Ever want to move back "home"?

[Aeval]

I grew up in a small town and hated it, I couldn't wait to get the hell out. I lived in Toronto for a few year and figured I was going to make my new home there....well, after a few years, I couldn't wait to get home again, I missed it, I missed almost everything about it.

I moved home to help my mom after she suffered a couple of strokes, it wasn't a planned move, but I'm very glad I did it. I now live about 2 hours from my mom and dad - in the community my dad grew up.

I love it and wouldn't have it any other way.

 

[darkcgi]

When I was a teen I could think of nothing more than to get away from my town
Now I want to live there forever
Biloxi

 

[KLD1019]

oh dear jeebus no! HELL NO!! i live about an hour away from my hometown and i still dont think thats far enough sometimes!! LOL

SMALL TOWN, everyone knows everyones business and everyone is in everyones business. people think they're better than you and look down on you just cause they 'can'. FUCK THAT SHIT!! GROW THE FUCK UP ALREADY!!

the ones who didnt 'get out', are jealous of the ones who did and even more jealous of the ones who got out and STAYED OUT. they expect for you to 'fail' and come crawling back to 'nothing' and when you dont, you can tell that it just pisses them off that you succeeded!

 

[darkcgi]

my town/city wasn't where everyone knew everyone
but its got that home town look feel and spirit with having the everyone knows everyone
its too big for that
its got that beach resort feel that hasnt built too many buildings and doesnt have too much traffic
super awesome skies nice beaches (x on the water though you can get great see food just dont expect the clear waters ours is brackish rich with plankton and looks like it almost muddy but the color is dark grey you can go about 12 miles out and get deep blue waters and semi clear waters on the islands)
its a tiny mix of New Orleans / Florida
only one walmart
3 major grocery stores and a handfull of casinos
lots of vacancy due to the hurricanes sand is on our hwy the runs along the beach edge


I thought I wanted the big city life or the crowded beach life of cali when I was a kid
nope to many people trashy stinking sidewalks and too expensive

 

[pjbleek]

New England has been my bread and butter all my life. mom left Ireland at 18, she saw no future and after relocating in the greater Boston area she never left. I had often wanted to get away from here, but the reality is that now that I am married my wife want to explore and we did that driving to her mom's house in Milwaukee last summer. Driving places puts it into perspective...stay where you are, you know the area and it aint all that bad at all....

 

[rback33]

LOL I have never left... my hometown is like KLD's... maddening at times, but there is NO better place to raise children.

 

[AUFred]

I was born in Montgomery, Alabama. Before I was a teenager I moved to Wetumpka about 20 miles away. Moved back to Montgomery for college. Then moved to Dothan, Alabama about 100 miles away. Close to 20 years ago I moved to Prattville which is in the tri-counties area with Montgomery & Wetumpka. I consider Wetumpka home because I graduated there and my Mom still lives there. I don't want to live there.

 

[satinbutterfly]

I have no desire to move back out into the country. Small town life didn't really bother me... in fact I felt very fortunate to get the education I did because it was a small town. I just don't like having to drive at least an hour to get pretty much anywhere. I enjoy my city conveniences.

 

[Dana]

I've never left "home"...and I'm trying to fix that now. I've lived in Middle Georgia all my life. My family, my friends, and my roots are here...but it's time for me to start fresh somewhere new.

I'm with you on that one... Definitely need a change of scenery.

 

[nadrrek]

Where I used to live was a place called Penicuik on the other side of Edinburgh, and I moved over to where I live now when I was about 11.

However I have absolutely no desire to move back there. I'm 19 now and I've spent my teenage years here, and I more consider here to be "home" than the place I was before.

 

[Leah Love]

oh dear jeebus no! HELL NO!! i live about an hour away from my hometown and i still dont think thats far enough sometimes!! LOL

SMALL TOWN, everyone knows everyones business and everyone is in everyones business. people think they're better than you and look down on you just cause they 'can'. FUCK THAT SHIT!! GROW THE FUCK UP ALREADY!!

the ones who didnt 'get out', are jealous of the ones who did and even more jealous of the ones who got out and STAYED OUT. they expect for you to 'fail' and come crawling back to 'nothing' and when you dont, you can tell that it just pisses them off that you succeeded!

Sounds like you lived in my village... tho that can't be right. My gran doesn't know your entire family history

 

[skyblue]

i was born in gloucester and we moved to the industrialised midlands in the mid 60's...and i'd love to move back to gloucester all these years on

when i've been down there it always seems to be much more chilled out

 

[acctnt shan]

I grew up in New Jersey in the country - my mom's house is something like a 10 minute drive from the closest traffic light, to give some perspective. It was a small town, pretty stereotypical country... the county is something like 98% white, most people are Protestant or Catholic in religious affiliation, and most people do not leave. Even the kids who do get out for college, mostly come back to settle.

