Girls are the most confusing thing on earth

Haus

Haus

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So ive been seeing Katie. decided to take the chance. she tells me the other day that she feels its going to fast. i said ok, well slow things down. so i see her tonight and after the date i give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

i go to go home and get a text from her saying thanks for diner. i text back and say your welcome. then she says you dint kiss me. then i meet her at a diner with her friends and after eating i give her a kiss good night. get home and she says she feels rushed.

WTF :smiley24:
 
Haus said:
it wasnt the kiss that made her feel that way. it was when i hugged her and i said i dint want to let go.

so i just told her we'll take it slow. hang out. build a friendship and take it from there
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Next time just hug and kiss her but forget about the "I don't want to let go" part.

Don't rush hug-kiss her. Take it slowly and savor the moment. Gently hug her, not squeeze...then move one hand up slowly along the side of her arm to the side of her neck...so as to gently caress. Avoid grabbing her by the back of the neck and pulling her toward you. That would most likely scare her and make you seem too needy. You want her to be as relaxed as possible and feel safe. If there's chemistry things would naturally flow.

Just about when the timing is right you may lean gently to kiss her goodnight if it comes to that. You don't want to aim directly for the lips just yet if it may be awkward and you are unsure. It may be more prudent to give her a soft kiss on the cheek......and if you are lucky and the vibes are right, she may adjust so as to offer you the lips of which you would ever be so grateful. Ahhhhh but here's the catch.....don't make it seem that you are overly grateful that you slobber her with your lips and tongue. That's a no no for most girls esp at this point. Of course, if she doesn't offer you the lips don't force it or make it an issue. She may just be not ready yet or whatever.

If you are lucky to be offered the lips, instead of slobbering her, try to just gently kiss her. Again, do not force the tongue. If she opens her mouth for you, instead of rushing in gently kiss/suck on the upper/lower lips for a bit in a somewhat teasing manner. Sometimes less is more...if you get my drift. Then later on when the vibes are right it's game on.

You may have realised I repeated "gently" quite a few times. There's a reason.

May the force be with you.
 
Maybe you should tell her that when she is ready .. she can kiss you. Put the ball in her court.

I hate wishy washy girls .. she sounds like she might be playing a little game. She's 24 yrs old .. she's not old enough to eb "scarred" from anything imo. Unless she's been raped or something, of course.

At 24 years old you ar ein your prime .. and if you let soemthing like someone telling you "I don't want to let go" bother you .. you have serious issues. That's a compliment .. she should have been flattered .. not told you to back off.

I would look at someone saying that to me in 2 ways.

1. She's either seeing someone else and doesn't want to get close to you yet .. before she knows if she wants it to work out with the other guy, or

2. She's not someone who has "serious" relationships .. and if that's what you ar eafter .. you should move on. Quickly.

That's not fair to you imo. Youobviously like this girl, she obviously knows it, and she's purposefully pushing you away .. knowing you will come right back again.

That is a game, in it's purest most simple form.
 
ive been backing off quite a bit. saying things like we''ll go out to eat and chill

then she responds "Chill eh"

but were going out to night. we'll have a good time im sure and then i may just give her a hug and a small kiss

her friend Bill is going through the same thing with this girl nicki. taking things slow. he's confused as well with his girl

he told me last night how things are going with me and katie and i told him "i thing very very good. i like her alot but were juust taking things slow right now.

he said hes doing the same thing with Nicki. then he said "slow and steady wins the race"

now im stressing out about Valentines day. not a freaking clue on what to do. i need suggestions
 
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