Being single vs having failed relationships

[freakofnature]

So...I was pondering this as I was filling the water tank before going out to water the pasture horses. Which situation would you rather be in? Would you rather be always single or have relationships that always fail? Which is the lesser of two evils?

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[jassilem]

Relationship... Mostly because even if it turns pear shaped there was good at some point. *shrugs*

 

[BleedingBull]

single, I dont need the stress I can function alone and there is plenty of toys to fill the um gap lol so to speak.

 

[retro]

They both blow.

 

[Demonica69]

single, I dont need the stress I can function alone and there is plenty of toys to fill the um gap lol so to speak.

LMAO Great point :clap

 

[Natasha]

It seriously bugs me to see women who think they can't live w/o a man. One relationship ends and they jump right into another one...and then repeat over and over again. They'll stay w/ guys they don't love b/c they say "I can't be alone." Don't be pathetic!!! If you rely on someone else to make you happy, you're already behind the 8-ball.

 

[Joey]

Relationship... Mostly because even if it turns pear shaped there was good at some point. *shrugs*

:shesaid

Plus your more likely to get some nooky.

 

[purpledove]

It seriously bugs me to see women who think they can't live w/o a man. One relationship ends and they jump right into another one...and then repeat over and over again. They'll stay w/ guys they don't love b/c they say "I can't be alone." Don't be pathetic!!! If you rely on someone else to make you happy, you're already behind the 8-ball.

:shesaid

 

[HK]

Depends.

If you mean for a portion of your life you can either be single or try and fail at relationships then I'd take the relationships - practice is no bad thing for when you meet the real thing.

But if you mean would rather be single forever or have relationships that always fail and never work out, I'd take singledom. It'd be horrible to die alone, wondering where all those relationships went wrong - I'd rather be alone from the start.

 

[purpledove]

Having been in a relationship/marriage for 20 years which ended anyway. Having tried to have another relationship, dating for the past 3 years after the divorce, I prefer to stay single.

I've never been happier, more contented and free as I am now. I can do whatever I want whenever i please without having to please or answer to someone . I love it. :nod:

 

[Joey]

Having been in a relationship/marriage for 20 years which ended anyway. Having tried to have another relationship, dating for the past 3 years after the divorce, I prefer to stay single.

I've never been happier, more contented and free as I am now. I can do whatever I want whenever i please without having to please or answer to someone . I love it. :nod:

Good for you! I've been single for 10months and I'm in no rush to get back into a relationship, but I am only 22 so the world is my oyster.

 

[Zorak]

I'd rather live a little. So failed relationships.

 

[Niamh]

Well I consider my relationship with my husband to be very good, I think some of that is down to the fact that I learned alot from failed relationships. I'm not saying that I would rather be in constant bad relationships than be on my own but I do think that learning from mistakes made in bad relationships can do alot of good in other relationships

 

[AnitaBeer]

I respect myself too much to put myself through relationships that will always fail. It would be the single life for me.

 

[Panacea]

It depends on how they fail. If they fail because each guy is an abusive mind fuck, then no, I'd rather be single. If they fail because we eventually fall out of love and grow apart, then I would be happy to have those relationships.

I can easily be alone, but I don't prefer it. I enjoy relationships.

 

[Aeval]

So is it "better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all?"

I don't know...I never minded being single, but I think the failed relationships that I did have taught me something and for me, I think that's what life is all about...learning and growing. What good is it playing it safe, i.e. being single and not taking chances.

 

[Siphorous]

I'm in the Tennyson quote camp that Aeval mentioned.

The poem is about death but I guess one could count the end of the relationship as a form of 'death'.

Yeah, it hurts like a mofo and the memories are always there but one can choose to remember the good things too which is what I've tried to do. Sometimes, it is easier said than done though.

 

[freakofnature]

I have been single my entire life. Most of the time I'm cool with it. I like the freedom and I've always been a loner anyway. I see what others go through when relationships turn sour and I think to myself that I'm so glad I don't have to deal with that crap. Having never been in a relationship, I can't compare between a failed relationship or no relationship at all. Would I rather deal with the heartache of breaking up or the heartache of being unloved? Both imply certain levels of unacceptability. Would you rather be tested and found wanting or just never tested at all? In the end I think I'd go with the familiar and just be single forever.

 

[Staci]

with failed relationships you should learn what happened and improve for the next one. up until my mid 20's i always thought that i had to have a man in my life for me to be something or somebody. reality gave me a life lesson. at that point i learned to love myself. so i could go either way on this topic

 

[Dana]

I'd rather have 20 failed relationships than have never tried at all.