I knew I had no desire for that lifestyle. I wanted new experiences & diversity in my life, but I'm also super close with my family. So when it came time to look at colleges, I focused only on ones that were in or near a city, but still within 5 hours of my home. I ended up living in Philadelphia for the 4 years of my undergraduate studies. I didn't really love Philadelphia itself, but I did really enjoy having all the resources and experiences of a city around me. So when I started looking for graduate programs, I again focused on major cities. And that ended up taking me to Boston, which I think is loads more resident-friendly than Philadelphia (albeit wayyy more expensive). I like it here, a lot... so I'll probably stay here while I'm still a young professional.

However, as I get older and start thinking about my plans to start my own family, I find myself considering the move back to New Jersey. I want to have the support of my family when I decide to have my own children some day. I want my parents to be able to see their grandchildren whenever they want to. I want to host family dinners and holidays in my home. Etc, etc.

I don't want to go back to the town I grew up in, God's no... but I wouldn't mind living 30 minutes to an hour away from there. If we (my BF and I) moved to central Jersey, I could see that being the perfect place to settle down and grow roots - some day (like I said, not quite there yet). His family lives in Philly, so it would be better for both of us, as well as our relatives, who I know miss seeing us more regularly. And there are some really cute suburbs that are within a 30 minute drive/train ride of NYC, which I think would totally be win-win for us.

 

[Accountable]

I don't really have roots because I was put in the foster care system when I was 13. Most of my high school students' families have lived in the same neighborhood for generations. They have a marked ignorance of the world, and definitely lack interest to find out about it. BUT they have a sense of permanence, security, and belonging in their community, and that can't be discounted. I kind of see it as my job to stretch them to make them aware of things outside the neighborhood and (fingers crossed) build interest in them, without eroding those very strong roots.

I envy them their roots.

 

[AstriaPorta]

SMALL TOWN, everyone knows everyones business and everyone is in everyones business. people think they're better than you and look down on you just cause they 'can'. FUCK THAT SHIT!! GROW THE FUCK UP ALREADY!!

how true is that
a reason i hate small places

 

[Jezzebelle]

I was born in Montgomery, Alabama. Before I was a teenager I moved to Wetumpka about 20 miles away. Moved back to Montgomery for college. Then moved to Dothan, Alabama about 100 miles away. Close to 20 years ago I moved to Prattville which is in the tri-counties area with Montgomery & Wetumpka. I consider Wetumpka home because I graduated there and my Mom still lives there. I don't want to live there.

We had a job in Montgomery and had to hire a good bit of local labor for help for a few months.... WOW, never have I seen such sad life stories laid out in official documents before me (hand written birth certificates, 45 year old preachers who knocked up 16 year old women on birth certs, felons, criminal history, illiteracy, etc). Just over and over. It's like a flash back in time there to the 40s.

 

[Jackass master]

I moved from where we had lived to the mountains 8 years ago and never want to go back. A visit a few times a year is more than enough for us. Up here it is more dirt roads than paved and only 2 traffic lights in the whole county. Almost as many Amish buggies as cars. Have my grave already dug right here on the farm so I ain't going nowhere except down a couple feet.

 

[Sneakiecat]

I would never want to move back to where I was born but I would like to move back to Florida some day. The area where I spent my teens and early twenties is fantastic (except it's a little too close to my parents). But besides snow and traffic, I really do like where we live. It has a smaller town feel but we are right next to D.C. so we have so much to do as a family.

 

[KLD1019]

My hometown is so bad, that i actually didnt go to the yearly festival this past year. its a HUGE thing there, and going is almost like a religion! its nice to see old friends (real friends) and the food is amazing and its just fun. but the fakeness has gotten to be too much for me! i remember 2 years ago (the last time i went) and was talking to a couple of old classmates. we talked about how things have been with eachother and all that. they were completely shocked when i said i just had ONE kid and didnt want anymore. they asked "how do you just have one!?" I said "um, cause i only want one, i know what causes it and im on damn good birth control! its not hard to do (or not do!)" seriously, they looked at me like i had 2 heads! THEN we got to talking about what we do. Answered with being a stay at home mom and do you know what one had the nerve to say!? "So, you're on welfare!?" IM DEAD SERIOUS!! there's nothing wrong with being on welfare, dont get me wrong. but to ASSUME someone is on it because they have kid(s) and dont work and actually ASK, is just appalling!

that just did it for me.

 

[CaptainTurtles]

I turned 22 yesterday, I moved to Canada from the UK almost two years a go now. On my own, to live with my now fiance after I met him whilst travelling out here. I always figured if things didn't/doesn't work out it's only a plane ride away back to Wales. Don't regret a thing.

Naturally I miss friends and family, the food, the places I would go to. But then I give myself a shake when I realise how much happier I am out here!! Internet is great for keeping in touch with them all, and I quite enjoy trying to make the food I miss and can't buy out here. Right now I can say I have no intention of going back but who knows about the future..