good lord! will it ever end!?

[BreakfastSurreal]

Yeah so apparently I was supposed to sit on my ass at home ALL DAY LONG and wait for my old roommate to come get his check...I went to the pool for like 30 mins, and then after i get back I get a nasty phone call, him yelling at me that I was supposed to be home. WELL I never talked to him, nor got the message that I was supposed to stay here all day, and I was never asked if I would be home. What if I had plans?! I didn't, but I'm not going to let my whole day revolve around someone else supposedly stopping by, someone who i dont like at that. I told him what the fuck, and hung up on him. He calls back and I tell him I don't appreciate the rudeness, and that I didn't do shit to him, and I'm sorry if he is pissed for having a shitty life but that he made that choice for himself. Next, his MOM, whom I've never ever met, calls me and says in a VERY nice (but very sarcastic and condescending) tone that she can't wait to meet me and that either we can do this nicely or that she can call the police. I mean COME ON...I'm not going to start any shit that the police need to be called over...I am not like HER SON who can't stay out of jail for more than a month. I am just very very nervous of them coming here, and I hope I don't get bum rushed and robbed or anything. Id oubt he would do that, but he never ceases to amaze me so I'm not too sure. Also, Matt refuses to just revoke his bond. This really pisses me off. He OWES US MONEY. We need to at least use that as leverage for him to pay us. UGH.

 

[GuesSAngel]

if you have proof that he lived there, take it to the courts.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

ugh and i just thought of this..when his mom called she mentioned "coming to pick up all his stuf"...well we are holding his records and his bong until he pays us the $150 he owes us, and we had agreed previously to that. I am standing firm on that, but I hav ea feeling they are going to want to start shit over me giving them those items...ugh my stomach hurts now. WTF why cant they wait until matt gets home?!

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

he owes us $150 im not going to take the time to take him to court over that shit. But I am going to hold his records and bong until he pays up! Also not to mention he was matts best friend, he was supposed to be in the wedding too, but I would really rather he jsut not even come now. He called us a day after the last day for tux fittings...figures!

 

[Tim]

So when the bitch comes over, inform her that you need to get your money. Tell her that you have already talked to the bond agent about revoking his bond if you don't get the money. Give her something to think about, make sure she needs to be nice to you as long as you are holding the bond.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

of course matt wouldnt let me do that. He insists on helping this guy till the day he dies, because he thinks he OWES him something. That is complete and total BS. We owe him nothing. Hell I'm even ready to let the $150 debt go provided he stop talking to matt. Of course, eh came over and got everything, including the shit we were holding as collateral for the money (matt told me to give it to him). UGH I feel like chopped liver. I am disgusted that matt would let a "friend" treat us this way and just go along with it. He associates my true feelings with me just wanting to start drama, and htat is completely untrue. I am hurt by what this guy has done to us...mostly to matt, and how he destroyed their friendship.

 

[Tegan]

Maybe I just don't want to deal with anymore? I don't hang out with him, he is dealing with his own shit, I rarely talk to him, I said give him his stuff because the $150 bucks is not worth the drama his little peon family and friends bring, it's just not. I DID owe him something, I don't anymore, it's settled. Whether you like him or not, or whether he does stupid shit or not, doesn't change the fact that he is my friend or that I care about him, I just can't help him anymore and he knows it. I've told him as much. I am basically cutting ties and moving on and you should to. I've already let it go and moved on, yet you are still here ranting about it. I AM taking his bond out of my name, but I am not going to revoke it and have him arrested on bond jumping. For what? Just to be a dick? No, I am going to have it gracefully removed from my name so he doesn't go to jail over it.

 

[SRC]

I would call and have his bond revoked .. tll them what time he is gonna come pick the check up .. invite them in .. wait for him to show up .. let him in .. hand him the check and then introduce him to the bail bondsman .. who will take him to jail if his wonderful mommy doesn't wanna resign for him.

He will go to jail regardless if you take your name off the bond. Someone else has to sign or he is in violation of the law. Make it easy on the bondsman, hand him over.

 

[Tegan]

Why? What's the point in that? Just to be a vindictive prick? No thanks, I believe in karma and don't live my life like that. Especially when I can get it handled in such a way that no one gets bent over and screwed, especially not over 150 dollars when this guy already took a possession rap for me.

 

[SRC]

Because if you dont and he doesn't show up for court .. YOU .. not him .. will be responsible for his fines. He doesn't sound very reliable or nice. He also sounds very irresponsible .. so putting that financial resposibility off on you doesn't sound like a far fetch.

It's not about being a prick .. it's about self preservation at this point. You'd also be doing him a favor by turning him over .. they will let someone rebond him if you do that .. they won't if they have to chase him. And if they have to chase him .. if he ever needs bonding out again .. no one will touch him.

