Does age play a part in ability to raise Children?

[JoeCool10]

Statistically speaking, 40% of children born today are raised without a father. This has nothing to do with age. What else is surprising is that children are less affected by a death of a parent than the divorce of their parents. 75% of teen marriages will end in divorce. The reason I bring this up is because teen marriages are usually the result of a pregnancy.

I always recommend to the youth that you live your life as full as you can before you have children. This is even after you get married. You need to take the time for you two as a couple because once you start having children, the time for a couple goes out the window and the children will be the primary focus of the relationship, meaning the children dictate EVERYTHING.

Having said all that, age plays no part in the ability to parent. Humans are genetically coded to care for their young. Whether they choose to ignore this comes with maturity, because putting yourself first when you have children is no longer an option, which is something most young parents don't understand, but this also applies to older parents.

I do know this, you cannot be a "friend" to your children regardless of how close in age you are. You need to parent them all the way into adulthood. The time for being their friend will come when they are in their 20s because this is when they finally realize they don't know shit and will ask for advice. I think this is lost on today's teenagers, parents try to be their friend and let their teens walk all over them with no respect. This is not how the world works.

Amen.

Amen.

Amen.

And Amen.

This is probably the best answer :thumbup:thumbup

 

[KLD1019]

Amen.

Amen.

Amen.

And Amen.

This is probably the best answer :thumbup:thumbup

i agree except for this part

meaning the children dictate EVERYTHING

YOU (general) are the parent, not the child(ren). children only dictate 'everything' if you let them

 

[JoeCool10]

i agree except for this part

YOU (general) are the parent, not the child(ren). children only dictate 'everything' if you let them

I think he meant in the sense that they're pretty much what you have to plan around. If one gets sick, that dictates whether you and hubby are still gonna be able to go to that movie you had tickets to see, etc, etc.

 

[BadBoy]

i agree except for this part

YOU (general) are the parent, not the child(ren). children only dictate 'everything' if you let them

Sure, you can go have sex while they play in the other room, or take a vacation or even run out of the house real quick to run an errand whenever you want :sarcasm

The point I was trying to make was that they don't tell you what to do, they are what you are doing, plain and simple.

 

[JoeCool10]

Sure, you can go have sex while they play in the other room, or take a vacation or even run out of the house real quick to run an errand whenever you want :sarcasm

The point I was trying to make was that they don't tell you what to do, they are what you are doing, plain and simple.

What I said lol.

 

[BadBoy]

What I said lol.

Yeah, sorry. I didn't refresh the page before posting

 

[Tim]

I believe that in most cases, yes, a couple/person in their late 20's would make better parents. They're more mature, and would have dealt with other types of responsibility previous to having the child so would be more prepared to cope with dealing with a child. I would imagine that someone in their late twenties would also be more financially secure. Obviously, like everything else there are exceptions on both sides but I think, it's fair to say that in general it's better to become a parent in your late 20's than in your late teens.

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The jump in maturity between teens and late 20's is huge.
Teens don't need to worry about paying bills, paying rent, putting food on the table, keeping their car operational, keeping a job, caring for others, etc.
The transition from living care free in your parents house to making it on your own is hard enough without the responsibility of providing 24/7 care to a infant/child. Can it be done? Absolutely but there will be sacrifices made to do it. Most young mothers will lose out on finishing their education, those who do manage to finish school will do so at the expense of their child in missed time with them.
Just look at your typical teenager and see how many have the patients to handle a screaming baby...

So does age play a part in the ability to raise a child? Yes it does, and that's why you will never here any parent advising a teen to get pregnant. The advice will be to wait until they are older, and there is a reason for that advice.