Grandparents Coping with Autism

[Aeval]

Maybe it's a bit of everything. She may be feeling frustrated because she can't "help", I'm sure it pains her to see him unhappy/angry, maybe she's frustrated because she's been away from home for so long and a bit out of her element.

It could be a combination of many things and she just had a bit of a melt-down.

Education is the key, imo, the outbursts might not seem as scary if she knows what's happening inside. Taking her along on appointments seems like a good idea too. The more you understand, the more you can cope.

Panic seems to be the key emotion here right now...maybe you and her should just go out and treat yourselves and discuss everything openly an honestly, away from home so there's no distractions.

Sorry...I feel like I'm interfering by offering my opinion because I have NO idea what you're going through.

The only slight comparision I have is: I was a step-mom to a little girl with RTS for a few years and I know how frustrating times can be when it seems as though you're on different planets but it never changed my love for her then or to this day.

Good luck and I hope everything sorts itself out.

 

[Jersey]

I think she just needs someone other than you telling her Austin doesnt understand. Unfortunately if she's gonna live there she's gotta take the good and the bad

 

[Jezzebelle]

you are help, believe me. Just talking about it helps. You are a strong woman for dealing with what you are dealing with!


There isnt many groups around here.. However, I was thinking about taking her to the pyschologist the next time I went..

That's what I was going to suggest. Sometimes others hearing it from a "professional" and getting tips to try, makes it more real than just mom saying so. My step son hits on the Aspergers scale, and while you wouldn't know it now if you met him... he was a different kid 6 years ago. I think the books and her going to the psychologist would do wonders. It's hard to be so involved (if she's living with you everyday) and not have a sense of control of the situation, which she probably feels responsible for (when she's in charge of their care). Being more proactive about his care (like reading, and going to the Dr.) should help a lot!

Good luck to you <3