Can rape victims have a successful relationship?

[Donnajoe]

Kind of a... well, dark topic or whatever, but yeah, I guess I thought it might make an interesting discussion because... let's face it, it does happen.

What I want to ask is... can victims of rape possibly have a good relationship with someone? Or do you think the incident would leave the victims too damaged?

Discuss.

 

[wildcat52]

ive never been raped.
ill say that right now.
ive been everything around that.
ive been verbally abused, ive been hit a few times but nothing extremely damaging to my body.
ive been sexually abused in past "relationships" and ive been sexually harassed.
and i know it was hard and still is at times for me to trust. i get flashbacks and still get freaked out.

i cant imagine being raped though... it is solely up to the person though.
the decide to carry on, not the new person, or the rapist.

 

[AuronKae]

It's an interesting topic. What if you've been raped before? How much of a scar would it leave on you, and for how long? It all depends on the person and the rate their emotional damage would heal, if ever. Their lifestyle, their family, and relationships would depend on their rate of healing more than just about anything, too. If you get raped, yes, you will be slow to trust, yeah, you'll probably see the raper's face everywhere you go, yeah, you might be afraid to go to sleep at night or stay out too late in the evening. But like WildCat says, it's solely up to the person. You can choose to be depressed about it, or you could return to a normal lifestyle. There is no definite answer to the questions.

 

[wildcat52]

i mean you would be scarred.
i would feel nervous around strange men.
but one would have to move on.
not every man is a sick freak.

 

[AuronKae]

Just try and follow your gut instincts, I think. You think the guy is weird, don't go anywhere alone with him or surrounded by his buds.

 

[CrazyFanWriter]

Since I've never been raped, I can't give a clear opinion on this, but it depends on alot of things. For one, how fragile the person was before the rape, and also it would depend on who raped them. If it was a direct family member, it might be pretty bad, and also depends on how your family is, and how old you are...because sometimes, the mind can block it out, as to where you can't even remember it but it still has negative affects on you.

Can you get into a relationship after a rape? Hmmm, welll...as corny as this may sound, IF you find someone you can really trust and love, and they trust and love you back, I'd say it would be possible but also it just depends on so much, and relationships are complicated things in the first place, but thats another discussion.

 

[Dana]

wouldn't know...

 

[Mystic]

the answer is yes.

 

[Goat Whisperer]

I think the only person who can answer that is the person who was raped.

 

[Zorak]

I think the only person who can answer that is the person who was raped.

:homo: and then only for themselves

 

[Peter Parka]

I think the only person who can answer that is the person who was raped.

:homo:X2:nod:

 

[wednesday]

the answer is yes.

:homo:...why not??

 

[KittyKatM]

I Have, Not Wanting To Go Into Detail It Has Scarred Me For Life But I Have A Sucessfull Relationship With Dave Now

 

[Peter Parka]

I Have, Not Wanting To Go Into Detail It Has Scarred Me For Life But I Have A Sucessfull Relationship With Dave Now

Great! I'm glad you can move on even though I imagine you bear a pain which will never fully go away.

 

[valley]

If a person can heal emotionally from rape then there is nothing stopping them from having a successful relationship. A woman has to choose to let it go and move on so she does not give her attacker the power to ruin her life. Women are very strong emotionally and can bounce back from just about anything, imo.

 

[KittyKatM]

I Think That The Will Power Has To Be Strong Enough, I'm Determined To Have A Good Life Despite The Past, I Know I'm Lucky To Have Found A Guy Like Dave And Im Gonna Treasure Him Forever, He Has Helped Me To Get Over Everything, Obviously I Will Never Comletely Recover because It Was Terrifying But Im Never Gonna Let It Ruin MY Life Cos I Make My Own Path

 

[SouthOfHeaven]

You can go on and have a successful relationship.. I won't by any means call it normal.. Some things triggers emotions .. sents memories.. and that might throw you off for a lil bit.. but you can have a happy and healthy relationship after being raped .. most people its just going to take sometime..

 

[GraceAbounds]

If a person can heal emotionally from rape then there is nothing stopping them from having a successful relationship. A woman has to choose to let it go and move on so she does not give her attacker the power to ruin her life. Women are very strong emotionally and can bounce back from just about anything, imo.

:thumbup

 

[Mystic]

If a person can heal emotionally from rape then there is nothing stopping them from having a successful relationship. A woman has to choose to let it go and move on so she does not give her attacker the power to ruin her life. Women are very strong emotionally and can bounce back from just about anything, imo.

:thumbup:homo: Best put!

 

[Natasha]

Absolutely. Everybody is going to deal w/ things differently. For some women, being violated like that is something they can't get over and they can't bring themselves to trust anybody ever again. But I think for most women they eventually realize that the person responsible for their rape is NOT every man they meet and they have to start to trust again at some point.

I can't imagine anything worse than being violated in such a manner...but the thought of losing the ability to be in a loving, successful relationship is pretty bad.