Depression

[Rusteh]

Have any of you had to fight depression before? If so I'm curious how u battled or still continue to battle it.

 

[Sim]

I haven't had the battle personally, but I've watched many people battle it out with different methods and conquer it.

What do you need to know about it?

 

[Haus]

do you take any anti depressant medicine?

 

[TheOriginalJames]

I battle it every so often.

I just try to hide it usually. I usually want to go do something, but on the same token I never do. So I end up sitting here depressed not realizing until afterwards all I'd have to do is call my friends. Usually one of them is free to chill.

I'm sure suicide will come up in this thread eventually, so I'll just say this. I have thought about it... but would never go through with it. Ever, for several reasons.

I also think I'm bi polar. I get pissed off and a few hours later I'm happier than hell for no reason.

 

[Haus]

yeah i was told when i was a kid

"a permanent solution is not the answer to a temporary problem"

 

[Mrs Behavin]

Ive never dealt with depression myself.
I use to take Xanax for stress a couple years ago, but I only took it for like 6 months and then quit. I didnt wanna get addicted to taking medicine like that for long periods of time.

 

[Jersey]

go see someone... i was a psych major.. and the worst thing you can do is allow your friends to diagnose you... WORST mistake ever... and yes- i have- therapy helped (and the meds help to stabilize ya) but that depends on the situation and why you are feeling depressed these days :dunno

 

[Sim]

You mean the next to worst thing is have your friends diagnose you. Worst thing is having psych students give you a dx. *winks*

If you think you have a problem, then you've taken the first step. Second step is to find a primary care physician that you can talk to and trust. From there, s/he will either treat you there, or will send you to a reputable psychiatrist/psychotherapist for treatment.

While you can beat this alone, it's much better to have a team fighting beside you.

And as for suicide...I've tried it a few times. But never for depression. First time, I was 12, and my best friend died in my arms. Second time, was last year when my headache refused to subside. Third time, same reason. Thankfully, my headaches have been controlled as of late.

 

[Legoman]

Meh, you just have to have some support from either some REALLY good friends or family. My brother is always too happy-happy-joy/comical to be serious with me so my closest bet would be to go to one of my best friends. It's one of those people that you've known for many years and you are bound to have things in common, especially things that cause you to become depressed. I guess it just depends on how serious your depression is. I mean, by the looks of this thread - many people have some very troublesome issues, specifically attempting suicide which to my belief is completely absurd. Whatever is troubling you that is causing depression can always be dealt with. So figure out exactly what is causing this and work it out from there. The best way to deal with it is simply not to think about it.

 

[Sim]

Re: RE: Depression

Yeah...because we all want for Rusteh to just explode when he hits 30 because he suppressed everything... *coughs*

Not the best advice given there.

The best way to deal with it is simply not to think about it.

 

[Jersey]

yea- thats borderline the worst advice ive EVER seen :dunno

 

[Haus]

yeah that doesnt do to good for most people like me. im like a pressure cooker. i can only take so much until explode. been like that since i can remember. maybe since i was 14 or 15 years old. usally once a month i would blow up in school and get suspended for a 5 days. so all im sayings its not to good to let it bottle up in side. someone could set you off and it could be over. so let it out anyway you can thats safe and doesnt harm you or others. that could be hard with being depressed but find something that works for you.

but just get checked out. if your up and down you could be a manic depressive AKA bipolar. who knows till you get checked out by a professional.

 

[Eyes To Zion]

I did off and on. I just basically stopped giving a shit and let the anger go where it wants/needs to go. You'd be suprised how much that helps, not holding in the negative feelings. And why should you? They're not your failt.

 

[ProjectMayhem]

