Facebook and Cheating

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I watched The View today. Whoopie Goldberg, Barbara Walters, etc.

Anyway.... They were discussing Facebook and Cheating. Actually.... Divorce. They said that 20% of divorces mentioned Facebook as being the cause. Seems the spouse was looking up and hooking up with old lovers or schoolmates, etc.

What made me laugh is how it was mentioned that cheating was harder before Facebook, the internet, etc.

You had to get all prettied up or hunked up for the guys.... find time away from your SO..... hit the bar, club, whatever.... and meet another.

At least you could see if the other person was a complete drunk, druggie, jerk, etc., before going too far. LOL!

What do you think? Facebook the cause of Marriage break ups? Or was the Marriage in trouble to begin with?
 
in trouble before. Sure it's easier to find old friends on Facebook than it is real life, but the chances are in real life the contact would be physical therefore more chance of cheating. So while Facebook is a slight cause it certainly isn't the major one.
 
My girlfriend caught her boyfriend making sleazy statements to another woman on FB. They were all mutual friends. It turned out he was seeing the other lady on the side and neither one could keep it a secret. They broke up, naturally, and now that the "forbidden" is old rote, he has been begging her to take him back. No dice.
 
I agree the relationship had to have been in trouble to begin with. Sure FB makes things 'easier', but the temptation still has to be there, and not only the temptation but the follow-through. Ugh.. don't get me started on relationships. I just got out of one!! :surrender:24:
 
PERSONAL OPINION (on cheating in general)

It is only cheating when you are flirting or being intimate with someone else without your "partner" allowing or agreeing that it is ok.

So, if you are in a relationship, and you are well, flirting with someone else, that's kind of messed up... cause, it would feel bad to know that your partner may be doing the same to you...

It's like that one saying I hear everyday
"Do to others, what you would want done to yourself"

But, then again, that saying is also misleading... it should be: "Do to others, what you would want done to yourself... unless it's something bad."
 
I think most people are looking for a sexual relationship when they venture outside a committed relationship. Not sure they are looking for love as much as lust. Easy to think things would be better with someone painting a picture of sensuality & sexual fulfillment. When the reality hits it is often too late and you have ruined what you had for what you thought you wanted. I believe the internet is the gateway to a great many destroyed relationships.
 
funny is how a lot of people blame the internet ..but all this was way before the internet...

like example my inlaw say all the time when she hears something on the news look where the world come too it was not like this before ...but really it was the same ... just the TV radio and the net now make us learn this faster and also stuff that was no way to know

only the technology change and how people cheat ....like everything else have change.... the people didn't ...
and it is no more now.... just different how it happens
 
I have to agree with everyone else that the problem already existed.

With new technology, comes new avenues to show us the cracks in our relationships... its up to us on how to deal with them. Of course it also throws the idea of the traditional relationship into sharp relief. Some people are comfortable in the classic definition of a "marriage" or relationship... some are not, and it's high time that instead of trying to fit themselves into a small little box, they really should try to build a relationship in a new format!
 
funny is how a lot of people blame the internet ..but all this was way before the internet...

:homo:

People have always cheated and they always will.

Back in the 50's if the man would cheat on his wife, she would most likely know about it but not say anything because he is the one with a job. She was dependent on him and needed his income. But with more women employed than men today, they won't put up with that shit.
 
I have to agree with everyone else that the problem already existed.

With new technology, comes new avenues to show us the cracks in our relationships... its up to us on how to deal with them. Of course it also throws the idea of the traditional relationship into sharp relief. Some people are comfortable in the classic definition of a "marriage" or relationship... some are not, and it's high time that instead of trying to fit themselves into a small little box, they really should try to build a relationship in a new format!

We should all be swingers, that would solve a lot of problems. :D
 
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