Going up my parents were always around. They are in love. Like crazy in love to this day. My father pours her bath every night and never misses a meal with her. He rushes home to see her. They were by far the best parents a kid could ask for. Do you think that this would effect me ? Like I guess what I am getting at is that if my parents were divorced would this change how I am towards my wfie today ? I was just thinking of my friends that had there parents break up. There f'd up now. Can keep a girlfriend for more then a month. Or maybe I was just lucky to meet my wife now. Having childeren now makes me wonder this stuff. I just hope I do half as good a job that my parents did. I feel sorry for kids that don't have someone to turn to.
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That's sweet and I often wonder the same thing.
My parents aren't the lovey-dovey type, but they're truly in love, each other's best friend. Honestly, I find them adorable.
I've always searched for what they have...maybe it's an unrealistic goal, maybe I view them differently because they are my parents and I don't notice some not-so-great aspects of their marriage, but kudos to them if the not-so-good parts exist because they've certain hid them from us, and I appreciate that.
I think they've raised me to show respect to my husband as they show one another...whether they realize it or not.
Ugh..I don't know, I could babble one, but I won't bore anyone.
Good for you for thinking of such things though - the fact that you care enough to think about it shows that you're on the right track, imo.
My parents aren't the lovey-dovey type, but they're truly in love, each other's best friend. Honestly, I find them adorable.
I've always searched for what they have...maybe it's an unrealistic goal, maybe I view them differently because they are my parents and I don't notice some not-so-great aspects of their marriage, but kudos to them if the not-so-good parts exist because they've certain hid them from us, and I appreciate that.
I think they've raised me to show respect to my husband as they show one another...whether they realize it or not.
Ugh..I don't know, I could babble one, but I won't bore anyone.
Good for you for thinking of such things though - the fact that you care enough to think about it shows that you're on the right track, imo.
My parents were very much in love till the day my dad passed. My mom still held him close in her heart and was truly mourning him till the day that she passed away.
Now I have a woman in my life that has made me feel so alive and in love. I hope that we can maintain this love, as my parents did and her parents did as well.
Now I have a woman in my life that has made me feel so alive and in love. I hope that we can maintain this love, as my parents did and her parents did as well.
Joe the meek
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Without a doubt, the answer to your question is YES.
You would be amazed at what some kids have to go through.
I remember one of our kids coming home and while eating their afternoon snack turning to my wife and asking, "When are you and Dad getting a divorce?" My wife had to explain that we were not going to be getting a divorce. Seems most of our kid's friend's parents were seperated or divorced. Our kids were starting to think that was normal behavior. We have been the exception to that rule almost 30 years and I do not see that changing. My wife's parents celebrate their 54th anniversary this year and my Mom never re-married after my Dad died.
StripedCat
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I think, I'd be the complete counter-evidence to your thesis, redliner.
My parents got divorced when I was very young, and the divorce went on for years and came along with so much fighting (for the right of custody).
My Dad married again rapidly, and the time with my stepmother turned out to be pure horror for me as she hated me, harassing me wherever possible (call me a modern Cinderella
). *shrugs* After I moved out, my dad separated from her.
Currently, my dad will be divorced for the third time. *tilt* (Hopefully, he has learnt now from it).
Of course, all these experiences HAD an influence on my thinking and the way I chose the men I wanted to be with. Always searching for someone to protect me, someone to love me, and always tending to clutching and co-dependency. And every relationship broke after a certain time.
Thus, for many many years I refused to ever think of marrying (in my opinion back then, marriage just leads to divorce and fighting).
These days, having found "Mr. Right", I have been living in a happy relationship for 12 years now, and have been married for 3 years. And everything's fine. And the fear that I could somehow repeat my dad's experiences or his mistakes, or even could show behaviours of my hated stepmother, did not come true.
Nonetheless, what has to be mentioned, is, that my hubby and I HAVE HAD fightings and times where I wouldn't have bet a penny on our relationship. But instead of instantly separating, we stuck together and finally overcame our problems.
In the end, I think that childhood experiences and what a child experiences from it's parents WILL affect it's later life. But it doesn't automatically have to be in a negative way. Bad parents, for example, might just be an example for how you never want to be and which behaviours to avoid.
(I hope that was clear enough. It's always difficult to write such long texts in a foreign language)
My parents got divorced when I was very young, and the divorce went on for years and came along with so much fighting (for the right of custody).
My Dad married again rapidly, and the time with my stepmother turned out to be pure horror for me as she hated me, harassing me wherever possible (call me a modern Cinderella
). *shrugs* After I moved out, my dad separated from her.Currently, my dad will be divorced for the third time. *tilt* (Hopefully, he has learnt now from it).
Of course, all these experiences HAD an influence on my thinking and the way I chose the men I wanted to be with. Always searching for someone to protect me, someone to love me, and always tending to clutching and co-dependency. And every relationship broke after a certain time.
Thus, for many many years I refused to ever think of marrying (in my opinion back then, marriage just leads to divorce and fighting).
These days, having found "Mr. Right", I have been living in a happy relationship for 12 years now, and have been married for 3 years. And everything's fine.
And the fear that I could somehow repeat my dad's experiences or his mistakes, or even could show behaviours of my hated stepmother, did not come true.Nonetheless, what has to be mentioned, is, that my hubby and I HAVE HAD fightings and times where I wouldn't have bet a penny on our relationship. But instead of instantly separating, we stuck together and finally overcame our problems.
In the end, I think that childhood experiences and what a child experiences from it's parents WILL affect it's later life. But it doesn't automatically have to be in a negative way. Bad parents, for example, might just be an example for how you never want to be and which behaviours to avoid.
(I hope that was clear enough. It's always difficult to write such long texts in a foreign language)
I know I miss my parents....just hope that their influence and behaviors can rub off of me....they cared so much about us and their sacrifices were ones that made me think of what I have today would not be without a tip of the hat to them.....
HotelCoralEssex
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It won't only affect how you treat your wife but also the position you're in now. My parents pretty much told me from a young age that they're only together to support me, I think it put me under pressure.. and well, I feel like at times I kinda just caved in. Feeling pretty hollow a lot of the time just when I think about it like that.
Either way I'm certain the way your parents expressed or displayed their relationship to you has huge effects on your life.
Either way I'm certain the way your parents expressed or displayed their relationship to you has huge effects on your life.
MainerMikeBrown
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My parents are like a couple of lovebirds. My mother is always talking about how cute my dad is and vice-versa.
no comment just another post towards 10,000
btw the Chinese dont subscribe to your theory and there are millions of them
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pandandesign
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I think having parents around isn't that bad because they have supported me all along. They are there for me when I need someone to talk with. I don't think I will be able to survive without having my parents around, although they can be a little annoying sometimes. I like having them around because that is what makes a family a true family. Think about a kid doesn't have parents around, what do you think he or she will think about that? Lonely? Sure. I think there is just more to that word.
All the discussion is very intersecting here. I love my grand parents they live their happy old age in assisted living. My father says they can live there with necessary old age living facilities. We go every Sunday to meet them.
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ReadmeByAmy
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I cannot imagine myself how will I live my life without having my parents around me. Now that I am married already they are still there to support me emotionally and give good advice whenever I had a problem. All of us their siblings are praying for their long life so that we can still be together as one big happy family. We all value their sacrifices in order for us to be a better person what we are now. They are one of a kind and their unconditional love for each other and the way how they takes care of our family will be our guide and inspiration which will serve as good examples for us to do the same to our own families. :thumbup for my parents
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