Could you move on from cheating?
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Pierre Eustache
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If you want a new start, you'd better start to trust people only up to 80%! Sometimes, it is occasion that makes people cheat on you, don't give the occasion by trusting at 100%! That way, you can forgive when someone cheat on you; but i don't think we should forget, it will help us to know what kind of relationship we can have with each and everyone!
To forgive for real, you must first find a reason; try to understand why that person cheated and imagine yourself; would you resist or did that person respect you as much as you trust him? Then, build the respect, make it mutual!
To forgive for real, you must first find a reason; try to understand why that person cheated and imagine yourself; would you resist or did that person respect you as much as you trust him? Then, build the respect, make it mutual!
MainerMikeBrown
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Although I don't think that the idea "Once a cheater, always a cheater" is always the case with cheaters, I'd never be able to trust a woman who cheated on me.
Besides, their's a lot of women who wouldn't cheat on me. So I don't want to waste my time dating a woman who had cheated on me.
Besides, their's a lot of women who wouldn't cheat on me. So I don't want to waste my time dating a woman who had cheated on me.
HELLOnamesdana
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It depends on how the cheating took place and the relationship. It also depends on the people involved.
Personally, if I were dating a guy and he made out with another girl or even hooked up with them, I'd be hurt but I'd get over it.
Personally, if I were dating a guy and he made out with another girl or even hooked up with them, I'd be hurt but I'd get over it.
Mockingbird
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Cheating does effect you, sometimes forever, but that does not mean that you have to let it destroy you. Trust is earned, it probably is not a good idea to trust anyone 100%. I think about it this way, back in medieval times your own family might kill you to have your place in succession. It is probably a very wise idea to keep that in your mind even today, it is sad but there is no shortage of terrible TV shows that let people know how awful couples that confess love to each other can really be. I myself will always be a romantic at heart, but even with that I do not just except anything a lover says as anything more than a probability of truth. Experience decides how much one should trust and believe.
I don't think I could move on. In any case, I'd hate to become a bitter and suspicious person and staying in a relationship where the trust had been destroyed would soon turn me into one.
I have a friend who "forgave and forgot". She now spends most of her time rifling through her BF's phone and examining every single "like" he gives on Facebook. I'd hate to end up like that.
I have a friend who "forgave and forgot". She now spends most of her time rifling through her BF's phone and examining every single "like" he gives on Facebook. I'd hate to end up like that.
Everyone is different and not all can move on from a cheating relationship. I was cheated on about 10 years ago. I was truly heartbroken. If there ever was a time when my heart was ripped out of me and I was in a deep dark area in my life..........this was it. It was the essential definition of depression.
As time and years go by, things got better. I learned to move on and try to pick up the pieces that was once my love life. There were a few girls that touched my heart but never got to where my ex was at. I did change after the initial break up. I was now on the defense and had my guards up all times. Being heartbroken is the reason why I came to be that way. I didn't want to be hurt again, and the way I dealt with that was to never let girls get to that point where they could hurt me again.
I think I have found someone that could be close to me again. But time will tell. I'm not impatient on the matter. I'm taking it slow to not repeat past mistakes.
As time and years go by, things got better. I learned to move on and try to pick up the pieces that was once my love life. There were a few girls that touched my heart but never got to where my ex was at. I did change after the initial break up. I was now on the defense and had my guards up all times. Being heartbroken is the reason why I came to be that way. I didn't want to be hurt again, and the way I dealt with that was to never let girls get to that point where they could hurt me again.
I think I have found someone that could be close to me again. But time will tell. I'm not impatient on the matter. I'm taking it slow to not repeat past mistakes.
gata montes
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As I regard trust as a key element in any relationship and therefore wouldn't even contemplate having a relationship with someone I couldn't trust - I wouldn't be staying with someone that cheated on me - in fact as I don't believe in wasting my time dwelling on something that has happened or that can't be changed either - as life is way, way too short for that - they'd be out of my life in a heartbeat - as I would much rather be single than be with someone who didn't respect me or value our relationship.
Particularly as - although its often possible to be able to forgive - it is very difficult if not virtually impossible to ever be able to trust someone again after they have betrayed you - regardless of the reasons or circumstances.
Particularly as - although its often possible to be able to forgive - it is very difficult if not virtually impossible to ever be able to trust someone again after they have betrayed you - regardless of the reasons or circumstances.
Forgiveness is a personal decision, and everyone's experience and viewpoint are unique. It's understood that infidelity in a relationship might be tough to forgive and move on from. It is critical to prioritize your emotional well-being and choose what is best for you.
If you decide to forgive your spouse, you must communicate openly and honestly about the circumstance and the reasons for their behavior. Couples therapy or counseling may also be beneficial in resolving the issues that led to the infidelity and restoring trust.
However, it is also acceptable to determine that forgiveness is not possible and that the relationship cannot be salvaged. It is critical to do what is best for oneself and to resist cultural pressure.
If you decide to forgive your spouse, you must communicate openly and honestly about the circumstance and the reasons for their behavior. Couples therapy or counseling may also be beneficial in resolving the issues that led to the infidelity and restoring trust.
However, it is also acceptable to determine that forgiveness is not possible and that the relationship cannot be salvaged. It is critical to do what is best for oneself and to resist cultural pressure.
LOL - nah, I can forgive but not forget!
Cheating is a bit of a kick in the nuts - I’ve never really understood what the need to hurt someone is so bad that, cheating was the only option.
Talk to the SO, if the “love” isn’t there anymore be a respectable human being and at least say:
“Hey, this just isn’t doing it for me anymore”
Cheating is a bit of a kick in the nuts - I’ve never really understood what the need to hurt someone is so bad that, cheating was the only option.
Talk to the SO, if the “love” isn’t there anymore be a respectable human being and at least say:
“Hey, this just isn’t doing it for me anymore”
Forgiving a partner who cheats is something that is never easy, cheating breaks trust. Building back that trust is never easy. I believe we should try our best to forgive a partner who cheats, especially if the partner has remorse. Its not going to be easy but its the right thing to do.
astutimeliana723
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I hate cheating, if my partner cheats on me and he's really sorry I'll give him a second chance, but if it happens a third time I won't take it back.
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