Genuine People....

[dt3]

Its trying to beat out other people to validate yourself. Comparing yourself to others. And glorifying something petty.


My direct definition of what being genuine is: Being true to yourself and to others.



What is your definition dt3?

What Audra posted is exactly my definition

 

[DoctorDisco]

What Audra posted is exactly my definition

–adjective 1.possessing the claimed or attributed character, quality, or origin; not counterfeit; authentic; real: genuine sympathy; a genuine antique. 2.properly so called: a genuine case of smallpox. 3.free from pretense, affectation, or hypocrisy; sincere: a genuine person. 4.descended from the original stock; pure in breed: a genuine Celtic people.

Seems a bit too formal and vague.. not to mention copy and pasted


You must have a barrier up the size of The Great Wall of China :ninja

 

[dt3]

You must have a barrier up the size of The Great Wall of China :ninja

Huh? :confused

 

[lumpenstein]

That is what my answer to the topic meant, yes.

Very insightful of you

People have what is called mating rituals. We all do it. The men puff out their chests and act tough while the girls paint their faces, plump up their cleavage and show off their legs with short skirts or tight jeans. It's all a game and there's nothing un-genuine about it. Getting a mate is one thing but keeping them is an entirely different matter.

 

[DoctorDisco]

Huh? :confused

A barrier is something that people put up when they are around people they don't trust

It hinders your creative expression

I am open to being wrong

 

[DoctorDisco]

People have what is called mating rituals. We all do it. The men puff out their chests and act tough while the girls paint their faces, plump up their cleavage and show off their legs with short skirts or tight jeans. It's all a game and there's nothing un-genuine about it. Getting a mate is one thing but keeping them is an entirely different matter.

This is true

Although there is a time and place for everything

And if your going to fuck over your real friends for a one night stand.. we could be understanding of that.. but sometimes its not appropriate

 

[dt3]

A barrier is something that people put up when they are around people they don't trust

It hinders your creative expression

I am open to being wrong

Maybe you don't know me well enough to realize I have no barrier

 

[AUDRAA]

This is true

Although there is a time and place for everything

And if your going to fuck over your real friends for a one night stand.. we could be understanding of that.. but sometimes its not appropriate

so what this really boils down to is youre pissed that youre friends are acting like guys there age should and standing you up for women

 

[sierrabravo]

People have what is called mating rituals. We all do it. The men puff out their chests and act tough while the girls paint their faces, plump up their cleavage and show off their legs with short skirts or tight jeans. It's all a game and there's nothing un-genuine about it. Getting a mate is one thing but keeping them is an entirely different matter.

yeah you gotta work hard to keep what you got... that is unless you marry a seacow and youre the source of food...:ninja

 

[DoctorDisco]

Maybe you don't know me well enough to realize I have no barrier

Your right, I don't know you at all

I am just surprised you guys haven't experienced the kind of situation I am talking about.. maybe its because your older and those days of immaturity have long passed

 

[dt3]

Your right, I don't know you at all

I am just surprised you guys haven't experienced the kind of situation I am talking about.. maybe its because your older and those days of immaturity have long passed

I think the majority of us agree that what you're describing is normal. It happens.

 

[lumpenstein]

This is true

Although there is a time and place for everything

And if your going to fuck over your real friends for a one night stand.. we could be understanding of that.. but sometimes its not appropriate

That's it right there. You don't fuck over friends.

Ever.

If you do you didn't deserve them in the first place. It may sound academic but we must remember to keep friends and lovers separate. You also don't fuck friends because as soon as you do they stop being friends.

 

[wednesday]

Wow this thread is so deep i got lost on page two.
Ill come back later, i have a bed head....but genuine to me is someone who is sincere in all they do and say.

 

[Meirionnydd]

That's it right there. You don't fuck over friends.

Ever.

If you do you didn't deserve them in the first place. It may sound academic but we must remember to keep friends and lovers separate. You also don't fuck friends because as soon as you do they stop being friends.