When I was 17 I was hospitalized for depression, or as my psychologist diagnosed "schizoaffective disorder". Some people will tell you that it's hereditary, and sometimes, like Sim mentioned, it could be the result of something terrifying in your life that triggers it. I personally think it was both of these things for me. My mother, though she would never admit it, is depressed. Her younger sister is actually in a mental institution in South Dakota right this moment for trying to kill her son since she thought he was "the Devil reincarnated". She supposedly heard voices that told her to kill him. My sister was even hospitalized in Atlanta when she was 14 for the same thing that I was hospitalized for. Knowing that my family history has a long list of mental and medical problems that's just what I blamed my depression on- heredity. I was in Windwood Psychiatric Hospital in Rome, GA at least 3 times over the course of 18 months before I told myself that it wasn't going to just go away on its own. No matter how many times I talked to someone about what was going on all they would do was listen and nod thier head, not give advice on what I should do. After being doped up on meds all the time, not being able to concentrate in school, and having to keep in touch with a psychiatrist every other week, I came to the conclusion that if I wanted to help myself get better I had to find it within myself to change. The medication did nothing but make me into a fake person. I quit taking them but didn't tell my doctor, and I started thinking differently, acting differently, even dressing differently. After 2 months of me taking control of my mind and my life my doctor said that she had noticed a huge difference in me and that I could stop taking the meds if I felt comfortable with it. I didn't tell her that I had stopped them months earlier, but it made me feel so good to know that I done that myself. When I found myself getting depressed about something I would either call my best friend to come get me, chill with my dad and watch TV with him, or I would write a letter to my sister. I had to get into a very positive frame of mind, as cheesy as it sounds, and it honestly worked for me. Here I am 5 years later, and when I tell people about what happened with me they don't really believe me considering the person I am now. There are times that I feel I could relapse, and I do momentarily for a day or two, but I pull myself up before I get bogged down too heavily with it. If you have never experienced real depression before it is very frustrating, nerve-wracking, and something you never want to deal with, but if you have dealt with it, or are dealing with it, then you know exactly what I am talking about. I'm not telling you to NOT get help if you are depressed, but from what I have experienced it's really something you must do for yourself. I'm no professioal psychologist, but I know what worked for me.

 

[MrAWatts]

I'm depressed. What do I do? Sit around all the time thinking about how life sucks, and listen to sad/angry music. I haven't offed myself, so I suppose that works fine.

 

[Rusteh]

my issue is i'm too analytical...i've talken to numerous professionals and to be honest...i've confused the majority of them. I've been suggested medication but i refuse to take medication because i've seen and experienced some of the worst affects medication can do.

As far as the suicide issue is i've tried numerous times...and failed all those times obviously...either from somebody inhibiting my efforts or i screwed up in my attempt...regardless i'm still here and i'm not going no where...i've come to the realization that suicide is easily not the answer so that's nothing anybody should be concerned about.

I've basically been depressed since I was about 16...i've been dealing with this problem for so long that i've learned how to fake being happy for my friend's and family's sake. The worst thing I can do is make people worry about me....now after saying that i do consider a few of u as good people...almost even friend like, but you guys are still somewhat strangers and i was kinda hoping i was going to get some objective opinions and i have gotten them and i thank you for that.

I've always been the person that helps others but never understood how to help myself mentally. I dont' really know why i said alot of this, but mostly just to give some background, i guess my goal was to see how any of you have dealt with this to see if there is something i haven't attempted.

 

[Haus]

well if your feeling this way you got to find a medicine that helps you. some medicine out there does more harm than good for a certain illness. it has the opposite effects on some people. im not going to get into detail but i know this for a fact. that kind of medicine wont cure you most likely but it will help you get through so you dont feel that way constantley.

 

[MrAWatts]

Most of the medicine really just gives you a false sense of happyness, then when it wears off you are right back where you started.

 

[Mrs Behavin]

Rusteh, please do not ever attempt suicide, please? I have never personally met you and Im not a Dr, but, from chatting with you in the chat room and reading your posts here, you are an awfully nice guy with lots of intelligenceand I can see you have alot to offer. I know hearing that doesnt make your situation better but if someone who has never met you likes you that much....just imagine how the people who you do know feel about you and what you would do to them by committing suicide. Its not worth it.
Most people with depression never seek help, even though the majority will respond to treatment. Treating depression is especially important because it affects you, your family, and your work. Some people with depression try to harm themselves in the mistaken belief that how they are feeling will never change. Depression is a treatable illness.

 

[Rusteh]

Re: RE: Depression

Depression is a treatable illness.

i believe that...but why even when i speak to proffesionals that it seems like i'm a unique case or some sort of new type of depression?


and don't worry...i've given up on suicide because as i said before...i care for my friends and family and wouldn't want to wish any sadness on them...so for their sake i don't even consider suicide anymore. so that's sort of a mute issue these days.