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[Apriluvsyoo21]

It is wrong to hit women but that doesn't mean things don't get heated sometimes. But abuse begins with a pattern, and you have to really look at your situation and ask yourself if this is a pattern. I actually know both Clare and Mat and I just think you need to ask yourself if you fear this becoming or if it is a normal thing. If your heart is telling you to stay and you really were seeing red than that's probably just what it is.

Actually that may not have been completely clear, money certainly can add stress to a situation, and it's been my experience that this is a very unusual thing for you two. It seemed like you were both really angry. I just think you should listen to what your heart is telling you.

 

[alleycat]

Not only is it wrong to hit women, it is wrong to hit men also! You should never lay a hand on someone else. We have all evolved into a superior species from the violent apes of the past. We have language to express emotions. Violence just reverts back to primitivity.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

i dunno if i really hit him or not...i am trying to remember and i dont think i did..

 

[Maritxu]

If he did hit you... I'd leave him. Don't allow that, you don't deserve it. I would tell it to you and to every woman on earth. Seen this too many times..

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

Drunk_emoticon::smiley24::alcoholic::crazy:uke::willy_nilly:

 

[Haus]

Sorry, absolutley no excuse to ever hit a woman.
what would happen in the long run if you got in an even more heated argument. you got to think about this. and i think you are.

i know he's your fiance but if i was there i would hope he had good dental insurance cause i would of knocked his teeth down his throat he would be shitting them out for weeks.

 

[Bekk]

I'm conflicted. I guess actually I can't really differentiate between my heart and my mind. One of them is telling me stay and the other is telling me go. I just can't tell which one is which, or which one is right.

Usually with marriage a level of doubt like this is a clear cut sign that the marriage simply wouldn't be right. This kind of doubt is your gut's way of telling you that something's not right with a given situation and that you need to be free of it. It's hard to walk away from something so serious, but if your relationship was solid enough for marriage would you honestly be experiencing this much doubt? His actions may take you by suprise, but perhaps your peering into a window of the real him that you have yet to see but will inevitably be there when the fascade fades.

 

[Homer]

i think you guys should rethink everything in your relationship before getting married , one thing i will say is if you guys are fighting now and drinking is involved it's just going to get worse , infact i know someone who was in that kind of a relationship and it wound up in the death of one of them from one punch .

 

[sharpies]

It really is about a pattern of behaviour & it seems to me that this is not the first time you have brought this up, so it is definitely time to reconsider your choices.

Whether you stay or go is up to you, but these thing usually have a habit of escalating. For your sake Clare, think very hard on it.

Good luck

Allan

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

we don't fight very often. We bicker a lot, but it's over petty dumb shit and normally does not escalate. About the drinking thing, I didn't even have enough money to go to the store adn buy liquor last night so that never happened. He doesn't drink at ALL (he hates alcohol) and I drink maybe 2 times a month. So that was really pretty unrelated, I just felt like having some drinks to sooth myself. And Allan, this is definitely the first time he has ever gotten violent with me. We have had issues with arguing in the past, but never ever on this level. My problem is...what is the difference between just having cold feet...and really needing to call it off?

 

[Homer]

i'll just say one last thing in 30 years i've never even come close to hitting my wife no mater what was going on in our lives , take that for what it's worth. ps if one wants to get physical well hit the badroom and fuck.

 

[sharpies]

I agree with Homer, I have been married for over 24 years & have never used violence against my wife.

If you were, at any point, afraid of being hurt physically, then "cold feet" may well be the healthiest feeling you could have.

Allan

 

[Jersey]

geeze-- i only left for a weekend!!! oy vey- im sorry clare bear