid prick, but wtf???

 

[JoeCool10]

Fuck that. That's why I don't let people in that I don't know even the slightest bit about. I have to get a feel for them before I even start to hang out with them. I've had to many people lie to me, steal from me and then go behind my back. I did the same thing you did, and she ended up stealing money and other things from me. It's like, I'm giving you a place to stay, food to eat, and money if you need it. WHY WOULD YOU TAKE THINGS? I don't understand either.

 

[itsmeJonB]

I have trust issues I don't know who to trust at all there's a lot of decent people in this world but there's also a lot of rotten people in this world. I'm starting to discover the best liars in this world aren't actors but people in our life who take nice people like you and I and manipulate them

 

[Alexis]

Y'all should be Ashamed of yerselves! Just ashamed! I've found a group of people I can always trust. They're called Dead People! That's right! Dead! They're the nicest folks you would ever want to meet! They won't steal from you, won't tell ya lies! You need to re-think this whole not trusting people nonsense!

 

[anathelia]

I don't. I don't trust people.

Been burned too many times.

So no one gets past my walls.

 

[dkwrtw]

I'm too trusting of people

 

[Peter Parka]

Y'all should be Ashamed of yerselves! Just ashamed! I've found a group of people I can always trust. They're called Dead People! That's right! Dead! They're the nicest folks you would ever want to meet! They won't steal from you, won't tell ya lies! You need to re-think this whole not trusting people nonsense!

Not much good unless you're a necrophilliac though

 

[Siphorous]

Not much good unless you're a necrophilliac though

Or Herbert West :nod:

 

[Tuffdisc]

Y'all should be Ashamed of yerselves! Just ashamed! I've found a group of people I can always trust. They're called Dead People! That's right! Dead! They're the nicest folks you would ever want to meet! They won't steal from you, won't tell ya lies! You need to re-think this whole not trusting people nonsense!

I sense a goth here :24:

 

[Zorak]

To be fair, you never really trusted him. He just took advantage of your kindness.

I feel sorry for those who can't trust anyone. It makes life much easier. I find it perfectly easy and natural to trust my girlfriend, my father, my best friend etc...

 

[Niamh]

I think trusting people until they give you a reason not to trust them isn't a bad thing. Going through life not trusting alot of people isn't great imo but I also think that not learning from you mistakes, as in trusting someone who has shown themselves to be untrustworthy already is just stupid, that saying "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" is very true

 

[sexysadie]

It sucks when somebody takes advantage of your kindness and your trust, I mean, you opened your home to this person, your family, your life and in turn he robs you.....what kind of person does that?! What makes me angry is in knowing that this man didn't only rob you of material things, he robbed you of your ability to trust the next person as fully as you trusted him and that's ashame because the next person could be legitimate.

 

[Tuffdisc]

In my books trust is earn't, rather than face value 'emotion'

 

[hart]

I have been very lucky in my life. I have very seldom misjudged someone and when it happens I feel shame on them not me. I like people and can genuinely find something I can relate to with them, don't always come to like them-but I can at least communicate with most.

Now you do something wrong to a friend of mine or a loved one and I'll yank you tongue out and stomp on you.

 

[Panacea]

I think it's always the best just to think the best of people right off the bat, but keep your valuables (money, dignity, secrets) close to the chest until you've known someone for a really long time. Even then, you never know, but being paranoid and thinking the worst of people because a lot of them are shitty just ends up more miserable than being played a fool now and then.

 

[ATKU2]

Sorry to disappoint any of you (not really sorry), but my opinion is this...

"You cannot trust anyone but yourself."

 

[Francis]

Sorry to disappoint any of you (not really sorry), but my opinion is this...

"You cannot trust anyone but yourself."

While to an extent I do believe that myself in some circumstances, you do have to extend trust to people in others..

As an example, you must trust a doctor to do an operation if you have a car accident and require one..

No matter how faint that trust will be it is there..

Now if you have friends or later in life when you have kids and let them come to your house, you will "trust" their judgment in that you hope people will be honest.

Unfortunately we all run into some scum at some time in our lives, some earlier then others, that steal from us..

 

[ATKU2]

While to an extent I do believe that myself in some circumstances, you do have to extend trust to people in others..

As an example, you must trust a doctor to do an operation if you have a car accident and require one..

No matter how faint that trust will be it is there..

Now if you have friends or later in life when you have kids and let them come to your house, you will "trust" their judgment in that you hope people will be honest.

Unfortunately we all run into some scum at some time in our lives, some earlier then others, that steal from us..

In all honesty, i trust those who are required to be trusted, but I come prepared in case of any dangers that may lie ahead. It's best to be ready for the dangers, than to let them endanger you.

 

[HK]

I trust my partner, and my close family. Other than that, I only trust other people, even friends, to a degree.

It's my own fault because I don't get close to people, so I don't have very very close friends, just people I like. So although I trust them to a certain degree, it's not anywhere as close to how much I trust my boyfriend.

 

[Mystic]

i trust ppl pretty easily i think. I think my track record for being taken advantage of is proof of that...lmao I'm getting better tho.

Peter you and ya wife can come to Canada anytime and stay with me and mine. I trust you. Few on here i'd say the same to actually, as I have spoken to a few of you on the phone and just have got to know you through your posts.- like the fuzzies, Natasha, V, Moony, Cam, alien....etc. A lot of you i see as pretty decent and wouldn't be scared to meet you in real life. Might be a bit daft, i mean ya can say anything ya like and it could be a compete lie, but i'm a bit of risk taker that way.

In my real life... i trust ppl at different lvls. I mean thats normal. You have certain ppl you'd feel comfortable doing or saying something in front of them and then there are those you hold back a bit.

I have two best friends that i can say and share anything with and would trust my life to them and i am sure they would me too. But no one else has reached that lvl of trust with me. These two woman have been in my life for many years, since we were kids so the trust has been built up over time....as it should really.