are people meant for long term relationships?

[Suzie]

I guess everyone is different. Maybe it has to do with self estteem? I could never do what Butterfly does. Or you Breakfast, you said you are open to your man having sex with someone else. Im not putting either of you down, since it seems like its working for both of you... and somethings not right with mine anyway! But, I would think, even if it is "just sex"...there has to be some feelings involved...or feelings could develope.

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

I'm not just open to him having sex with anyone else. But seeing as how I like women i dont think its fair if i can have fun and i dont let him participate. If I didn't like girls I wouldn't feel this way I think.

 

[GraceAbounds]

I believe it is easy for us to say we love someone when we don't have to make any sacrifices. I personally believe that part of love is sacrificing some of our selfish desires. I also believe that sacrifice builds compassion within us. I believe it builds a spirit of a servant and character which in turn makes us more attractive in the eyes of our mate.

I do believe we are meant to be monogamous relationships and that with it there will be pain. We are human and we are not without fault. We are going to hurt one another, but that hurt brings with it the opportunity for forgiveness and growth. It is in our pain that we are forced to move. Which direction we choose to move in is up to us. In other words we are driven to grow. Unfortunately, many people take the easy way out because they do not realize that pain is a part of life and that pain is a vessel for growth.

While I may not like 'hard times' in life or in relationships, when I look back on my life I realize it was in those times I grew and I dare not want to think of the person I'd be if I had not had those opportunities.

I've learned to stop fighting the hard times that come my way, not to say that I do not tire of them at times. I embrace them because I know that something beautiful can develop from difficulties. And when a couple realizes this together, the sky is the limit to level of closeness and intimacy they share.

 

[Suzie]

Your such an inspiration Grace!

 

[AUDRAA]

wow I really should have stayed out of this thread

 

[BreakfastSurreal]

ditto to what suzie said grace!

 

[TheOriginalJames]

Clare called me Amber's OH. I thought it meant Offtopicz Hoe...

:ninja :ninja

 

[IntruderLS1]

I believe it is easy for us to say we love someone when we don't have to make any sacrifices. I personally believe that part of love is sacrificing some of our selfish desires. I also believe that sacrifice builds compassion within us. I believe it builds a spirit of a servant and character which in turn makes us more attractive in the eyes of our mate.

I do believe we are meant to be monogamous relationships and that with it there will be pain. We are human and we are not without fault. We are going to hurt one another, but that hurt brings with it the opportunity for forgiveness and growth. It is in our pain that we are forced to move. Which direction we choose to move in is up to us. In other words we are driven to grow. Unfortunately, many people take the easy way out because they do not realize that pain is a part of life and that pain is a vessel for growth.

While I may not like 'hard times' in life or in relationships, when I look back on my life I realize it was in those times I grew and I dare not want to think of the person I'd be if I had not had those opportunities.

I've learned to stop fighting the hard times that come my way, not to say that I do not tire of them at times. I embrace them because I know that something beautiful can develop from difficulties. And when a couple realizes this together, the sky is the limit to level of closeness and intimacy they share.

I can't rep ya anymore today, but that is beautiful.

 

[icecuban]

I believe it is easy for us to say we love someone when we don't have to make any sacrifices. I personally believe that part of love is sacrificing some of our selfish desires. I also believe that sacrifice builds compassion within us. I believe it builds a spirit of a servant and character which in turn makes us more attractive in the eyes of our mate.

I do believe we are meant to be monogamous relationships and that with it there will be pain. We are human and we are not without fault. We are going to hurt one another, but that hurt brings with it the opportunity for forgiveness and growth. It is in our pain that we are forced to move. Which direction we choose to move in is up to us. In other words we are driven to grow. Unfortunately, many people take the easy way out because they do not realize that pain is a part of life and that pain is a vessel for growth.

While I may not like 'hard times' in life or in relationships, when I look back on my life I realize it was in those times I grew and I dare not want to think of the person I'd be if I had not had those opportunities.

I've learned to stop fighting the hard times that come my way, not to say that I do not tire of them at times. I embrace them because I know that something beautiful can develop from difficulties. And when a couple realizes this together, the sky is the limit to level of closeness and intimacy they share.

the best thing that could be written on the subject! thing is, to have that point of view, its good to have it before you get into the relationship, or else you find that some habits (mentally and physically) take some time, for some, a long time, to get rid of. Habits that will hurt the other person (even if they only happen in your own head without their knowledge) Love for the other person helps in overcoming this, but its love for yourself that one needs to contend with, and what habits we need to identify as distructive to ourselves and to our love (things we call "natural" sometimes). (---u already said all this, just much better then i have)
Im not saying that two people cant come together in the middle of a relationship and "realize this together", i could only hope for such thing.
But neither should someone just wait around for the other person, who will not choose to make the effort. to those people, wait, but dont wait too too long, think of your yourself or your kids, go out and create a better enviorment for you or them, so they dont have to stuggle so much through a half ass example of a marriage. two people who havent shared the great love, where they are totally one in another, arent really "divorcing" or "splitting" up anyways, because they were never really one entity to begin with. screw this many people are married and this many are divorced or whatever, because upon further inspection, how many people share the love that Grace speaks of? And its the love she speaks of that can only be deemed Marriage