Exactly.

Bro's before ho's.

Its the one of the main rules of mateship. Right up there with 'no cock blocking'

 

[DoctorDisco]

Wow this thread is so deep i got lost on page two.
Ill come back later, i have a bed head....but genuine to me is someone who is sincere in all they do and say.

Oh my Lanta someone actually answered the question.:eek

 

[Peter Parka]

There's lots of genuine people around, unfortunately a good chunk of them are genuine arseholes.

 

[AnitaBeer]

So if we run my thread your way: does anyone else have a word for my definition other then genuine?

Someone who does not allow emotions and desires to control them self.

In a debate you can always disprove but you need an alternative to support.

So a genuin person is someone who doesn't allow emotions or desires to control themselves?

Then you will NEVER find a genuin person based off of that. No matter what people say we are driven by our emotions. Some just chose to keep those emotions and desires to themselves. There isn't a signle living person who can say they never do things based on emotions.

Also not sure what someones looks have to do with whether or not a person is genuin. Just because someone is better looking than you and gets more attention doesn't mean they aren't genuin it just means they aren't going to shy away from life just because they are a nice person.

I'm still very confused as to what you are thinking genuin means. But ya based on what I've read from you then I would say you don't know a single genuin person and you yourself aren't even genuin because everyone acts on their emotions and desires at some point and time.

 

[DoctorDisco]

So a genuin person is someone who doesn't allow emotions or desires to control themselves?

Then you will NEVER find a genuin person based off of that. No matter what people say we are driven by our emotions. Some just chose to keep those emotions and desires to themselves. There isn't a signle living person who can say they never do things based on emotions. They are just so torn up inside they don't see it that way.

Also not sure what someones looks have to do with whether or not a person is genuin. Just because someone is better looking than you and gets more attention doesn't mean they aren't genuin it just means they aren't going to shy away from life just because they are a nice person.

I'm still very confused as to what you are thinking genuin means. But ya based on what I've read from you then I would say you don't know a single genuin person and you yourself aren't even genuin because everyone acts on their emotions and desires at some point and time.

That was an example

I believe that assholes are really good people down beneath their 100s of feet of very liquid stupid. They are the people who let insecurity rule their lives and dictate their actions.

I believe that genuine people have these emotions.. but they are honest and upfront about them.

For example: This last weekend Tom kept making fun of my intelligence in front of my friends. I had a bad day and instead of lashing back at him and having a power struggle.. I said to him: "Tom, I understand you think this is funny, and I do too at times. But right now I am in a bad mood and when you say those things I feel even more inadequate"

After that me and him had a heart to heart.. and I figured out he had a bad day too and he just wanted to get my goat. Our talk helped him with his problems more then what he wanted: which was a fight.

You see how my definition of being genuine cured his asshole syndrome? Polar opposites. Which means that my definition has proof of validity. Were all genuine.. its just showing your genuine is the hard part that makes you "genuine"

 

[AnitaBeer]

But just because he had an off day doesn't mean he's not genuine. I think your putting yourself on a pedistal. You will have times in your life that you don't act perfectly either. No one is perfect...not even you.

 

[DoctorDisco]

But just because he had an off day doesn't mean he's not genuine. I think your putting yourself on a pedistal. You will have times in your life that you don't act perfectly either. No one is perfect...not even you.

I didn't mean to sound cocky - - I am a dumbass

I am trying to give an example of how people really think.

What would you call an ungenuine person? An asshole. Someone who is constantly superficial, condescending, manipulating, or aggressive.

So take Toms little episode and pretend like he has trouble coping every day.

He would treat women like objects. Friends like vantages for manipulations. And parents like an ATM machine. Which appears wrong.. but he doesn't see it as wrong. He sees it as surviving in a terrible and twisted world. What Tom doesn't know and didn't know when he was bothering me was that he wasn't being realistic.