Do you consider "Oral Sex" Cheating?

[Weebs]

First off I havent met you yet so welcome
Secondly, yes I do think that should be considered as cheating the last half of it is sex right? Sex is sex whether its oral or the traditional way of intercourse.
Oh and thirdly if him being afraid of losing everything is his reason for not wanting a divorce thats a bogus reason if you ask me, yes majority of the time the man gets screwed. I didnt do that to my ex and part of the reason I think we have such a good relationship now is because of that, but you stated that the children are grown and yes, Im sure it will have some kind of emotional affect on them but they will be able to understand it better than a small child will. There is obviously some kind of issues happening that are causing such a breakdown in their relationship. Has he thought of marriage counseling if he wants to salvage things with her?

Counseling for my "Friend" might be a possibility. Throwing his hands up and divorcing no matter what the outcome, is not an option for him. His daughter and son live at home still at ages 24 and 28. His daughter is getting married in October of this year. I think if he makes any kind of move at all, it would be after that. I don't think he wants to soil his daughters' day.

I don't know what I can bring to this forum other than the occasional wise ass comment... but I like it here, and thanks for the welcome.

I couldn't even imagine having everything I worked for, and towards, for all my life, taken by the person who betrayed me. No words could describe how empty you must feel after that.

He's hurt, but I don't think he'd be down for long... He might not have much more than an empty apartment for a while but I won't let him feel too sorry for himself, or become a bitter S.O.B.

If I were your friend I would do all I could to reveal the truth even if it means deceiving her to find out. He's been given reason to have a concern and if I were him, I would rather cut my losses and get divorced if it were true than to live it down and die without my dignity.

Principle must come before pleasure.

I agree.

I have a different view on oral sex than a lot of people. I consider it to be one of the most intimate forms of sexual contact. I would not only consider it cheating but a HUGE betrayal.

Losing everything wouldn't mean shit to me...I wouldn't stay married to someone that I couldn't share my life w/ and trust they would keep it in confidence. Fuck that.

People.. THIS is how it's done.

I think she said it just to hurt him and mess with his head. Just sayin.

You know if that's the case she's a fool. After getting caught red handed in a bunch of lies to begin with.

whyd you wait for me to answer it before you did...

This exchange between what I assume is husband and wife, literally had me laugh out loud.


Thanks everyone for answering. I am not sure what my "Friend" is going to do if anything, but at least most agree that oral sex behind your signifigant others back is indeed cheating.

 

[Staci]

you would be correct about husband and wife LOL

 

[Staci]

on thing i am really surprised about is more men NOT saying that oral is cheating. i guess i have been under the wrong assumption for many years, or growing up the men/guys around me had a different view on it.

 

[Weebs]

on thing i am really surprised about is more men NOT saying that oral is cheating. i guess i have been under the wrong assumption for many years, or growing up the men/guys around me had a different view on it.

The wife knows I rub one out once in a while.. She does too, but to me unless you have some kind of open relationship where it's agreed upon beforehand... BJ's behind each others back is just bad joo joo..

Then again what with people sewing themselves together ass to mouth, in a centipede formation these days.. (I never even heard of that before) I realize maybe I am a bit behind the times. lols

 

[Staci]

The wife knows I rub one out once in a while.. She does too, but to me unless you have some kind of open relationship where it's agreed upon beforehand... BJ's behind each others back is just bad joo joo..

Then again what with people sewing themselves together ass to mouth, in a centipede formation these days.. (I never even heard of that before) I realize maybe I am a bit behind the times. lols

most people do masturbate.....that, in my opinion, is not cheating....how can you cheat on yourself? lol i just seriously thought that men did not consider bj's a cheating...you know the whole bill clinton thing

 

[Merciless]

I would also agree that is cheating!!!

 

[Francis]

most people do masturbate.....that, in my opinion, is not cheating....how can you cheat on yourself? lol i just seriously thought that men did not consider bj's a cheating...you know the whole bill clinton thing

Not quite sure which men you have been talking to, but I think they have been pulling your chain, as all those I know consider a BJ sex.. IJS..

 

[Niyi Briggs]

Any sexual act that you are performing on a person that is not your spouse is cheating. No two ways about that. Giving another person a blow job is cheating and shows disrespect to your partner.

 

[Nomad]

This reminds me a movie that I watched many years ago, where a woman says "front" is for her husband and "back" is for her boyfriend, so that she never cheats on her husband and never cheats on her boy friend.
Oral sex is certainly cheating, I would even consider smooching and kissing as cheating.