Can rape victims have a successful relationship?

[Donnajoe]

I think I agree with what most people here have said, about how someone can get over it. I mean... it does take a while, but one can eventually figure out that there are good people out there, too. I'd say there's probably plenty of creeps out there but they're not all creeps.

However, I wonder if it's possible that perhaps... sometimes anyway... a victim could be easily distrusting and suspicious of even the people they care about or grow close too. Like... I dunno... maybe there might also be this thing they feel, at least subconsciously, where if they push the person away or even act a bit mean sometimes... maybe it feels like
they may be protecting themselves, or somehow getting even or something, even if they aren't hurting the original attacker but themselves and the person who cares about them.

Heh, hope that paragraph made sense although i think my meaning there is clear.

 

[missanonymous]

Your question requires one answer... YES. As long as that person is strong enough.

 

[boatmom1957]

From my experience, yes, buts it's very difficult.
Lots of issues come with. Something you once loved now makes you want to hurl. And the thought of being touched just creeps you out. It is no fun.

 

[gLing]

can victims of rape possibly have a good relationship with someone?

Yes they can.

 

[Unreserved]

Depends on the person but course they can.

 

[pinkporridge]

i think the thought of being intimate with any1 ever again would be unbareable.. i think it is somehting that EVENTUALLY u will come to terms with but it would take time... in that situation i would not rush into nething and if i met any1 i thought i could have a relationship with it would have to be taken very slow so i could regain some trust... wow that is sad u would even have to do that.. it sounds just horrible..not trusting any1....ok so what about men.. if is man is raped.. i understand it effects them just as badly..and makes them feel un masculin/week.. would they find it easy to be in a successful relationship?

 

[Natasha]

Honestly, I think it's harder for men who are raped than women. Male rape victims are ashamed (just like women) but they have the added trauma of being thought of (by some people, not all) as weak or whatever. Also, not a lot of attention is focused on male rape victims b/c as far as statistics go, it's not as common. There's no telling how many men who are raped don't report it out of fear of being ridiculed. No rape victim is less important than the other...they have all been violated and should be handled w/ care. If you can find a partner that can help w/ getting over the trauma and moving on, then a successful relationship isn't out of reach.