Being single vs having failed relationships

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BadBoy

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Having been in a relationship/marriage for 20 years which ended anyway. Having tried to have another relationship, dating for the past 3 years after the divorce, I prefer to stay single.

I've never been happier, more contented and free as I am now. I can do whatever I want whenever i please without having to please or answer to someone . I love it. :nod:


Let's meet in Vegas and have some fun. :p


I like being free, but I can see how loneliness would drive people to be in relationships.
 

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It seriously bugs me to see women who think they can't live w/o a man. One relationship ends and they jump right into another one...and then repeat over and over again. They'll stay w/ guys they don't love b/c they say "I can't be alone." Don't be pathetic!!! If you rely on someone else to make you happy, you're already behind the 8-ball.

Pretty much :)

Tho, there has been one where I went from one to another. I'm still with that 'other' too.:ninja:cool But being on my own was cool too. I answered to no one but myself. Not counting the 16 years PS and I have been together, I was single more than in a relationship and liked it that way. I prided myself on the fact that I didn't need a man for anything. I could go into the woods by myself and have fun. Gun? Check. Sterno? Check. We're good to go. Could even set my tent up by myself.

That said, I'm glad I'm in a wonderful relationship. I don't feel I have given up my 'independence' but truly gained a partner.

Perhaps, if I'd never had those years of independence, I'd be more (what's the word I'm looking for?) needy? Looking for a man to (what's this word I'm looking for?) make it all better? I don't know. I just know that I wouldn't be the partner I am today had I not stood on my own two feet for years. He completes me. hehehehehehehehe..... he does make it all better. Even kisses my booboo's when needed ;) I enjoy being his ball & chain :D:cool:ninja He may say differently ;):24::ninja

Singledom has it's perks. If you're single. Embrace it.

Ah, speak of the Devil..... He's home from work...... cya.
 

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I was pretty much engaged to my high school sweet heart. She went away for the summer and never came back (met someone else). I told myself because I was always with someone since junior high that I would be single for a year. It was awsome. So much fun. It took several months for me to get used to the heart break of loosing someone I was with for three years. Well worth it. In that year I learned alout about myself. Also loved talking to ladies again. Never took it past acouple dates. Had fun. After the year was up I met my now wife. I am only 27 I met her when I was 20 but I know I am done for the rest of my life. Beyond lucky to have her in my life. She has made me a better person and showed my how to enjoy the little things in life. She is my teammate. So to answear the question put your neck on the line and give love a chance. You might find the person to spend your life with. To share with. Just enjoy the ride it take to get there. Ya win some and you loose some. Like Dana said you don't know till you try.
 

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Pretty much :)

Tho, there has been one where I went from one to another. I'm still with that 'other' too.:ninja:cool But being on my own was cool too. I answered to no one but myself. Not counting the 16 years PS and I have been together, I was single more than in a relationship and liked it that way. I prided myself on the fact that I didn't need a man for anything. I could go into the woods by myself and have fun. Gun? Check. Sterno? Check. We're good to go. Could even set my tent up by myself.

That said, I'm glad I'm in a wonderful relationship. I don't feel I have given up my 'independence' but truly gained a partner.

Perhaps, if I'd never had those years of independence, I'd be more (what's the word I'm looking for?) needy? Looking for a man to (what's this word I'm looking for?) make it all better? I don't know. I just know that I wouldn't be the partner I am today had I not stood on my own two feet for years. He completes me. hehehehehehehehe..... he does make it all better. Even kisses my booboo's when needed ;) I enjoy being his ball & chain :D:cool:ninja He may say differently ;):24::ninja

Singledom has it's perks. If you're single. Embrace it.

Ah, speak of the Devil..... He's home from work...... cya.

:yuk:yuk;):jk
 

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I've been married once for 17 years now. I dated a lot of women before that and was in two serious relationships that eventually ended. I don't consider a relationship that ends as a failure though. We broke up nice and had a lot of fun while it lasted.
 

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Pretty much :)

Tho, there has been one where I went from one to another. I'm still with that 'other' too.:ninja:cool But being on my own was cool too. I answered to no one but myself. Not counting the 16 years PS and I have been together, I was single more than in a relationship and liked it that way. I prided myself on the fact that I didn't need a man for anything. I could go into the woods by myself and have fun. Gun? Check. Sterno? Check. We're good to go. Could even set my tent up by myself.

That said, I'm glad I'm in a wonderful relationship. I don't feel I have given up my 'independence' but truly gained a partner.

Perhaps, if I'd never had those years of independence, I'd be more (what's the word I'm looking for?) needy? Looking for a man to (what's this word I'm looking for?) make it all better? I don't know. I just know that I wouldn't be the partner I am today had I not stood on my own two feet for years. He completes me. hehehehehehehehe..... he does make it all better. Even kisses my booboo's when needed ;) I enjoy being his ball & chain :D:cool:ninja He may say differently ;):24::ninja

Singledom has it's perks. If you're single. Embrace it.

So perfectly well put.

I had a feeling my wife could be "the one" on our first date when she told me her dad had wanted her to take a gun with her when she moved south LOL She could also drive my standard shift truck:thumbup
 

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Pretty much :)

Tho, there has been one where I went from one to another. I'm still with that 'other' too.:ninja:cool But being on my own was cool too. I answered to no one but myself. Not counting the 16 years PS and I have been together, I was single more than in a relationship and liked it that way. I prided myself on the fact that I didn't need a man for anything. I could go into the woods by myself and have fun. Gun? Check. Sterno? Check. We're good to go. Could even set my tent up by myself.

That said, I'm glad I'm in a wonderful relationship. I don't feel I have given up my 'independence' but truly gained a partner.

Perhaps, if I'd never had those years of independence, I'd be more (what's the word I'm looking for?) needy? Looking for a man to (what's this word I'm looking for?) make it all better? I don't know. I just know that I wouldn't be the partner I am today had I not stood on my own two feet for years. He completes me. hehehehehehehehe..... he does make it all better. Even kisses my booboo's when needed ;) I enjoy being his ball & chain :D:cool:ninja He may say differently ;):24::ninja

Singledom has it's perks. If you're single. Embrace it.

Ah, speak of the Devil..... He's home from work...... cya.

Hi Lady
:waving:
 

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Would you rather be always single or have relationships that always fail? Which is the lesser of two evils?
Here's my honest to god answer.
I would rather be in multiple failed relationships. I am a co-dependent person, I have come to terms with that.
It's healthier to accept when being alone, its just not easy for some, like myself
 

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I'd rather have a mix of the two. Failed relationships are good for experience etc as others have pointed out but I wouldn't want to be in failed relationships all the time. I'd happily be single inbetween them and give myself time to clear my mind and go over what happened before putting myself back out there.

I find that most of the people I know who keep having shit relationships that are doomed to failure is because they don't give themselves a chance to breathe and to see what went wrong and to learn from their mistakes (eg the type of guy they are going for might not be right for them). They can't bear to be single and as a result just go for the first person that gives them the slightest attention.
 

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There's no reason to be single nowadays when you can get both companionship and sexual pleasure from dolphins :D
 
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