Do All Men Watch Porn?

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Weebs

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who cares about men. we need a chicks who watch porn thread

Early in our relationship I caught my wife watching porn. I walked in and she was half nude with some pillows in front of the tv/vcr. Remember VHS?

Anyway, to make a long and obscene story short, We had some amazing sex on the dining room table that day...
 

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Re: What man DOESN'T watch porn?

Another thread with the same subject LoL

Anyway, as women we cannot give an accurate answer in regards of ALL men, and there are men who will lie about if they do or do not watch it, fearing judgment and such.
So for my part I will assume that they all do, and act like they don't. :p

Watching porn is ok, imo, and it shouldn't have a negative effect on the women's self esteem just because the man watches it. Just because he watches some doesn't mean he doesn't desire her. And if he PREFERS porn when he has a willing female at his disposal then more than likely there is something wrong with his wiring, rather than something wrong with the woman, tho I am not saying this is always the case.

There can be a multitude of reasons. The human psyche is very complicated and problems from any area of life can have a negative effect on the libido and sexual performance ability of both men and women. In this case porn can be a way to get release and pleasure without the pressure and fear of failure.

Another thing to consider is that sex is give and take, you have to pay attention to your partner. In a loving relationship you'd feel guilty if you just used your partner for your own pleasure and ignored theirs completely, leaving them frustrated, unsatisfied and maybe even questioning their worth and the relationship. And in cause of a hand job or oral sex there is also the prospect of "owning one" to the partner. In light of this, masturbating to porn is a much simple and a purely selfish notion. It is all about you, your pleasure, your release. And sometimes it is not even about the pleasure, but about being bored out of your mind, or heck, the inability to fall asleep after a stressful day.

No matter what the issue and reason is, communication is key. Maybe there is a mental blockade, maybe there is some fetish that they want to try out, maybe there are issues in the relationship, stress at work, money issues, fear of failure. They'll only find out and eventually solve the issue if they talk about it.

A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect and communication, both inside and outside the bedroom.
 

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I will say the same as I said in Dana's thread:

As women we cannot give an accurate answer in regards of ALL men, and there are men who will lie about if they do or do not watch it, fearing judgment and such.

Watching porn is ok, imo, and it shouldn't have a negative effect on the women's self esteem just because the man watches it. Just because he watches some doesn't mean he doesn't desire her. And if he PREFERS porn when he has a willing female at his disposal then more than likely there is something wrong with his wiring, rather than something wrong with the woman, tho I am not saying this is always the case.

There can be a multitude of reasons.The human psyche is very complicated and problems from any area of life can have a negative effect on the libido and sexual performance ability of both men and women. In this case porn can be a way to get release and pleasure without the pressure and fear of failure.

Another thing to consider is that sex is give and take, you have to pay attention to your partner. In a loving relationship you'd feel guilty if you just used your partner for your own pleasure and ignored theirs completely, leaving them frustrated, unsatisfied and maybe even questioning their worth and the relationship. And in cause of a hand job or oral sex there is also the prospect of "owning one" to the partner. In light of this, masturbating to porn is a much simple and a purely selfish notion. It is all about you, your pleasure, your release. And sometimes it is not even about the pleasure, but about being bored out of your mind, or heck, the inability to fall asleep after a stressful day.

No matter what the issue and reason is, communication is key. Maybe there is a mental blockade, maybe there is some fetish that they want to try out, maybe there are issues in the relationship, stress at work, money issues, fear of failure. They'll only find out and eventually solve the issue if they talk about it.

A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect and communication, both inside and outside the bedroom.
 

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I will say the same as I said in Dana's thread:

As women we cannot give an accurate answer in regards of ALL men, and there are men who will lie about if they do or do not watch it, fearing judgment and such.

Watching porn is ok, imo, and it shouldn't have a negative effect on the women's self esteem just because the man watches it. Just because he watches some doesn't mean he doesn't desire her. And if he PREFERS porn when he has a willing female at his disposal then more than likely there is something wrong with his wiring, rather than something wrong with the woman, tho I am not saying this is always the case.

There can be a multitude of reasons.The human psyche is very complicated and problems from any area of life can have a negative effect on the libido and sexual performance ability of both men and women. In this case porn can be a way to get release and pleasure without the pressure and fear of failure.

Another thing to consider is that sex is give and take, you have to pay attention to your partner. In a loving relationship you'd feel guilty if you just used your partner for your own pleasure and ignored theirs completely, leaving them frustrated, unsatisfied and maybe even questioning their worth and the relationship. And in cause of a hand job or oral sex there is also the prospect of "owning one" to the partner. In light of this, masturbating to porn is a much simple and a purely selfish notion. It is all about you, your pleasure, your release. And sometimes it is not even about the pleasure, but about being bored out of your mind, or heck, the inability to fall asleep after a stressful day.

No matter what the issue and reason is, communication is key. Maybe there is a mental blockade, maybe there is some fetish that they want to try out, maybe there are issues in the relationship, stress at work, money issues, fear of failure. They'll only find out and eventually solve the issue if they talk about it.

A healthy relationship is built on trust, respect and communication, both inside and outside the bedroom.

VERY well said! I think this sums up the entire topic perfectly!
 

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And if he PREFERS porn when he has a willing female at his disposal then more than likely there is something wrong with his wiring, rather than something wrong with the woman, tho I am not saying this is always the case.
I think you'll find that men who prefer porn to having sex with their wives have lost physical attraction to their wives.

There is a growing obesity rate for women
 

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Some people also find skinny women not attractive, or women with red hair, or women with large asses or tits, or women with blue eyes. Everybody is different. *shrugs*

There isn't a monopoly on what "everyone" finds attractive.
 

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By and large, men do not find obese/overweight women attractive unless they themselves are obese/overweight. Even then they prefer skinnier women.
 

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I think you'll find that men who prefer porn to having sex with their wives have lost physical attraction to their wives.

There is a growing obesity rate for women

I think some watch it even when they have a healthy sexual relationship
Same goes we are going to look at the cheer leaders and that nice butt walking down the street.
Heighten our interest for later so to say.
But that brings a good question
I wonder how many relationships fail sexually not due to a physical problems but from having hurt each other/Therefore having hate or no interest in the mate.
Porn would ensue ...at this point should he or she hide it?....after all the feelings between the two are already gone
 

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Are you the spokesperson for every single man?

You're kidding yourself if you think most men like fat women


I'm not trying to come off as rude but this is 100% common sense if you look at who men find desirable most of the time.
 
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