Do You Hate?

[Minderella]

But you can't control something that has already happened, so why bother hanging onto it? I have friends that think the way you do and I just don't get it, I feel you're (general sense) missing out on so much by allowing that to linger.

Yes--it's happened, and I can't change that it happened. I don't spend all that much energy thinking about him, or how much I hate him or what he's done to me--etc. There are some days now when he doesn't ever even cross my mind.

I hang on to it, because the whole situation has fucked me up SO entirely that for me--"letting it go" would be like pretending it never happened, and I can't do that if I want to get better. It's directly changed the entirety of who I am as a person--maybe in the long run for the better, but right now it just kind of sucks. *shrugs*

 

[porterjack]

Yes--it's happened, and I can't change that it happened. I don't spend all that much energy thinking about him, or how much I hate him or what he's done to me--etc. There are some days now when he doesn't ever even cross my mind.

I hang on to it, because the whole situation has fucked me up SO entirely that for me--"letting it go" would be like pretending it never happened, and I can't do that if I want to get better. It's directly changed the entirety of who I am as a person--maybe in the long run for the better, but right now it just kind of sucks. *shrugs*

i agree - to some extent experiences good and bad shape us as we grow, make us who we are - when they are profound and effect us deeply we have to take from them, they never leave, the trick is to earn to take the positives and I know Minderella is doing this, to do anything less would be self destructive

 

[Aeval]

i agree - to some extent experiences good and bad shape us as we grow, make us who we are - when they are profound and effect us deeply we have to take from them, they never leave, the trick is to earn to take the positives and I know Minderella is doing this, to do anything less would be self destructive

This. Very well said.

 

[teh_fuzz]

I can honestly say there isnt a single person i hate... well maybe that one dude that flicks his boogers in the stall at work.
or the people who cut in line on the freeway after ive been waiting trying to merge into 610 by the Galleria area... or Mitt Romney and Obama since they somehow got a hold of my cell phone number and decided to spam me for my non-existent vote :|

 

[darkcgi]

spam callers
it started this week
I get about 10 calls a day
I have learned its faster to pickup and hangup then let it go to vmail
several times I have picked up wait till they started talking and then make really weird noises or scream into the phone
its very amusing to me