I quit bonding people out years ago .. when someone did that to me. Now it better be one damn good friend or a family member, and even then I might not do it.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

Because if you dont and he doesn't show up for court .. YOU .. not him .. will be responsible for his fines. He doesn't sound very reliable or nice. He also sounds very irresponsible .. so putting that financial resposibility off on you doesn't sound like a far fetch.

It's not about being a prick .. it's about self preservation at this point. You'd also be doing him a favor by turning him over .. they will let someone rebond him if you do that .. they won't if they have to chase him. And if they have to chase him .. if he ever needs bonding out again .. no one will touch him.

I quit bonding people out years ago .. when someone did that to me. Now it better be one damn good friend or a family member, and even then I might not do it.

and THAT is the point I have been trying to make that matt doenst seem to understand. I UNDERSTAND what you are saying matt but i dont think you are grasping the potential seriousness of the situation. I do not want your name behind billy for one second longer than it has to be...his mom wants to call and threaten me, LET HER put her name on his bond!!! Plain and simple, i DO NOT TRUST HIM because of the people he hangs out with, and the insane amount of manipulation that goes on there with that group of people...I don't want to marry soemone who potentially could have $10,000 they owe because of a stupid friend.

 

[Tegan]

Yes, but I can get my name taken off of his bond without resorting to such extreme things as revoking and having bonding agents in my house.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

THen DO IT. and stop wasting time with it! He has already been in jail once since he moved!!! He is STUPID STUPID and WILL get in trouble for SOMETHING else again I guarantee it. I just don't want you to be brought down for someone elses mistakes matt. He's been gone for a month now, there is no reason you couldnt have had it done bynow!

 

[SRC]

Actually, taking your name off his bond is bond revokation .. unless there is someone else willing to rebond him at the time you take your name off. He can't just remain "on bond" without a signature from someone willing to take responsibility for him.

 

[Tegan]

Yes, you have screamed this point at me for the last two hours, I get it at this fucking point, ok? I swear to god though, if you don't stop with the "I am not going to marry you unless" BS, we are going to have a real serious problem, because I am about tired of that. This isn't the first time you have used that BS, and that kind of boy cries wolf crap doesn't go over well with me.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

umm but this is SERIOUS matt. This is something I VERY MUCH am concerned with...I'm not yelling at you..I'm telling you to do something, and instead of getting that "no one tells me what to do" attitude, why don't you take some good advice. I'm not going to leave you but GOOD GOD just do it already! PLEASE.

 

[Maritxu]

I had similar problems with money and roomates
It all ended up bad... but still I'm glad it's over

 

[Ria]

Well, I sort of agree with you Clare and matt.

Yes, matt should revoke his bond, by all accounts.

Yes, doing it in a way that allows less fuss etc, is fine Matt and yes, moving on is the best thing to do.

However, to appear more concerned for this guy than the fears and worries of the woman that you are almost about to marry, is a bit harsh.

It is very stressful arranging a wedding and all that goes with it as it is - for her to just have that weight off her shoulders, would be a great relief for her and she can have her special day and yours, free of worry and tension.

It is up to you, obviously, but the woman you are about to marry, over the bloke that messed you around, used and abused his time with you in yr home - I know where my morals would be, that's all.

I hope you both can get this resolved very quickly, before the wedding - you don't want this hanging over your heads, surely, the day you walk down the aisle to marry?

 

[Dodge_Sniper]

Yeah so apparently I was supposed to sit on my ass at home ALL DAY LONG and wait for my old roommate to come get his check...I went to the pool for like 30 mins, and then after i get back I get a nasty phone call, him yelling at me that I was supposed to be home. WELL I never talked to him, nor got the message that I was supposed to stay here all day, and I was never asked if I would be home. What if I had plans?! I didn't, but I'm not going to let my whole day revolve around someone else supposedly stopping by, someone who i dont like at that. I told him what the fuck, and hung up on him. He calls back and I tell him I don't appreciate the rudeness, and that I didn't do shit to him, and I'm sorry if he is pissed for having a shitty life but that he made that choice for himself. Next, his MOM, whom I've never ever met, calls me and says in a VERY nice (but very sarcastic and condescending) tone that she can't wait to meet me and that either we can do this nicely or that she can call the police. I mean COME ON...I'm not going to start any shit that the police need to be called over...I am not like HER SON who can't stay out of jail for more than a month. I am just very very nervous of them coming here, and I hope I don't get bum rushed and robbed or anything. Id oubt he would do that, but he never ceases to amaze me so I'm not too sure. Also, Matt refuses to just revoke his bond. This really pisses me off. He OWES US MONEY. We need to at least use that as leverage for him to pay us. UGH.

Regarding the waiting for something thing, I agree. My sister went out one day and did what she wanted and expected me to sit on my ass and wait for HER XBOX 360 to come from UPS, as if I had no other plans.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

Matt has agreed to get the bond thing taken care of, and I REALLY really hope it's before the wedding, but I trust him and I trust he will do it and need to stop bugging him...so it's up to him now to do it, and I am not going to bother him anymore about it.