Being Left Out

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KLD1019

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Im the youngest of 3. my brother and sister are 8 and 9 years older than i am. it was nice growing up. there was never any sibling rivalry cause we werent close enough in age to fight over things. i never whined to do what they were doing cause, again i was too young/they were to old to even be interested in the same things.

Now we are all adults, all married, all have kids, all have the same likes and dislikes (for the most part anyway). and now, im starting to feel left out. they (brother, sister and spouses) are always doing things together. going out to eat, going to eachothers houses for things to do, going on vacations together, etc. brother and SIL are alwasy inviting sister and BIL to do stuff. I found out last week that they are going to the Ren. Fest, getting hotel rooms and stayin for a few days. earlier in the year, brother and SIL invited sister and BIL to go to Vegas for the weekend. tonight, sister and BIL are going over to brother and SIL's house for UFC party. found out on FB. now i know for sure SIL and my sister dont like UFC. neither do i. so, where was my invite?! Id like to go over and hang out. i live 10 minutes away, sister and hubby live 45 minutes away.

My mom is like "well they are closer in age" WTF!? that shouldnt matter!! we (me and hubby) like to go out to eat, we like to go on weekend vacations, we like to get out of the house for a little get together. we like to do everything that brother and SIL are inviting sister and BIL to do!! But yet, no invites for us! The thing is, when we have family gatherings, we all get along just fine and can sit and talk about the same stuff for hours!! :shrug:
 
Do u think they had been used to you and your husband maybe making plans on your own? That they figured, if you guys wanna join them ( even without the invite, as i don' t think they were hiding it from you given it was @ Fb) that since you're family and live 10 mins away that anytime you guys can always go hang out together?! Would it be too much for you if you just invite yourself and then go from there? It's family anyway, right? :p
 
PurpleDove said:
Do u think they had been used to you and your husband maybe making plans on your own? That they figured, if you guys wanna join them ( even without the invite, as i don' t think they were hiding it from you given it was @ Fb) that since you're family and live 10 mins away that anytime you guys can always go hang out together?! Would it be too much for you if you just invite yourself and then go from there? It's family anyway, right? :p
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it wasnt on their FB. it was on my sisters. "going to my brothers house for a UFC party" i wouldnt consider that an invite
 
Their age may have more to do with it than you think though.

Because they're around the same age, they experienced the same experiences together and have more of a history together. They may have had a much easier time bonding with each other throughout childhood because of their age which reinforces their current good relationship. In since you are quite younger, they may just view you as the third wheel.

I have no siblings, so don't take my opinion as gold. :D
 
I hear ya. My brother and cousins always spend time together, my parents will go and see my brother at least once every two weeks. I guess it doesnt help they live in NSW and im in QLD but still it kinda hurts when they all tell me they caught up etc and Im left here on my own. Do what i do. THrow the focus to your kids, There are still people near you that need you the most
 
oh yeah, cant forget the invite to go on a week long cruise with them for SIL's sister's wedding. but sister and BIL arnt going cause its during easter.

and did i forget that brother and SIL PAY for sister and BIL's way on all these trips!?



me and my brother use to be REALLY close! we're not for some reason anymore
 
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